Anonymous wrote:I think a swat on the butt is no big deal. Spanking with an eye to hurt is a different animal.

Why would you swat on the butt? Isn’t the point of hitting the butt to hurt it?

Occasional spanking is fine for outright defiance. It just is.

Do these people also beat their dogs?
I feel like if you hit a dog it’s illegal right? But not a kid?

I am astonished that so many in this thread are ok with hitting a child and a. have never seen the stats on why is so not ok and b. Need to see the stats to know it’s not ok.

It’s not ok to hit kids. It just not. They’re kids. Don’t hit kids. Jfc

Anonymous wrote:Yeah maybe choose a consequence that isn’t also a form of foreplay…

At our child’s preschool we had to fill out a form about how we discipline our child. I pray it was to weed out all these disciplinarian psychos who probably still believe in child marriage.

+1 it is creepy. Abusive too, but also just…really really weird

Anonymous wrote:Illegal in many countries now. As usual US won’t act to protect children

Children, women, minorities, and vulnerable people in general are the LAST priority of our government. You know their men should take ownership of them not the laws. Isn't that the way our society works?

Made by rich white men for rich white men.

And teach your boys hitting is the answer by hitting them!!

Girls don't matter so hit them too.

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.

I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming

I was spanked as a child an ended up in a dating violence situation. I put up with it for 2 years ( and nearly lost my life) because I believed that it was ok for people who love me to hit me like my parents did. I will never hit a kid.

I was spanked as a child by various adults and was never in a violent relationship. I think this may be just you.

+1

Same. I think that the stats for violent relationships show that your parents marriage and how your mother was treated is the biggest indicator.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.

Which boils down to manipulation.

How is spanking not manipulation?

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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.

Which boils down to manipulation.

Parents exercising legitimate authority to implement negative consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.

Which boils down to manipulation.

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.

I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming

I was spanked as a child an ended up in a dating violence situation. I put up with it for 2 years ( and nearly lost my life) because I believed that it was ok for people who love me to hit me like my parents did. I will never hit a kid.

I was spanked as a child by various adults and was never in a violent relationship. I think this may be just you.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.

I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming

I was spanked as a child an ended up in a dating violence situation. I put up with it for 2 years ( and nearly lost my life) because I believed that it was ok for people who love me to hit me like my parents did. I will never hit a kid.

I was spanked as a child by various adults and was never in a violent relationship. I think this may be just you.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

It also teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to handle situations. Further, it teaches them that someone can love you and also hit you...aka domestic violence.

If my husband were punishing me by making me sit in a chair against my will, or preventing me from using my phone, that would not be acceptable. It would, in fact, be a form of domestic violence.

That doesn’t mean I’m teaching my kids that this is OK when they’re adults if I occasionally punish them with those methods.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are people out there that are *floored* by the idea of a spanking.

Your kids are the bratty ones that are on the floor throwing a fit because they didn't get the juice flavor they wanted.

Yeah, that.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.

Not the same and you know it.

They’re all punishments.

Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?

They are no more or less logical than spanking.

Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?

Tell me you don’t understand child development without telling me you don’t understand child development.

Sorry, but this is not Reddit. You’re going to need to actually formulate a response.

Sure. You don’t understand child development.