Anonymous wrote:Do suggest premarital counseling so they are well equipped to handle marital life and medical career.

It can be liberating mot to worry about dating and hookups or loneliness during long years of medical education and training.

Premarital counseling is a good idea. But it's incredibly naive to think being engaged negates relationship drama and all the other things you listed.

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Anonymous wrote:I told my kids 25 is the absolute youngest.

For engagement or marriage?
What is the penalty if they disobey you?

Engagement. They won’t have my support.

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Anonymous wrote:If they wait to finish medical school, residency and fellowship, tgey'll have to wait 10 years.

This. Also, I know some doctors who waited and are now single at 40.

Oh no! The horror of being single at 40!

LOL. They are the lucky ones.

Anonymous wrote:You’re asking the wrong crowd. People on here think marrying before 30 is too young.

Incorrect..op is going to get responses telling how they are someone they know married at 23 and they are very happy so op should just myob.

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Anonymous wrote:If they wait to finish medical school, residency and fellowship, tgey'll have to wait 10 years.

This. Also, I know some doctors who waited and are now single at 40.

Oh no! The horror of being single at 40!

Anonymous wrote:If they wait to finish medical school, residency and fellowship, tgey'll have to wait 10 years.

This. Also, I know some doctors who waited and are now single at 40.

They sound like a great couple. Are they in MEd school together? The only thing would be what happens if one gets on abs the other doesn’t. Or they get in to different med schools that are far from each orger

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Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Great idea! She should sleep around and settle at 35, she’ll be so much happier!

Well, sleeping with more than one dude in your entire life is ideal, Church Lady.

I nannied for a youngish couple who had been together since high school. They were med school residents when I knew them and they had twins via IVF during med school. It's been a few years since I knew them and they're still together.

Normally, I'd say under 25 is too young, but it sounds like they're a good fit. Even if your daughter's marriage ultimately ends in divorce or they end up not marrying at all, they still have this time and these experiences to build upon and that's not a bad thing. Also, if they're going to med school together, that's a good sign because it's not like she dropped out of college to support him in his advanced degree and to have babies, only to be dumped later with 3 kids and no education/skills/work experience.

I'd support her/them and see where it goes. It might all be OK and if not, seems like they're still having some great life experiences together.

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Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Terrible idea. OP’s daughter’s male doctor partner will be a hot commodity in the dating market for decades to come. OP’s daughter, on the other hand, will for the next 7 years, max.

Not to mention that the physical stress of residency is bad for a doctor’s fertility.

Gross response. Yuck.

Truth hurts.

Arguing that people are commodities is not the “truth,” except maybe in your messed up world where getting a ring at 23 was your ultimate personal accomplishment.

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Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Terrible idea. OP’s daughter’s male doctor partner will be a hot commodity in the dating market for decades to come. OP’s daughter, on the other hand, will for the next 7 years, max.

Not to mention that the physical stress of residency is bad for a doctor’s fertility.

Gross response. Yuck.

Truth hurts.

So she is mature enough to make the huge life decision to devote years and lots of money to becoming a doctor, but is too young/immature to choose a life partner?

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Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Terrible idea. OP’s daughter’s male doctor partner will be a hot commodity in the dating market for decades to come. OP’s daughter, on the other hand, will for the next 7 years, max.

Not to mention that the physical stress of residency is bad for a doctor’s fertility.

Gross response. Yuck.

Getting engaged isn't always for immediate wedding and kids, its to show commitment and align future plans and destinations.

A committed relationship can be a gateway to personal growth and emotional maturity.