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What I really want is for him to fix the running toilet OR to stop objecting when I try to call a plumber. Do you have anything like this in hour house?

You--Honey, the toilet is running. I need you to fix it.
Him--sure, I'll get to it next weekend.
You--Okay, just letting you know that you have until X date (like 3-4 weeks away) and if you haven't been able to get to it by then, I'm going to call the plumber.

He then has that time to "s*** or get off the can" Make sure he has like 3 weekends between when you tell him and when you call the plumber. He can either make the time to fix it or you call the plumber. If he complains, you tell him that you gave him the opportunity to save the money and fix it himself, but he didn't make the time, so you got it fixed.

If a man says he is going to do something, he will do it.

No need to nag him every six months.

A new book and some slippers and flowers. Some new OPI nail polish or bubble bath. You can also cook her dinner.

I would LOVE for my DH to plan a weekend for me - and for the kids go along without arguing.
Example - 2 of us walk to local coffee shop when I wake up on Sat sit and get a coffee and a muffin- not after my DH cooks himself breakfast b/c he needs his special protein omelet.
Spend some time Sat morning doing misc errand.
At 11AM my DH says he is going to pick up lunch and takes orders. He comes home and we eat and then everyone gets in the car and we go and do something. (Kayak, paddleboard, strawberry pick - even crazier would have been that he got tickets to a special exhibit or any thing other than a sporting event).

On the way home stop for dinner.

Get home and I can take a long bath while my DH and kids are cleaning up from the activity (throwing a load of laundry on).

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

If they share finances, then that’s true of literally any gift…

I would love gift cards because I almost never buy myself the stuff I want—combo of guilt and frugality. But I do like nice stuff! So a gift card is like permission (from myself, too) to spend on myself at places I like.

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

If they share finances, then that’s true of literally any gift…

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What I really want is for him to fix the running toilet OR to stop objecting when I try to call a plumber. Do you have anything like this in hour house?

You--Honey, the toilet is running. I need you to fix it.
Him--sure, I'll get to it next weekend.
You--Okay, just letting you know that you have until X date (like 3-4 weeks away) and if you haven't been able to get to it by then, I'm going to call the plumber.

He then has that time to "s*** or get off the can" Make sure he has like 3 weekends between when you tell him and when you call the plumber. He can either make the time to fix it or you call the plumber. If he complains, you tell him that you gave him the opportunity to save the money and fix it himself, but he didn't make the time, so you got it fixed.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband thought it was a good idea to get me a bird feeder. Fortunately my kids stopped him and told him no.

I love puzzles - but not any puzzle - 2 specific brands.

Ravensburger?

Wasgij
Magic Puzzle

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

Anonymous wrote:My husband thought it was a good idea to get me a bird feeder. Fortunately my kids stopped him and told him no.

I love puzzles - but not any puzzle - 2 specific brands.

Ravensburger?

Ask her best friend.

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Omg. I got an air fryer once 😂 and honestly it was a replacement for the one my husband broke, so how is that a gift?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you not know your wife well enough to be able to purchase something for her w/o crowdsourcing? Yes, the last minute is thoughtless. But this is the bigger issue.

If my birthday wasn’t in June it could have been my husband posting. Horrible gift giver.

What did you get?

At least he asked! I don't get gifts from DH aside from flowers but I don't know what I'd like.

Anonymous wrote:Hire someone to clean the oven and fridge / organize a garage or something. And make it so she doesn't have to be there to arrange or supervise any of it.

Why would any of those be "her" chores otherwise? Why wouldn't OP simply do that himself if it needed to be done?

So anyway, spa gift card, ideally in a hotel spa and you also pay for her to stay the night there alone.

My husband thought it was a good idea to get me a bird feeder. Fortunately my kids stopped him and told him no.

I love puzzles - but not any puzzle - 2 specific brands.

My DH has the worst taste in clothes and jewelry. It makes me feel terrible to exchange it so I usually keep it and it doesn't get worn. Just do something for me.