Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 22:07     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why is an 11 yr old wearing makeup?


+1

It's so like southern pageant mom weird


It is incredibly normal at that age. 90% of the girls in my daughter’s 6th grade class where some small amount of make up when they “go out”


90% would be surprising.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 21:28     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:I have an 11 year old girl and 14 year old boy. Girls just mature more quickly around this age than boys do. I joke, but am pretty serious, that they are basically the exact same age right now, both physically and mentally.


Yep, I have a 12 year daughter and 14 year old son and she is probably a little more mature and definitely more poised than him.

9 year old daughter is still very much a kid - we will see what happens in the next year or two.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 21:14     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Girls are shopping for the boys. Boys are focusing on developing their talents so they have their pick of the girls. (Non-heteros are during their variations)
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 20:38     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:OP here: our pool does a banquet. Kids and adults dress casually but nicely. A usual step up from normal attire. The pool is closed so it’s a catered meal, awards in which kids get awards, coached make speeches and kids make tiny speeches in return thanking coaches and teammates. The 8U and 9-10 girls come in cute kids dress up clothes. The older girls are dresses in short dresses with low-cut necklines. Definitely young-woman attire, nothing cute or kiddish or sporty. Think prom-like except not glitzy. Not heavily made up but enough to look put together. The 15-18 older boys look like they came out of a Vineyard Vines catalog. The youngest boys were also dressed nicely. The 9-14 yos were dresses in their ‘play’ clothes. I don’t notice the difference when I volunteer at school but it was definitely obvious here.




This is not new. My daughter swam from third grade through college and is now 25. We had similar banquets and the girls were absolutely so fresh and lovely. Make-up is typically lighter with athletes. The swimmers are all young, fit, tan and the girls typically have long hair. The boys are less mature but so endearing with their broad shoulders. They stood out because you’re used to seeing them in swimsuits and team parkas with caps on.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 20:24     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:Why is an 11 yr old wearing makeup?


Usually makeup for an 11 yo is some tinted lip gloss and mascara.

When my DD was that age, we allowed tinted lip gloss and mascara on picture day and for awards days.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 20:11     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is an 11 yr old wearing makeup?


+1

It's so like southern pageant mom weird


It is incredibly normal at that age. 90% of the girls in my daughter’s 6th grade class where some small amount of make up when they “go out”
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 17:48     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
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Anonymous wrote:I’m gonna disagree with all of you. It’s not that girls mature faster. It’s social media. These girls are watching make up tutorials and “get ready with me” videos. The amount they know about skincare and beauty products is staggering. And to be honest, a lot of the young women making the videos are poised and articulate. The girls seem sophisticated because they are, while the boys have spend the equivalent amount of time watching idiots play video games.


Tween girls outpacing tween boys when it comes to maturing predates social media. By millennia.


Yup. This is supported by my husband’s bar mitzvah video from 1988. The girls are poised with really done-up big 80s hair, and make thoughtful comments to the videographer. The boys are a bunch of doofuses who make fart noises and rude comments. It’s so striking!


Op here : exactly lol


Haha this takes me back!

And also, straight into my 11-year-old's classroom. Oof.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 16:03     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
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Anonymous wrote:Our scout troops aren’t integrated. There are troops just for girls. Find that!


I thought they were required to be separate at a certain age, is that wrong?


My son's scout troop decided to combine the boys troop and the girls troop together to act as one, although they are two troops on paper. (I support it).
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 15:32     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:Our scout troops aren’t integrated. There are troops just for girls. Find that!


I thought they were required to be separate at a certain age, is that wrong?
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 15:25     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Our scout troops aren’t integrated. There are troops just for girls. Find that!
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 15:12     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
As an aside, this is why the integrated Boy Scout troops are not really working. They are great from K-2 or maybe third grade. I see the girls in 4th and 5th grade and they look miserable stuck with these boys that are so immature.
I noticed it with my own girls too — they had so many male friends k-2 and hated any sex segregation but by 4th or 5th grace basically could not stand any of the boys (there’s typically one or two boys that mature more like the girls and hang out mostly with girls). My observation is that it evens out around 8th grade and by HS, the groups are re-integrating.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 12:13     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
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Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?


All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!
Your makeup was ‘years’ old??


Probably. I was that poised 12 year old back in the 90s with a mom who didn't wear any makeup that didn't come free in a Clinique gift set. It happens.


Ha, the Clinique gift set! You just brought me back to my childhood!
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 10:37     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:Why is an 11 yr old wearing makeup?


Ugh, my 11 year old has tons of friends who wear makeup--and were at 10!!
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 08:57     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m gonna disagree with all of you. It’s not that girls mature faster. It’s social media. These girls are watching make up tutorials and “get ready with me” videos. The amount they know about skincare and beauty products is staggering. And to be honest, a lot of the young women making the videos are poised and articulate. The girls seem sophisticated because they are, while the boys have spend the equivalent amount of time watching idiots play video games.


Tween girls outpacing tween boys when it comes to maturing predates social media. By millennia.


Yup. This is supported by my husband’s bar mitzvah video from 1988. The girls are poised with really done-up big 80s hair, and make thoughtful comments to the videographer. The boys are a bunch of doofuses who make fart noises and rude comments. It’s so striking!


Op here : exactly lol
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2023 07:59     Subject: 11-12 girls so poised
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m gonna disagree with all of you. It’s not that girls mature faster. It’s social media. These girls are watching make up tutorials and “get ready with me” videos. The amount they know about skincare and beauty products is staggering. And to be honest, a lot of the young women making the videos are poised and articulate. The girls seem sophisticated because they are, while the boys have spend the equivalent amount of time watching idiots play video games.


Tween girls outpacing tween boys when it comes to maturing predates social media. By millennia.


Yup. This is supported by my husband’s bar mitzvah video from 1988. The girls are poised with really done-up big 80s hair, and make thoughtful comments to the videographer. The boys are a bunch of doofuses who make fart noises and rude comments. It’s so striking!