Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 20:49     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
You all are crazy being all hollier than though acting like your husbands not half stupid at times.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 20:44     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
Why are people criticizing the shaking of clothes? You’re supposed to shake them between washing and drying so they have fewer wrinkles and dry faster. That’s how my dad taught us (we had a SAHD who was more than competent at keeping house) and I just did a quick Google to make sure I wasn’t off base and many laundry related websites agree. I suppose if there were somehow wear and tear that came from a quick shake, it would be offset by spending more time in the dryer and being more likely to need ironing.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 20:24     Subject: Re:This is how he "helps"...
What a little biiitch. He should go back to watching cartoons and eating chips.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 20:02     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He really just creates so much more work for us both ALL.THE.TIME He said he would help with his laundry, he put something in the wash like a paper towel or piece of paper who knows, there is white paper crap on ALL the clothes then puts them in the drier. (Hope that doesn't start a fire). Then SHAKES them all out (stretching clothes!) and lets the 4000000 million TINY pieces on the floor of the laundry room, he then SWEEPS the laundry room floor stuff onto the carpet outside the laundry room (we do indeed have a dust pan right next to the broom) and now is attempting to use the vacuum to try and clean this all up.

I'm so tired. Tired when he doesn't help. More tired when he does.
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I would have done the same as your dh. Putting them in the dryer and shaking them out is easier than trying to pick off wet paper. You seem ocd and anxious op. Get some therapy and meds. -mom of three


Yes, you go outside and shake them out.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:51     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
OP of the "husband destroys the house - literally" thread. OP, you have to choose your battles and drop the rope - no, really.

In my relationship/family, I am actually the one that leaves the tissues in the pockets (plural) and creates work. But - I know I do that, so I suck it up and take the hit (ie: extra work). Which is probably one reason of many that so few matters set me off.

If your husband is not. costing you money, don't worry so much!

Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:43     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
You’re insufferable. Drop it about the tissue. This happens thousands of times a day across the country. Move on.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:28     Subject: Re:This is how he "helps"...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those saying this is no big deal, that might be true if this were a one-off. But try living with this all day, every day, for years on end. It isn’t much of a partnership when one person makes everything harder and slower than it needs to be. This is reflects poor executive function and a lack of common sense. I’m five items down my to-do list while he’s still un-f***ing the mess he made an hour ago on a task that should have taken 5 minutes. Breeds a ton of resentment (on both sides). Ask me how I know.


Yeah, I can imagine how irritating it is for people to do things differently than you do them.


Your reading comprehension is laughably bad.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:23     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
Anonymous wrote:Op, it’s a tissue. In one or a million pieces, be grateful if this is what you are upset about in life.


No. He’s an adult. Take the time to check the pockets. Don’t be lazy.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:21     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
Anonymous wrote:He really just creates so much more work for us both ALL.THE.TIME He said he would help with his laundry, he put something in the wash like a paper towel or piece of paper who knows, there is white paper crap on ALL the clothes then puts them in the drier. (Hope that doesn't start a fire). Then SHAKES them all out (stretching clothes!) and lets the 4000000 million TINY pieces on the floor of the laundry room, he then SWEEPS the laundry room floor stuff onto the carpet outside the laundry room (we do indeed have a dust pan right next to the broom) and now is attempting to use the vacuum to try and clean this all up.

I'm so tired. Tired when he doesn't help. More tired when he does.
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I would have done the same as your dh. Putting them in the dryer and shaking them out is easier than trying to pick off wet paper. You seem ocd and anxious op. Get some therapy and meds. -mom of three
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2023 19:02     Subject: This is how he "helps"...
You’re still going on about leaving a tissue in the pocket of trousers when they go in the washing machine? JFC. You clearly resent and hate your husband. I know it’s hard to hear, but you can feel however you want about your husband, but your little anecdote only makes you seem absolutely off your rocker.