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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

Be offended, then. Because if OP’s daughter gets pregnant, the burden of raising the child will fall on OP as it always does in such situations. Not to mention, OP’s daughter might not know yet if she’ll want to be sexually active, but if/when she does in the heat of a moment, she needs to have contraception.

Obv OP is going to have a conversation with her adult daughter headed to college to see if she is wanting to get contraception. Her daughter would say no if not interested and OP has to accept that.

It isn’t hard to get contraception. And school heath center can provide this if/when she is ready if she doesn’t want to just yet.

You can get IUD at college heath center? Or just condoms

Some do diaphragm. Which turned out to be a bad choice for me as a grad student. I’m pro-IUD.

Omg. This isn’t 1980. No school heath center is handing out diaphragms in 2023.

Anonymous wrote:IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Many gynecologists do offer numbing, but you have to ask for it.

Anonymous wrote:(1) Take her to a gyn. They will kick you out of the room and discuss with her.
(2) She will figure it out when she gets on campus and goes to health center.
(3) She will do one of the many online services just for this.

Doctors hand out birth control prescriptions to that age group. Just make sure she has the insurance card.

Agree. You don’t need to micromanage this. She is an adult, has heath insurance under you/spouse and can manage this. Absolutely bring it up and ask her if she wants an appt before college, let her know the different sources to obtain birth control in college (health center, planned parenthood, etc.) but otherwise, drop it

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Anonymous wrote:I heard IUD is painful and DD is not yet sexually active. What about the patches? I understand daily pills is hard to manage for college students.

No it's not.

Yes, it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

Be offended, then. Because if OP’s daughter gets pregnant, the burden of raising the child will fall on OP as it always does in such situations. Not to mention, OP’s daughter might not know yet if she’ll want to be sexually active, but if/when she does in the heat of a moment, she needs to have contraception.

Obv OP is going to have a conversation with her adult daughter headed to college to see if she is wanting to get contraception. Her daughter would say no if not interested and OP has to accept that.

It isn’t hard to get contraception. And school heath center can provide this if/when she is ready if she doesn’t want to just yet.

You can get IUD at college heath center? Or just condoms

Some do diaphragm. Which turned out to be a bad choice for me as a grad student. I’m pro-IUD.

My DD started on BC pills but was not good about taking them every day (ADHD) and had a scare or two where she thought she may be pregnant so she came home from college freshman year and went to the gynecologist. She ended up getting Nexplanon implant but she is not really liking it. She has alot of headaches and after going about six months with no period, she is spotting nearly all the time right now, and had a super heavy 10 day period a few weeks ago. I don't think she wants to have the implant out yet, but she said she wishes she'd gotten the IUD.

My girlss can't figure out how to put dishes in the dishwasher or make a bed, but somehow they figured out how to get birth control without involving me.

(1) Take her to a gyn. They will kick you out of the room and discuss with her.
(2) She will figure it out when she gets on campus and goes to health center.
(3) She will do one of the many online services just for this.

Doctors hand out birth control prescriptions to that age group. Just make sure she has the insurance card.

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Anonymous wrote:I would ask her what she thinks? As my kids get older I’m really trying to mom less and empower them to make choices with some light guidance. Where does she think she should go? Does she want to be on BC? If so what type might she like? Ask her what kind of doctor she would like to see.

I’m really surprised though that you have a daughter that is headed off to college and she has never seen a gynecologist. This was our first stop after my daughter got her first period.

Really? I don't know anyone who has brought in a daughter that young. At our gyno/ped the standard is 18 years old or whenever you may become sexually active, whichever comes first.

Ours said age 21, barring some issues or the need for contraception.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

And you were so smart and clever to avoid being raped.

Idk that the risk/benefits of side effects of birth control are worth it if you're only trying to avoid getting pregnant from rape.

Well, out of my group of 10 close girlfriends from college, none of us managed to graduate college without being raped or sexually assaulted. And with the current political climate how it is with abortion being banned all over and talk about banning plan B, I wouldn't send my DD away to college without being on some form of BC.

That's quite shocking. I know #metoo and all but I didn't have a single close friend in college who was raped or assaulted. We didn't hang out at frats though and many of us are now married to our college boyfriends.

Add me to the PPs 10 friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

Be offended, then. Because if OP’s daughter gets pregnant, the burden of raising the child will fall on OP as it always does in such situations. Not to mention, OP’s daughter might not know yet if she’ll want to be sexually active, but if/when she does in the heat of a moment, she needs to have contraception.

+100.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her? I waited until marriage and would have offended if my parents had dragged me to the doctor for birth control just because I was going off to college.

Be offended, then. Because if OP’s daughter gets pregnant, the burden of raising the child will fall on OP as it always does in such situations. Not to mention, OP’s daughter might not know yet if she’ll want to be sexually active, but if/when she does in the heat of a moment, she needs to have contraception.

Obv OP is going to have a conversation with her adult daughter headed to college to see if she is wanting to get contraception. Her daughter would say no if not interested and OP has to accept that.

It isn’t hard to get contraception. And school heath center can provide this if/when she is ready if she doesn’t want to just yet.

This aspect of the conversation is really none of your effing business.

I went on the pill starting in junior high (medical issue) and remembering to take it was not hard. And that was before cell phones with alarms to help remember.

As an adult I went on Nexplanon but I had constant break through bleeding. My GYN said this is common and most people keep Nexplanon less than 2 years as a result.

IUD insertion IS painful. If you’ve had a kid and recall the cervical checks, it’s like that.

They don’t offer numbing because they don’t know who will experience it as very painful and because the medical system doesn’t care about the pain of women.

But, it’s fast, and having a hormonal IUD isn’t painful. There’s an adjustment period where you may have a lot of spotting, but then periods will be lighter/easier or go away.

It’s definitely what I will recommend to my daughter, having used a few methods.

Anonymous wrote:I heard IUD is painful and DD is not yet sexually active. What about the patches? I understand daily pills is hard to manage for college students.

No it's not.