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Anonymous wrote:Fire. I've recently realized I don't want to be cremated because I can't reconcile that my biggest fear is of dying in a fire, and yet I was ok with the idea of burning my body. Yes, I understand I'd be dead.

It's interesting what makes people prefer one vs. the other. I want to be cremated but my spouse is opposite.

There is now a third, eco-friendly option:

- being gently dissolved in a natural, lye-based solution. Lower carbon footprint than cremation.

A la Breaking Bad.

Cancer or some other terminal disease.
I see ppl Diagnosed, they know they’re on a timeline and have surgery and chemo, prolonging a painful end. Things start going wrong and at the end it’s simply treating symptoms of dying, from what I can see.
But, if I get it, what are my options?

An early death. I just want more time. The idea of dying in an accident on 270 on my way to work, or getting an early and aggressive cancer diagnosis, freaks me out.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

I’m the PP. If my kids were going to die I’d want to die with them. But I think if I were dying, it would be a comfort to know they would be the best thing I’ve done in my life living on. Assuming I knew DH would survive to take care of them. I would be leaving them with a great dad and life insurance, so I’d have to hope they would make it through grief ok and live a nice life.

Anonymous wrote:Cancer.

Dying slowly, and deteriorating.

Anything quick is preferred.

Honestly, this. If I had terminal cancer I would prefer suicide, but in a sort of epic way out. I'd like to take psychedelics and jump off a mountain or something, rather than die slowly hooked up to a bunch of tubes in a hospital.

Being murdered on a hiking path while taking a lunch stroll around a quiet pond or a creek path on my own
Being eaten by a shark at the beach near the sandbar in front of my family

Cancer.

Dying slowly, and deteriorating.

Anything quick is preferred.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

Yes, it's horrible to prefer your kids die than live longer than their mom. WTF?

Agree. I don't understand this mindset at all. I've lived a lot of my life. I want my kids to live theirs. Life will go on for them even without me, they deserve that and not for me to selfishly take them with me.

Np, mother of four, and agree that it's very weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

Yes, it's horrible to prefer your kids die than live longer than their mom. WTF?

Agree. I don't understand this mindset at all. I've lived a lot of my life. I want my kids to live theirs. Life will go on for them even without me, they deserve that and not for me to selfishly take them with me.

Anonymous wrote:Long slow painful costing my faking a fortune type death is what I fear.

Yep. This would be the.worst! If I found out that I had a horrid terminal disease, I would do a swan dive off a cliff into the ocean. Or go above timberline in the winter.

Any type of suffocation. Drowning, strangulation, chokijg, being stuck in a tight space where my chest cant expand, etc.

When I was 8 I got stuck upside down in a tube. Thankfully someone noticed I'd been upside down for a bit and flipped me over. I remember that tightness in my chest from almost not being able to hold my breath anymore.

When I was 21, I nearly chocked to death. I was eating a salad and a piece of lettuce lodged over my windpipe. I could feel it flapping when I exhaled and seal tight when I inhaled. I knew I either had time to find my phone and diall 911 before I passed out or do the Heimlich on myself. I ended up doing it over the kitchen table and thinking how unfortunate it was that my parents were going to find my dead body. My vision was blackening anD I finally dislodged it enough to get air in. I didn't eat lettuce for a LONG time.

Getting really old. Losing my ability to take care of myself, and becoming a burden. Having to live in a home. I know people say that old age is beautiful and better than the alternative, but I don't think this is true.

If I could choose, I would want to die suddenly and naturally before 70.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m scared of a death where I’m conscious of the fact I’m about to die, particularly if it’s scary or painful (e.g. plane crash, house fire). But a million times more than that, I’m terrified of a death in which my kids are with me and I know they’re going to die too (again, e.g. plane crash or house fire).

Also, scared of like creepy torture/serial killer murder.

Interesting. If my kids were with me and I knew they were going to die too, I'd feel more at peace than if they weren't with me and I was conscious of the fact I was dying and about to leave my kids motherless. Obviously the former is horrible too but of the two options I'd rather we all die together. Is that horrible/psychopathic of me?

No I’m with you. I’m actually most scared of dying in some horrible and unexpected way in front of my kids while they’re forced to live and deal with that, like freak heart attack or impaled by a shower rod or something.

Both of you sound completely narcissistic to me. Seeing something terrible is sad and scary but I’d like to give my kids the opportunity to move past it than for them to just be dead.

My kids' deaths

Plane crash. I heard that the Air France flight that went down in the Atlantic was a longer than usual free fall. That terrifies me.

Being on the 9-11 flights must have been horrible but perhaps they didn’t know they would crash and, when they did, it was an instantaneous death. Being trapped on the top floors of the WTC was horrific.