Anonymous wrote:I went on a trip last year to NYC with my adult kids. I didn't really want to go there but they convinced me it would be fun. They were right! I told them I can't walk very far or very fast, I have to sit down and rest sometimes, sometimes I even need a nap to make it through the day. They said, that's why you should go with us because we get all that and we will make sure it's fun even while accommodating your wants and needs. I had to agree that sounded like a great plan. I would do it again in a heartbeat, I love them so much! Getting old is turning out to not be so bad!
Anonymous wrote:I’m a little astounded people are giving up on their parents in their 70s. That’s so young! We took my parents to Alaska when they were 88 and Costa Rica two years before that. It’s great because if one of the kids wants to hang back, they can hang with them. And I always put a kid in their room so we aren’t too crowded. And the kids really get a lot out of it—they love to show things to their grandparents and also are really considerate about things like helping them on stairs, etc. They are 95 now and my kids are so sad they can’t travel anymore.
Anyway, I think it just takes a little adjustment of expecatations and then it can really work great!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m a little astounded people are giving up on their parents in their 70s. That’s so young! We took my parents to Alaska when they were 88 and Costa Rica two years before that. It’s great because if one of the kids wants to hang back, they can hang with them. And I always put a kid in their room so we aren’t too crowded. And the kids really get a lot out of it—they love to show things to their grandparents and also are really considerate about things like helping them on stairs, etc. They are 95 now and my kids are so sad they can’t travel anymore.
Anyway, I think it just takes a little adjustment of expecatations and then it can really work great!
21:21 PP here...um...this is a pretty tone deaf post...I haven't 'given up' on my parents, who are in their 70's. Dad's Parkinsons doesn't care that he's in his 70's, and he isn't likely to live to 88 (or even 80). The road trip last summer was so hard on them and me, because of the disease's progression-before that, they traveled fairly normally, and because they hadn't traveled really since before covid we didn't really realize how difficult it would be at this point.
So, now my very considerate adult kids are going to my folks (involves travel) because they love their grandparents and want to see them.
Anonymous wrote:Re:renting a beach house. NP here. ILs want an early dinner. A sit down dinner, all of us. They make fixing dinner a huge production, takes forever and we'd rather grab and go. 4-7+pm is our favorite time on the beach.
Anonymous wrote:I’m a little astounded people are giving up on their parents in their 70s. That’s so young! We took my parents to Alaska when they were 88 and Costa Rica two years before that. It’s great because if one of the kids wants to hang back, they can hang with them. And I always put a kid in their room so we aren’t too crowded. And the kids really get a lot out of it—they love to show things to their grandparents and also are really considerate about things like helping them on stairs, etc. They are 95 now and my kids are so sad they can’t travel anymore.
Anyway, I think it just takes a little adjustment of expecatations and then it can really work great!
Anonymous wrote:I’m a little astounded people are giving up on their parents in their 70s. That’s so young! We took my parents to Alaska when they were 88 and Costa Rica two years before that. It’s great because if one of the kids wants to hang back, they can hang with them. And I always put a kid in their room so we aren’t too crowded. And the kids really get a lot out of it—they love to show things to their grandparents and also are really considerate about things like helping them on stairs, etc. They are 95 now and my kids are so sad they can’t travel anymore.
Anyway, I think it just takes a little adjustment of expecatations and then it can really work great!