Anonymous
07/07/2023 21:25
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
There are going to be a lot of scarred children in the next generation.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Explain
?? Not sure if you are playing dumb or actually dumb. Once your kid finds out, his friends will find out. Once they find out, their parents will find out... Do you think friends' parents will let their kids come near your kid? No way in hell that's going to happen. I am not trying to stop you. YOu can go around screw anyone or anything you want to screw but don't pretend this won't affect your kids.
You don’t understand- people like this pretend their kids are just extensions of them. They don’t care how it makes their kids feel. Their kids are supposed to feel exactly as they do and not have their own feelings. They are supposed to accept any behavior and be ok with it. If they feel ick inside because mom and dad are banging anything that moves openly- so what? Kids feelings don’t matter! Only banging matters. Open banging is better. It’s all above board because it’s known! Meanwhile kids get pushed aside for bang partners and everyone has to smile and be so mature and accepting!
-adult whose parents did this, it was gross and embarrassing and confusing.
I can't even imagine... So sorry.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 21:22
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Explain
?? Not sure if you are playing dumb or actually dumb. Once your kid finds out, his friends will find out. Once they find out, their parents will find out... Do you think friends' parents will let their kids come near your kid? No way in hell that's going to happen. I am not trying to stop you. YOu can go around screw anyone or anything you want to screw but don't pretend this won't affect your kids.
You don’t understand- people like this pretend their kids are just extensions of them. They don’t care how it makes their kids feel. Their kids are supposed to feel exactly as they do and not have their own feelings. They are supposed to accept any behavior and be ok with it. If they feel ick inside because mom and dad are banging anything that moves openly- so what? Kids feelings don’t matter! Only banging matters. Open banging is better. It’s all above board because it’s known! Meanwhile kids get pushed aside for bang partners and everyone has to smile and be so mature and accepting!
-adult whose parents did this, it was gross and embarrassing and confusing.
I can't even imagine... So sorry.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 21:19
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Explain
?? Not sure if you are playing dumb or actually dumb. Once your kid finds out, his friends will find out. Once they find out, their parents will find out... Do you think friends' parents will let their kids come near your kid? No way in hell that's going to happen. I am not trying to stop you. YOu can go around screw anyone or anything you want to screw but don't pretend this won't affect your kids.
You don’t understand- people like this pretend their kids are just extensions of them. They don’t care how it makes their kids feel. Their kids are supposed to feel exactly as they do and not have their own feelings. They are supposed to accept any behavior and be ok with it. If they feel ick inside because mom and dad are banging anything that moves openly- so what? Kids feelings don’t matter! Only banging matters. Open banging is better. It’s all above board because it’s known! Meanwhile kids get pushed aside for bang partners and everyone has to smile and be so mature and accepting!
-adult whose parents did this, it was gross and embarrassing and confusing.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 21:02
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Explain
?? Not sure if you are playing dumb or actually dumb. Once your kid finds out, his friends will find out. Once they find out, their parents will find out... Do you think friends' parents will let their kids come near your kid? No way in hell that's going to happen. I am not trying to stop you. YOu can go around screw anyone or anything you want to screw but don't pretend this won't affect your kids.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 19:49
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Explain
Anonymous
07/07/2023 19:42
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
My sister does this; she’s the most attention hungry person imaginable. She’s getting older and more pathetic, seeking out romances with other oldsters. Her adult kids are embarrassed and roll their eyes at her antics- they definitely put up boundaries once they could- they don’t want their kids around sexy, hook up grandma. I think they resent the fact they always dealt with half a family. She actually brought one of her hook ups to a family event and everyone was grossed out. Her husband is a shell of a man with serious health issues.
She got a pedicure once from a younger man at a nice nail salon who was really personable and fun- she was sure he wanted her. I think he was angling for a nice tip. She’s an exhausting person.
She got a pedicure once from a younger man at a nice nail salon who was really personable and fun- she was sure he wanted her. I think he was angling for a nice tip. She’s an exhausting person.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 19:20
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful and avoid telling a child. We learned of a couple's open marriage from our child whose friend had told her about her parents having boyfriends and girlfriends at school. She announced it in class so the entire grade found out in a day.
If you are not hiding it from the world, why hide it from the kids?
Because your poor kids might not have any friends
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:55
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Poor kids.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:13
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?
Why do you think a 14 year old wouldn’t pick up on mommy’s special friend????
And that's why many ENM people are honest with their kids. Because they know anyway. Thanks for contributing!
Yes, wonderful knowing your parents are gross and weird openly rather than in the privacy of their own room.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:11
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?
Why do you think a 14 year old wouldn’t pick up on mommy’s special friend????
And that's why many ENM people are honest with their kids. Because they know anyway. Thanks for contributing!
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:10
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?
Your kids that dumb? You think they don’t know what’s going on? You really make me sick.
-dp
Why?
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:09
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?
Your kids that dumb? You think they don’t know what’s going on? You really make me sick.
-dp
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:08
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?
Why do you think a 14 year old wouldn’t pick up on mommy’s special friend????
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:07
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
OP, you and your spouse should just do... whatever it is you are going to do, but quietly. It won't matter unless one of the kids finds out about the extracurricular activities and confronts you. THEN you can tell them that you're ENM.
Anonymous
07/07/2023 18:06
Subject: Open Marriage with kids
Anonymous wrote:I was mortified by my parents even *kissing* in front of me. The idea of interjecting (numerous) other adults into that dynamic makes me actually want to vomit. Were you people never 14 years old before? Wtf.
Who in this thread has said that they engage in any type of affection whatsoever with other partners in front of children?