It’s ironic that many posters say their kids aren’t into publicizing their choice on their HS Insta, yet they are putting it on LinkedIn, Reels, TikTok, etc. The latter isn’t consistent with the notion that these kids aren’t into social media, etc. It’s also inconsistent with the notion that these kids are hiding from “stalkers.” Maybe it’s consistent with the notion that they don’t want other kids at their school to feel bad. But, again, the irony that TJ leads this trend is interesting. Does anybody remember that TJ’s principal withheld National Merit notifications in the name of equity? Maybe they’re also being shamed into not posting great college acceptances. Crazy!

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

Nah - according to my kid at Blair the kids that got offers from MIT (at least 4 and counting) and other schools just aren't into publicizing.

I wonder if some of that is the DEI type backlash.

Or are just naturally modest and don't want to make their peers who may not have done as well feel bad.

There's been a shift away from the "perfect reality" posting on Insta--and to all sorts of personal bragging on social media. Last year's BeReal trend was part of that (though that's over too now). I think a lot of kids are just tired of the presentational mode. Plus, the college application season is a fraught time with friends---better to just keep it on the down-low and celebrate with your family rather than publicly.

Anonymous wrote:Kids work hard and displaying where they go to school isn’t to make others feel bad. It’s because they’ve worked so hard and are so excited! For some people it’s an easy path and for some it’s an uphill challenge. I don’t care where you are going, be proud of it, celebrate that accomplishment, and clap for others.

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So sad that certain kinds of adults are not able to clap for others, and also fail to teach their children the same. In fact, it seems these miserable adults don't even clap for their own kids- maybe if they did they would not be stalking other kids. Jealousy will eat you up from the inside OP. Do better.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

Nah - according to my kid at Blair the kids that got offers from MIT (at least 4 and counting) and other schools just aren't into publicizing.

I wonder if some of that is the DEI type backlash.

Or are just naturally modest and don't want to make their peers who may not have done as well feel bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

Nah - according to my kid at Blair the kids that got offers from MIT (at least 4 and counting) and other schools just aren't into publicizing.

I wonder if some of that is the DEI type backlash.

Anonymous wrote:That’s a lot of conclusions based on a lack of evidence. But do carry on.

Op never came back?

Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

Nah - according to my kid at Blair the kids that got offers from MIT (at least 4 and counting) and other schools just aren't into publicizing.

Anonymous wrote:Kids work hard and displaying where they go to school isn’t to make others feel bad. It’s because they’ve worked so hard and are so excited! For some people it’s an easy path and for some it’s an uphill challenge. I don’t care where you are going, be proud of it, celebrate that accomplishment, and clap for others.

Yes, and go and brag about it on Instagram and Facebook for the world to see!

Kids work hard and displaying where they go to school isn’t to make others feel bad. It’s because they’ve worked so hard and are so excited! For some people it’s an easy path and for some it’s an uphill challenge. I don’t care where you are going, be proud of it, celebrate that accomplishment, and clap for others.

Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

There is no correlation between posting on Instagram and if a kid is happy with their college choice. It seems like the concept is really school dependent on how many kids participate. Smaller schools seem to have a higher percentage participating. Also, at our school it’s at least 2/3 girls posting, so it more just who’s into social media. The one boy going to Stanford hasn’t posted yet, and who knows if he will.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD and her friends have all decided and are all happy with their choices (range from highly selective privates, selective in-state public, mid-range privates) but didn't share on the school's Instagram decisions. They just don't care to do that.

^^^ this is the case for my son and his friends. He says only the people who want to make other people feel bad put stuff on Instagram.

No different than putting in your bio “Yale ‘27”

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What are the kids going to ivies supposed to do? Would OP be happy if they just failed? I mean, listen to yourselves.

My kid is not at an ivy but y'all sound very catty and quite ridiculous. These are kids. If they are doing well, so be it. What are you teaching your kids? To be sour grapes, and not improve themselves? Is that a good parent?

Most of these kids are going to make more than I ever will. It has nothing to do with me - or OP, for that matter. Don't invite bad karma, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.

a large % of RMIB students go to UMD, my kid included, and I don't think they want to boast about that on IG.

You have confirmation bias, OP.

I wouldn’t read anything into this at all. From what my DD told me a lot of the kids who have decided and haven’t posted on the class insta have their decision on their personal insta. My DD has not posted but she is happy with her decision, all her classmates, family and friend know where she is going. She is in a 5 person friend group; 2 have posted, 2 still deciding and she (the procrastinator), intends to share to school insta some time soon.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD and her friends have all decided and are all happy with their choices (range from highly selective privates, selective in-state public, mid-range privates) but didn't share on the school's Instagram decisions. They just don't care to do that.

^^^ this is the case for my son and his friends. He says only the people who want to make other people feel bad put stuff on Instagram.

No different than putting in your bio “Yale ‘27”