Anonymous wrote:We do not use outdated, patriarchal terms like “mom,” “dad,” “mother” or “father” in our household.

We do not use outdated, patriarchal terms like “mom,” “dad,” “mother” or “father” in our household.

I wouldn't like my kids calling me by my name but if the want to then its fine. I'm not going to disinherit them or get into arguments about it. Its just not as sweet so it would take some time to adjust.

Anonymous wrote:What if they prefer to call you by your first names?

Note: I am not talking about what to call relatives/neighbors/friends etc. I already know the answer to that.

Imho its not about respect or power but about the special bond between parents and their babies.

Anonymous wrote:For once I actually have something interesting to say here!
Perhaps the most famous baby/child doctor/pediatrician of all time was Dr. Benjamin Spock. Dr. Spock worked at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn. from 1947 to 1951. His Baby and Child Care book, over 50 million copies sold, was written and published while he was there, in 1946.
My family not only lived in Rochester at the time; we lived next door to Dr. Spock and his family. I was a young child at the time.
Years later, when Dr. Spock became a famous liberal, to some left wing, I asked my parents what he had been like. Was he super liberal then? Their response: not that they noticed EXCEPT that in his family, their children called him and his wife by their first names: Benji and ..... I don't remember what his wife's first name was.

Fascinating! My kids were born in the 70s and my mom gave me Dr. Spock's book and I read it and learned a lot. In fact when my tiny son was projectile vomiting the Enfamil they sent home from the hospital with him mom recommended the evaporated milk and Karo syrup formula in Spock's book which I tried and my son digested that well and stopped vomiting so I used it until he was off formula and on to regular whole milk, also used it for my second child. I still don't fully understand why people today think that formula is such a bad idea given the scarcity of baby formula last year, like if you can't get the formula product you usually use why not use that in a pinch? Parents now seem to think your baby will die or be brain damaged on Dr. Spock's formula even though a huge number of people who are parents now got it as babies and are apparently doing fine, other than not recognizing that they are doing fine even though they drank Carnation milk as babies.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure kids that call their parents by their first names are future serial killers. And I'm not joking

Kamala Harris’ step kids call their dad Doug.

That's probably because she insists on it to cut him out of the picture.

Stupid take.

Hmmmm.. it absolutely never came up. I'm sure my kids thought our names were Mommy and Daddy. They only learned some people have a different name for us much, much later.

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Anonymous wrote:using the terms “mother,” and “father” to describe parenthood, excludes those who do not identify with gender-binaries.

In other words, using “mother” or “father” is transphobic.

+1000

my 2 y.o. uses mama and daddy interchangeably for me. I answer to both . (Would prefer though that she use ima/abba but I'll take what I can get. )

I call my parents by their first names. I don't think they cared and I wouldn't care.

To the PP who at 52 still uses mom and dad that seems so WEIRD to me. I haven't used mommy and daddy since I was a child. I can't imagine using those terms now.

You’ve never heard anyone say Mom or Dad?

I'm almost 50 and I'm rarely with people who are also with their parents. So no I can't recall that I have experienced an adult addressing their parents as mom and dad. First names seem more respectful at some point once you are an adult.

Eh

No. My title is mom to my kids and forever will be. I'm 40 and have never addressed my parents by their first names. I probably never will.

Anonymous wrote:For once I actually have something interesting to say here!
Perhaps the most famous baby/child doctor/pediatrician of all time was Dr. Benjamin Spock. Dr. Spock worked at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn. from 1947 to 1951. His Baby and Child Care book, over 50 million copies sold, was written and published while he was there, in 1946.
My family not only lived in Rochester at the time; we lived next door to Dr. Spock and his family. I was a young child at the time.
Years later, when Dr. Spock became a famous liberal, to some left wing, I asked my parents what he had been like. Was he super liberal then? Their response: not that they noticed EXCEPT that in his family, their children called him and his wife by their first names: Benji and ..... I don't remember what his wife's first name was.

Even he knows not to put that in his books.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure kids that call their parents by their first names are future serial killers. And I'm not joking

Kamala Harris’ step kids call their dad Doug.

That's probably because she insists on it to cut him out of the picture.

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure kids that call their parents by their first names are future serial killers. And I'm not joking

Kamala Harris’ step kids call their dad Doug.

For once I actually have something interesting to say here!
Perhaps the most famous baby/child doctor/pediatrician of all time was Dr. Benjamin Spock. Dr. Spock worked at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn. from 1947 to 1951. His Baby and Child Care book, over 50 million copies sold, was written and published while he was there, in 1946.
My family not only lived in Rochester at the time; we lived next door to Dr. Spock and his family. I was a young child at the time.
Years later, when Dr. Spock became a famous liberal, to some left wing, I asked my parents what he had been like. Was he super liberal then? Their response: not that they noticed EXCEPT that in his family, their children called him and his wife by their first names: Benji and ..... I don't remember what his wife's first name was.

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Anonymous wrote:I also make my kids call everyone Mr/Ms

If I say “call me Larla,” your child will call me Larla

My kids know to call everyone Mr./Ms. until they say call me, XXX.

Mine calls me by my first name only to get a reaction out of me. Normally its mom.