Anonymous wrote:I met my DH 20+ years ago. I was wearing a tank top and fitted jeans. It is probably the equivalent of wearing a crop top today. He wasn’t rich when we met.

I don’t think what you wears matters as much as you may think. DH loves me whether I’m wearing lululemon or a dress.

I have a divorced single friend who went all out getting dressed up when we went out. She wears a lot of makeup and looks like an entirely different person without makeup. She never had trouble attracting men but could not keep them.

I thought I wrote this. I also met my DH 20+ years ago wearing a tank top and jeans. Styles change. I don’t really think it matters what you are wearing when you first meet. I do think you should be able to dress classy or sexy.

My friends who dress up and look like different people always did very well in the club scene but not so much in the marriage scene.

I live in an affluent neighborhood. There are so many different types of women but the women are often already rich and come from a good family. Those types marry other similar types. Then there are the ones who are both smart and ambitious and met in college or grad school. Some of these women still work. Others stay home. They met at Georgetown, Harvard, Stanford, law school, med school, etc. The third is the man who already made it and marries a very pretty pleasant tradwife. These women have beautiful faces with and without makeup and an awesome figure. They are 10s in looks and very nice. These can also be the second wife.

Men view clothes as an obstacle. They don’t understand anything about technique.

Anonymous wrote:Men have no idea what you are wearing. All they care about is your body, hair and complexion.

BS that men don’t care. I don’t think that men care about designers, but I do think men care about what women wear:

- clothes have to be clean, reasonably fashionable, have relatively little wear, and be well fitting.

- Hair long, well-cut, and dyed if there is any gray showing. Get rid of any frizziness.

- Body and facial hair removed in all of the right places (including eyebrows waxed).

- Make-up in neutral colors except maybe red lipstick.

- Small jewelry. Keep it minimal.

- Shoes appropriate for the outfit and the weather. Again, very clean and reasonably in style.

- Nails either painted or kept short, neat, and clean.

Anonymous wrote:G STRING

Edible underpants work too

Anonymous wrote:Men rich of poor, and I mean real men not men-child know not to interfere in anyway with their ladies choice of clothing. Our job is give an opinion on a set of choices that they present us. Women dress up for themselves and other women. Most Americans men rich or poor are such sloppy dressers that they should have no business giving an opinion about women’s clothing.

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You sound like my husband. He's a rich man and I'm a rich woman - I'm sure my bank account plus lack of need for his is a very attractive look. The only look that matters to him is confidence and independence.

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Anonymous wrote:Good god. Women, why do you do this to yourself? How do you expect the society to see you other than sex objects?

Men essentially see us that way.

That doesn't mean we have to steer into the skid.

Anonymous wrote:Men have no idea what you are wearing. All they care about is your body, hair and complexion.

This

Just look good without any and it doesn’t matter.

G STRING

Anonymous wrote:My big law ex also liked seeing me in Lululemon but I'm a size 2. Also I'm not annoying like you.

He didn't like it that much since he didn't keep you.

Anonymous wrote:Men do care about how women dress but they’re often ignorant to their own preferences. For example they’ll answer I’m surveys that a woman with a full face of makeup isn’t wearing any. They also will find a woman alluring who is wearing a sundress and espadrilles but won’t themselves know why. Waitresses also report they get bigger tips when they have a bow in their hair, but safe to say no man realizes that’s why.

I’ve found many small tweaks to my appearance change how men receive me. Delicate jewelry, feminine accessories, pastels or bright colors over the business casual staples palette of black navy and grey, blonde highlights.

Next time you’re at a typical DC gathering, look around at how many women just look dull and boring. It’s quite easy to look comparatively feminine.

This is so true. Men have no idea what they like. They want a woman to look “nice” or “feminine,” but don’t really know how that’s accomplished.

They prefer nothing. That’s it. All you need to know.

As little as possible.

Is your ex still dating the plus sized woman?

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Anonymous wrote:Men have no idea what you are wearing. All they care about is your body, hair and complexion.

I wish this were true. Mine has complained from day one that he does not like my style. He often tells me to return things and comments on how I would look much better if he were my fashion consultant. Of course he never offers advice, just complaints. He is a fashion snob and I will never be able to dress as well as he does. I don't have the budget to afford the quality clothing brands he does. Of course if I do buy something expensive I'm always asked what I bought and why. I just chalk it up to verbal abuse but after 34 years I guess I'm used to it and just wear what I want. Off topic but when you marry someone with money they always act superior. Kinda at my wits end but at this point whatever.

This is true. That will never change. This person can be the most unattractive or overweight person and have a million flaws but if they have money or have that multi generational money they will always act superior if you came from little or nothing.