Anonymous wrote:You sound unhinged. Talking to the other parents and setting up playdates is helping your kids have a more engaging social life. If you want to be a SAHM then do it, but don't blame the nanny for this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Guess I’m the minority here, but I don’t think you sound unhinged. Her age and your age and just not compatible. She’s doing what a lot of people find positive behavior, but doesn’t work for you. You don’t have to deal with it. I’d find someone else. It’s okay that you match better with a younger nanny. I have a friend who got rid of her nanny because she was too pretty and made her feel insecure. It’s hard enough to work full time and raise a family. Don’t make things harder if you have control of who you hire.

Thank you. This is where I'm at. This nanny is too close to my age, doesn't have many friends of her own and isn't close to her own family and it feels like she's creeping into my life and overstepping the role that I want. I never felt like this with our last nanny who we had for many years until she retired. She planned play dates all the time and it was a non-issue. In the end, I guess I don't need any other reason to let her go other than it's not a good fit for me. And all the points about me potentially working too much and needing to cut back are probably also correct.

Anonymous wrote:Guess I’m the minority here, but I don’t think you sound unhinged. Her age and your age and just not compatible. She’s doing what a lot of people find positive behavior, but doesn’t work for you. You don’t have to deal with it. I’d find someone else. It’s okay that you match better with a younger nanny. I have a friend who got rid of her nanny because she was too pretty and made her feel insecure. It’s hard enough to work full time and raise a family. Don’t make things harder if you have control of who you hire.

Anonymous wrote:We have a nanny in her mid-thirties who never had kids of her own. She's pretty good but not great. We've had different nannies for 12 years now - she's better than most: she's almost always available when we need her for a later night or if we want to get away for an overnight trip she can do it. My issue is that she's starting to insert herself into what should be "my" role as a mom - like she directly plans play dates and is getting birthday party invites directly from other parents for my youngest. She sits around chatting with moms at school and extracurricular activities. I'm starting to want to just fire her and stay home with my last kid. I've never felt this way before. I actually like-to-love my job that I've spent my entire life working to create. I also hate the idea of becoming financially dependent on my spouse. Our marriage is mostly good but we've had some trials. I've just never felt this way about a nanny before, mostly because I've never had one who overstepped in this way. I also feel like she's become overly attached to my youngest, like I have this fear of her running away with my child. Again, never before in 12 years have I felt like this before.
Am I being ridiculous here? Any dealt with this?

Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous as hell. You have to decide, do you want to miss out on these things experiences or quit/scale back your job?


I thought this was going to be about a nanny who is gossiping / spreading private info about your family around town. You’re upset she’s setting up play dates and accepting birthday invites…?!