Anonymous
08/02/2023 15:37
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Being a fat woman at the doctor is the worst thing you can possibly be. Especially if you try to talk about something other than your weight.
I’m fat and avoid the doctor because of this. They assume I’m lazy, dumb, and poor because of my weight.
+1000 This has been my experience too. It's awful.
Please don't avoid the doctor for this. My mom (who was just borderline overweight at age 63) avoided the doctor for years, and I am fairly confident that weight was the reason and she didn't want to step on the scale. Her breast cancer was discovered by her dermatologist. Fortunately mammograms don't require a doctor's order anymore, but that wasn't the case 20 years ago.
Unfortunately I have started avoiding. I really can't take the poor treatment anymore.
People are getting bad treatment for many reasons. Our only solution is to bring an advocate who will speak up for you, and put the doctors in their place - which is to heal you.
But sometimes their place is working with a different patient. If it's not a good fit, it's not a good fit. The relationship has to work both ways -- and with the exception of the Emergency Department, no doctor *has* to be your doctor any more than you *have* to be a patient for them.
Neither side gets to power trip, if the other one walks away. Both of you can walk away,
Anonymous
08/02/2023 15:11
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Absolutely. I always dress professionally or wear casual clothes like Patagonia or my college sweatshirt like a PP mentioned. I don’t go overboard as that can also backfire.
Doctors are just people, and people are judgmental. I don’t take chances. Unrelated, but Being Mortal is a book everyone should read. Talks a lot about how doctors are uncomfortable with death and conversations around that, just like us. Same goes for superficial assumptions and judgments.
Doctors are just people, and people are judgmental. I don’t take chances. Unrelated, but Being Mortal is a book everyone should read. Talks a lot about how doctors are uncomfortable with death and conversations around that, just like us. Same goes for superficial assumptions and judgments.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 15:07
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it as a woman but it depends on male vs. female drs. Male drs and nerdy female drs - I think they don't judge based on designer bags. As PPs have said, some of the men don't necessarily recognize designer purses or clothes at first sight. Nerdy female drs. may recognize them but just aren't impressed.
For those groups I feel like the judgment/quality of the interaction is much more based on what you do for a living. I feel like they treat white collar professionals and high earning professionals as smart. And while I guess they shouldn't know what you do for a living or where you went to college - I've had drs ask and then they spoke to me more like an equal once they realized I was a lawyer, went to an ivy etc. Some of this may be judgment, some of this may just be - I can go through this in detail with this person who will understand and/or know to ask questions if they don't understand.
Female drs who are fashionable/who consider themselves fashionable - yeah I feel they def judge on everything including clothes, shoes etc. GW had one of these in primary care and she was a nightmare and the reviews were so split. Half the reviews were OMG she's sooooo great, she explains everything, I totally trust her. Half were - she basically didn't speak to me, was condescending/rude. It was clear she was treating humans very differently based on her judgment. She has since moved onto another practice in the area.
This is interesting. I may change my profession title just a tad to see if the reaction is different. I do find I am asked my profession a lot more in recent years.
What's your profession? I agree with the PP - I feel like profession is asked as a "get to know you/small talk" question but really they're asking as they try to figure out how to categorize you, how they'll speak to you, how much detail you "deserve" etc. Some do go further with school esp in this area which is prestige oriented + so many people aren't from here. It's easy to be like so are you from the DMV originally? No, Phila - that's great, did you go to school there too, oh great - where, oh UPenn and suddenly the know your education and can decide you're very likely an upper middle class type. It's total BS. I've recently had a PCP NOT ask about my job and still treat me like an equal and that frankly surprised me, though she's based in McLean which made me wonder if she just assumes that people coming to her come from some means.
I totally believe it when I hear certain races say they are talked down to, treated as dumb - lots of drs are quick to judge.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:56
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you think you receive different medical care based on what you are wearing?
Do you always dress a certain way for medical appointments?
When my father had cancer, he was definitely judged by the hospital. He was older (93) and black. They assumed he didn't have medical insurance so they were really horrible. I had to really show out! He had very good health insurance and I am a lawyer.
Why would they assume he didn’t have Medicare ?
They treat everyone horribly before the insurance is entered in the system, but that is mostly triage nurses...
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:53
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Being a fat woman at the doctor is the worst thing you can possibly be. Especially if you try to talk about something other than your weight.
I’m fat and avoid the doctor because of this. They assume I’m lazy, dumb, and poor because of my weight.
+1000 This has been my experience too. It's awful.
Please don't avoid the doctor for this. My mom (who was just borderline overweight at age 63) avoided the doctor for years, and I am fairly confident that weight was the reason and she didn't want to step on the scale. Her breast cancer was discovered by her dermatologist. Fortunately mammograms don't require a doctor's order anymore, but that wasn't the case 20 years ago.
Unfortunately I have started avoiding. I really can't take the poor treatment anymore.
People are getting bad treatment for many reasons. Our only solution is to bring an advocate who will speak up for you, and put the doctors in their place - which is to heal you.
But I’ve found pushing back even the tiniest bit on doctors turns into this weird power struggle where it feels like they really don’t like me. If I want it to go well I feel like I have to appear grateful and appreciative at all times (as a fat woman). Like they are doing me a favor by treating me as a human being and I should be thankful they aren’t being abusive.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:46
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Being a fat woman at the doctor is the worst thing you can possibly be. Especially if you try to talk about something other than your weight.
I’m fat and avoid the doctor because of this. They assume I’m lazy, dumb, and poor because of my weight.
+1000 This has been my experience too. It's awful.
Please don't avoid the doctor for this. My mom (who was just borderline overweight at age 63) avoided the doctor for years, and I am fairly confident that weight was the reason and she didn't want to step on the scale. Her breast cancer was discovered by her dermatologist. Fortunately mammograms don't require a doctor's order anymore, but that wasn't the case 20 years ago.
Unfortunately I have started avoiding. I really can't take the poor treatment anymore.
People are getting bad treatment for many reasons. Our only solution is to bring an advocate who will speak up for you, and put the doctors in their place - which is to heal you.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:41
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you think you receive different medical care based on what you are wearing?
Do you always dress a certain way for medical appointments?
I heard it's better to wear white skin.
Even to black physicians? How exactly do you fix potential racism among medical workers?
Yes. It’s like how do you prevent black cops from being more harsh to black people. It’s engrained in society.
How do you know black cops (or black physicians) are more harsh to black people? You sound bigoted.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:35
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
My sister is a doctor, a pretty well-respected one in the DMV, and she wouldn't know an expensive designer bag if her life depended on it.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:34
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Gender matters more than clothing but clothing matters.
I do not carry a bag so that I can’t be judged for it. That part is easy. I consider bags a waste of money.
I do not carry a bag so that I can’t be judged for it. That part is easy. I consider bags a waste of money.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:31
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Hate to say it as a woman but it depends on male vs. female drs. Male drs and nerdy female drs - I think they don't judge based on designer bags. As PPs have said, some of the men don't necessarily recognize designer purses or clothes at first sight. Nerdy female drs. may recognize them but just aren't impressed.
For those groups I feel like the judgment/quality of the interaction is much more based on what you do for a living. I feel like they treat white collar professionals and high earning professionals as smart. And while I guess they shouldn't know what you do for a living or where you went to college - I've had drs ask and then they spoke to me more like an equal once they realized I was a lawyer, went to an ivy etc. Some of this may be judgment, some of this may just be - I can go through this in detail with this person who will understand and/or know to ask questions if they don't understand.
Female drs who are fashionable/who consider themselves fashionable - yeah I feel they def judge on everything including clothes, shoes etc. GW had one of these in primary care and she was a nightmare and the reviews were so split. Half the reviews were OMG she's sooooo great, she explains everything, I totally trust her. Half were - she basically didn't speak to me, was condescending/rude. It was clear she was treating humans very differently based on her judgment. She has since moved onto another practice in the area.
This is interesting. I may change my profession title just a tad to see if the reaction is different. I do find I am asked my profession a lot more in recent years.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:27
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Hate to say it as a woman but it depends on male vs. female drs. Male drs and nerdy female drs - I think they don't judge based on designer bags. As PPs have said, some of the men don't necessarily recognize designer purses or clothes at first sight. Nerdy female drs. may recognize them but just aren't impressed.
For those groups I feel like the judgment/quality of the interaction is much more based on what you do for a living. I feel like they treat white collar professionals and high earning professionals as smart. And while I guess they shouldn't know what you do for a living or where you went to college - I've had drs ask and then they spoke to me more like an equal once they realized I was a lawyer, went to an ivy etc. Some of this may be judgment, some of this may just be - I can go through this in detail with this person who will understand and/or know to ask questions if they don't understand.
Female drs who are fashionable/who consider themselves fashionable - yeah I feel they def judge on everything including clothes, shoes etc. GW had one of these in primary care and she was a nightmare and the reviews were so split. Half the reviews were OMG she's sooooo great, she explains everything, I totally trust her. Half were - she basically didn't speak to me, was condescending/rude. It was clear she was treating humans very differently based on her judgment. She has since moved onto another practice in the area.
For those groups I feel like the judgment/quality of the interaction is much more based on what you do for a living. I feel like they treat white collar professionals and high earning professionals as smart. And while I guess they shouldn't know what you do for a living or where you went to college - I've had drs ask and then they spoke to me more like an equal once they realized I was a lawyer, went to an ivy etc. Some of this may be judgment, some of this may just be - I can go through this in detail with this person who will understand and/or know to ask questions if they don't understand.
Female drs who are fashionable/who consider themselves fashionable - yeah I feel they def judge on everything including clothes, shoes etc. GW had one of these in primary care and she was a nightmare and the reviews were so split. Half the reviews were OMG she's sooooo great, she explains everything, I totally trust her. Half were - she basically didn't speak to me, was condescending/rude. It was clear she was treating humans very differently based on her judgment. She has since moved onto another practice in the area.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:24
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you think you receive different medical care based on what you are wearing?
Do you always dress a certain way for medical appointments?
I heard it's better to wear white skin.
Even to black physicians? How exactly do you fix potential racism among medical workers?
Yes. It’s like how do you prevent black cops from being more harsh to black people. It’s engrained in society.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:24
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
They don’t judge you by your clothes. They judge you by your weight.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:22
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you think you receive different medical care based on what you are wearing?
Do you always dress a certain way for medical appointments?
When my father had cancer, he was definitely judged by the hospital. He was older (93) and black. They assumed he didn't have medical insurance so they were really horrible. I had to really show out! He had very good health insurance and I am a lawyer.
What was he wearing? That’s the topic.
DP
He was wearing his crepey black skin and got treated differently. It’s not like he can take his skin off anymore than I can change my gender.
Anonymous
08/02/2023 14:21
Subject: Do Physicians judge patients based on what they wear? Designer Bags? Casual Clothing?
Anonymous wrote:Being a fat woman at the doctor is the worst thing you can possibly be. Especially if you try to talk about something other than your weight.
I’m fat and avoid the doctor because of this. They assume I’m lazy, dumb, and poor because of my weight.
Though isn't 50% of America fat - or some high % like that? You'd think drs would be used to it.