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Anonymous wrote:What’s up with these elderly men catching baby fever? This has to be some kind of disorder.

Ah yes, hubris, that well-known mental health issue listed in the DSM-V. Letting everyone know you're still virile, while being rich enough to not get up at night or be disturbed by baby care because nurses will do that, far away from your room.

Most elderly men don't do that because they can barely afford to retire. Correcting for wealth, you'll find lots of older men with children. Kids at that age are a status symbol.

By all means, find it gross and eww. I call it inevitable in a certain strata of the population.

Once you’re an octogenarian, you’re not viewed as virile, even if your 29 year old girlfriend gets knocked up.

Anonymous wrote:This seems to me not that different than a well off woman having a baby with a sperm donor. Pacino will be functionally like grandpa to him, who will likely die in his childhood and he will likely have some nice memories of grandpa Al taking him to some fun stuff qnd saying some wacky things. There are some pros over a sperm bank (you know more about the guy and he is a genuinely talented person as opposed to the list of paper facts you get from a sperm bqnk) and some negatives (higher risk of autism and schizophrenia).

Sure, you can't know everything about an anonymous sperm donor, but sperm banks have an age limit for donors, for good reason.

It's much better to have no dad for your child than to set your child up to have their dad die when they're in early elementary.

I don't know ANYONE who lost a parent in elementary school who doesn't have lasting trauma from it. It's not easy on kids.

Ick

Terrible.

My good friend growing up was the product of older parents. Her mom was 43 when she was born (absolutely ancient back in the 80s) and her dad was 64-66 (I forget).

Her mom was always mistaken for her grandma at school events by those who didn't know her situation. She hated this and stopped telling her mom about events so she wouldn't attend.

Her dad passed when she was 12. Ages 9-12 were spent watching her dad's health decline as he creeped toward the end. Ages 12-14 were spent dealing with his death and her mom's depression from his death. She became so wild and such a "bad kid" that I wasn't allowed to hang out with her outside of school. My parents didn't even want me being her friend but they couldn't control what happened at school. She started hanging with older kids, smoking and drinking. She was doing drugs by the time 9th grade rolled around. She dropped out in 11th grade once she turned 17 and could do it on her own.

I have no doubt that her life would have turned out completely different if she had younger parents. Sorry, not sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it'd more than not having a dad--it's having your dad die during your childhood. That's traumatic.

It would be easier to just not have a dad (have a single mom by choice) then to watch your dad's health decline and then attend his funeral when you're in second grade.

+1

this

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Anonymous wrote:
Pp you replied to. I love DCUM, in all its wacked-out, uptight glory.
You sure don't have a sense of humor or sense of proportion, poor dear. Look at you, wringing your hands about a baby who will be raised securely by loving parents in great comfort. The baby will no doubt have a nurturing mother for a very long time. Can't say the same for many babies in this world, you know. This is really not the worst family situation that can happen, so even though it's not the usual "babies between your 30s and 40s" situation... it will be fine. No need to clutch pearls and drop your pince-nez into the fizz.

You have zero idea what type of parents they are, specifically the mom since she will be a single parent for a majority of the child's life. A man who doesn't understand how to use birth control at 82, is not the smartest parent.

Exhibit A

Anonymous wrote:What’s up with these elderly men catching baby fever? This has to be some kind of disorder.

Ah yes, hubris, that well-known mental health issue listed in the DSM-V. Letting everyone know you're still virile, while being rich enough to not get up at night or be disturbed by baby care because nurses will do that, far away from your room.

Most elderly men don't do that because they can barely afford to retire. Correcting for wealth, you'll find lots of older men with children. Kids at that age are a status symbol.

By all means, find it gross and eww. I call it inevitable in a certain strata of the population.

Anonymous wrote:What’s up with these elderly men catching baby fever? This has to be some kind of disorder.

They already had kids long ago. It's obvious that their young gold-digger wives cozened them into it. The disorder is called "thinking with your d!ck when you're old enough to know better."

What’s up with these elderly men catching baby fever? This has to be some kind of disorder.

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Anonymous wrote:Disgusting.

His and his girlfriend’s choice. MYOB.

Agree.

OP is disgusting. And a misandrist.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I thought I wasn't judgmental but I guess I am. This is wild. I don't think it's gross but the kid is going to not have a dad when he's ten.

A couple who fell in love in high school. They married young and had their kids in their 20s. The dad passed when one kid was ten. Sadly, things can happen even when you plan them and do it the DCUM way.

Okay, but that's much more rare and unexpected. When you have a kid at 82 it's almost guaranteed you won't be there when they grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I thought I wasn't judgmental but I guess I am. This is wild. I don't think it's gross but the kid is going to not have a dad when he's ten.

A couple who fell in love in high school. They married young and had their kids in their 20s. The dad passed when one kid was ten. Sadly, things can happen even when you plan them and do it the DCUM way.

You think I don't know that sad things can happen no matter what? Of course they can. But we generally try to reduce the risk of bad things happening to our kids, right?

Anonymous wrote:This seems to me not that different than a well off woman having a baby with a sperm donor. Pacino will be functionally like grandpa to him, who will likely die in his childhood and he will likely have some nice memories of grandpa Al taking him to some fun stuff qnd saying some wacky things. There are some pros over a sperm bank (you know more about the guy and he is a genuinely talented person as opposed to the list of paper facts you get from a sperm bqnk) and some negatives (higher risk of autism and schizophrenia).

Kids don't get sad when the sperm donor passes away. I am sure Pacino's kid will be fine but he has some guaranteed childhood hardships right out of the gate.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I thought I wasn't judgmental but I guess I am. This is wild. I don't think it's gross but the kid is going to not have a dad when he's ten.

A couple who fell in love in high school. They married young and had their kids in their 20s. The dad passed when one kid was ten. Sadly, things can happen even when you plan them and do it the DCUM way.