Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:43     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.


Your friend is an idiot. You don’t owe her attendance at her kid’s party. We are a one trip a year family too and do the same thing as you.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:34     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We always try to be careful but if your kids are n school it is silly. How are you middle class? Middle class don’t take expensive vacations.


Some of us in the middle class bought small houses and old cars so we can go on expensive vacations. Also our definition of expensive might differ from yours.


These days any vacation is expensive for the middle class. Working like dogs, limited money, limited PTO for 1 or maybe 2 weeks a year to enjoy yourself.

I don’t begrudge those with lucrative careers and the means to travel often but I sure am jealous!
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:34     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
We do this for very important events/trips that we can’t reschedule. But I don’t tell people.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:27     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
No. Do not isolate before vacation. Life is about living.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:24     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.


This was an odd detail to include.

I would just have made up a conflict. I think your explanation implies this group is very germy compared to your kid.


I think you’re being a little obtuse here. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with daycare. But there’s no denying that daycares are breeding grounds for germs. We all write here complaining about it year round.


The weird detail was “she doesn’t work” not the full time daycare. It was totally unnecessary. The daycare part is relevant.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:22     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:We always try to be careful but if your kids are n school it is silly. How are you middle class? Middle class don’t take expensive vacations.


Some of us in the middle class bought small houses and old cars so we can go on expensive vacations. Also our definition of expensive might differ from yours.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:22     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.


This was an odd detail to include.

I would just have made up a conflict. I think your explanation implies this group is very germy compared to your kid.


Agree. I wondered about the inclusion of that detail too and it make me dislike OP to be totally honest.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:17     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
I think it's fine these days.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:08     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are bat$hit crazy.


You must not have ever had a stomach virus ruin a vacation. Friend of mine drove the family 7 hours, checked into the hotel, child starts vomiting an hour later. Everyone went down in dominos. They spent the entire trip in the room to just go home after they were well enough to drive. Nightmare!


DP and you sound paranoid. This has happened to us more than once. We got it on vacation, at the resort. It’s horrible but happens. Do you isolate once you get to your vacation too?


I think it’s more devastating if it’s your one and only vacation for the year.


We go on many vacations each year. Sorry you’re poor
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:07     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
You shouldn’t have given a reason.
My kids are in full time preschool/school so unfortunately we can’t pull them out before any big trip. Literally hope and pray and yes, once or teicr someone has had to go on vacation on antibiotics (not contagious, like day 4 of strep or day 3 of ear infection with antibiotics, before anyone jumps down my throat.)
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:05     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Is your entire life this high maintenance?
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:02     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
This is very odd to me. I'm a doctor and never did this while raising 3 DC.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 12:01     Subject: Re:Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
I do not isolate the kids before vacation, but I definitely restrict certain things. For example, I would probably opt out of going to an indoor play place with toddlers.

I started doing this after needing to cancel 2 big trips in 1 year because of illnesses, and spending another vacation stuck in the hotel with my sick kiddo the entire time.

I fully understand that it's not fool proof, and that things happen. However, my family lives across the country and I rarely get to see them. I would rather my kids skip a birthday party and get to see their grandmother.

I do think my behavior will change as the kids get older and are just getting sick less in general. In the meantime, though, I feel you OP.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 11:59     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are bat$hit crazy.


You must not have ever had a stomach virus ruin a vacation. Friend of mine drove the family 7 hours, checked into the hotel, child starts vomiting an hour later. Everyone went down in dominos. They spent the entire trip in the room to just go home after they were well enough to drive. Nightmare!


DP and you sound paranoid. This has happened to us more than once. We got it on vacation, at the resort. It’s horrible but happens. Do you isolate once you get to your vacation too?


I think it’s more devastating if it’s your one and only vacation for the year.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2023 11:56     Subject: Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?
We do this to an extent. If I were you I would've just told her that your kid was sick instead. I just had a trip ruined by covid so it's still definitely a thing.