I also became the bad person again when I decided to end the marriage. You see he would have stayed married so I was the less religious one in his eyes for divorcing. So many people I know use religion as a tool to refocus their energies somewhere else after sinning rather than working on fixing the sin. Many people do understand they are a work in progress and are always trying to show grace to themselves and others while working on improvement for themselves and society relative to what they are actually doing rather than judging but then there is another group that is just trying to deflect their personal failings. They need accountability groups or something and it’s hard to watch because they end up becoming distrustful of the world and others and more in trust of themselves as a protection mechanism so I get the feeling they won’t change.

My experience married to a closeted gay man was that he rationalizes the cheating as something he had to hide because of church and didn’t know he could live freely in his life. He rationalized that I wasn’t always the best wife to him as if it would matter. He realized he has a problem and prayed to God about it. I ceased to exist as a person and his life became that of an addict seeking God to help him with this issue. I was basically forgotten about and if remembered it was only to tell me how I didn’t read the Bible enough. You know while taking care of the family while he was busy going back and forth from reading the Bible to having sex with others all over the dmv. He actually met a lot of men in church. I think they compartmentalized it that they gave their wives children and supported the family and so this was just something they did to bond with other men on the side. They rationalized that the religion didn’t care that much about sex.

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Anonymous wrote:It is actually incomprehensible to me, because if someone really believes in that religion, then how could they violate its laws? I mean, I know there are occasions when people make a mistake and fall in love and just can't help it, but the serial cheaters who don't even try are the ones who confuse me.

Hundreds of priests have abused kids. Many messed up people use religion as a shield to make them and others feel better about themselves.

Millions of parents, teachers, doctors, elected officials, etc, have abused kids.

Many messed up people use drugs, alcohol ,money, political power and influence, their position of authority within countless institutions and communities, etc, as a shield to make themselves and others feel better about themselves.

Lots of people get away with their abuse, too. They are never held to account for their abuses. Religious institutions are not the only institutions that abuse kids, women, etc. That doesn’t mean religious institutions should not be held accountable for the abuse that takes place within said institutions- they should be.

Foster homes, juvenile detention facilities, schools, both public and private, you name it- there are predators seeking out children to abuse. Any institution or person or group charged with the care and protection of kids is just that. Look at the thread on the Dalai Lama- dude was caught publicly asking a young boy to suck his tongue, and lots of people are offering excuses for his disgusting sexual abuse. It’s malignant and foul. Tell me, if a Catholic priest was caught doing the same thing, who would be rushing in to give cultural excuses for the priest?

Anonymous wrote:It is actually incomprehensible to me, because if someone really believes in that religion, then how could they violate its laws? I mean, I know there are occasions when people make a mistake and fall in love and just can't help it, but the serial cheaters who don't even try are the ones who confuse me.

Hundreds of priests have abused kids. Many messed up people use religion as a shield to make them and others feel better about themselves.

Anonymous wrote:Most "religious people" are religious on Saturday or Sunday, M-F not so much. Oh and they like to be "religious" when they catch someone else doing something 'wrong'.

Speak for yourself-but feel free to make generalizations about most religious people as hypocrites?

It is actually incomprehensible to me, because if someone really believes in that religion, then how could they violate its laws? I mean, I know there are occasions when people make a mistake and fall in love and just can't help it, but the serial cheaters who don't even try are the ones who confuse me.

Anonymous wrote:Most "religious people" are religious on Saturday or Sunday, M-F not so much. Oh and they like to be "religious" when they catch someone else doing something 'wrong'.

Not Saturday night and brunch on Sunday.

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Anonymous wrote:Beg for forgiveness on Sunday. Then do it again. Beg again.

This is what Catholics do. I’m not sure how evangelicals justify it.

Actually Catholics are not forgiven unless they stop the sins.

Evangelical only have to accept Jesus as their savior to go to Heaven, they can sin all they want. It’s why evangelicals target addicts.

Can you cite the source of your information that evangelicals can sin all they want and still go to heaven? Who taught you that? Please post a source for that claim.

Is your google broken?

https://truthsaves.org/articles/can-a-christian-die-in-sin/

“But, you might ask, if the Christian life is such, then what keeps a person from coming to Christ and then using the liberty that person gains to go out and sin all they want? Paul answers this question as well in Romans 6. If we have been freed from sin by coming to Christ, why would we want to be entangled back into that yoke of bondage? When we sin, sin takes hold of us and destroys the sweetness of our relationship with Christ and brings us back into bondage. Additionally, if we are truly Christians, God will discipline us (Hebrews 12:4-13).”


No, but you cherry picked the article you linked, and ignored the part that doesn’t support your claim.

You can still sin and go to heaven if you accept Christ. You cherry picked quote does not say otherwise.

Most "religious people" are religious on Saturday or Sunday, M-F not so much. Oh and they like to be "religious" when they catch someone else doing something 'wrong'.

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Anonymous wrote:Beg for forgiveness on Sunday. Then do it again. Beg again.

This is what Catholics do. I’m not sure how evangelicals justify it.

Actually Catholics are not forgiven unless they stop the sins.

Evangelical only have to accept Jesus as their savior to go to Heaven, they can sin all they want. It’s why evangelicals target addicts.

Can you cite the source of your information that evangelicals can sin all they want and still go to heaven? Who taught you that? Please post a source for that claim.

Is your google broken?

https://truthsaves.org/articles/can-a-christian-die-in-sin/

“But, you might ask, if the Christian life is such, then what keeps a person from coming to Christ and then using the liberty that person gains to go out and sin all they want? Paul answers this question as well in Romans 6. If we have been freed from sin by coming to Christ, why would we want to be entangled back into that yoke of bondage? When we sin, sin takes hold of us and destroys the sweetness of our relationship with Christ and brings us back into bondage. Additionally, if we are truly Christians, God will discipline us (Hebrews 12:4-13).”


No, but you cherry picked the article you linked, and ignored the part that doesn’t support your claim.

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Anonymous wrote:Beg for forgiveness on Sunday. Then do it again. Beg again.

This is what Catholics do. I’m not sure how evangelicals justify it.

Actually Catholics are not forgiven unless they stop the sins.

Evangelical only have to accept Jesus as their savior to go to Heaven, they can sin all they want. It’s why evangelicals target addicts.

Can you cite the source of your information that evangelicals can sin all they want and still go to heaven? Who taught you that? Please post a source for that claim.

Is your google broken?

https://truthsaves.org/articles/can-a-christian-die-in-sin/

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Beg for forgiveness on Sunday. Then do it again. Beg again.

This is what Catholics do. I’m not sure how evangelicals justify it.

Actually Catholics are not forgiven unless they stop the sins.

Evangelical only have to accept Jesus as their savior to go to Heaven, they can sin all they want. It’s why evangelicals target addicts.

Can you cite the source of your information that evangelicals can sin all they want and still go to heaven? Who taught you that? Please post a source for that claim.

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Anonymous wrote:Beg for forgiveness on Sunday. Then do it again. Beg again.

This is what Catholics do. I’m not sure how evangelicals justify it.

Actually Catholics are not forgiven unless they stop the sins.

Evangelical only have to accept Jesus as their savior to go to Heaven, they can sin all they want. It’s why evangelicals target addicts.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people don't justify it. Only God can forgive. She's still a work in progress, etc.

It shows that being religious doesn't make you any different or better than anyone else.

My religion teaches me that all men/women are created equal…and all sinners, too. Religious people are not better or worse than non-religious people. Religion doesn’t save you. Religion does not make any person perfect. Going to church doesn’t make you sinless.

In Christianity, Jesus took our sin onto himself and died to redeem us.

Yes, but - sounds like a cop out to me. Believe in Jesus, but ignore his rules and the rules of society when it doesn't suit you. Using "We're all sinners" as an excuse to sin.

Every believer has, at one time or another, lamented his or her inability to stop sinning. While we tend to think the problem stems from weakness in ourselves, the inability to stop sinning usually indicates a deficiency in our understanding of God’s strength. When we do not understand His power to save, forgive, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9), we can get caught in a destructive cycle of sin, guilt, and fear, which leads to a lack of joy in our salvation, which leads to more sin.


Paul explains this in Romans 7:7–10. When we understand a law, like “do not covet,” our sin nature inevitably rebels against that law, and we covet. This is the plight of man—it is simply how we are.

The only way to break the cycle and stop sinning is to accept the fact that we cannot stop sinning. This may seem contradictory, but if a person does not stop trying to save himself, he will never rest in the knowledge that God has saved him. The joy of salvation comes from accepting the fact that God’s grace covers us, that He will change us and conform us to the image of Christ, and that it is His work, not ours (Romans 8:29; Philippians 1:6; Philippians 2:13; Hebrews 13:20-21). Once this reality is truly grasped, sin loses its power. We no longer feel the impulse to turn to sin as a means of temporary relief from anxiety, because the anxiety and pressure has been relieved once for all by Christ (Hebrews 10:10, 14). Then, the good works we accomplish in faith are done because of love and joy rather than out of fear or duty.

https://www.gotquestions.org/stop-sinning.html

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Anonymous wrote:Love it Bible thumping hypocrisy

Let’s see just yesterday it came out that the lead Tennessee repuke who is a racist cheating on his wife

And another Bible thumping minister who abused kids in texas

As awful as those people are, you don’t sound like someone I’d want to be friends with.

Neither do you, because you seem to enjoy telling people - strangers on the internet -- that you don't like them.