Anonymous
04/14/2023 19:22
Subject: Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever
Anonymous wrote:I want to d*e
Im effed arent I
Call a suicide hotline, OP. Your repeated references to self harm are well beyond the scope of this board.
Anonymous
04/14/2023 19:14
Subject: Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here, yes I live at home. But i dont wanna move out is that weird? The only time i wanna move out is times like these. But i know if i moved out id be miserable. Ive really never had the desire to live alone
OP,
I haven't read anything but your OP.
I had a very similar upbringing down to living with my parents in my early 20s. It's typical that you feel like you don't want to move. Nothing in the way I was raised made it easy to do. You will feel really guilty. It's part of your upbringing. I know. I had it too. I'm in my late 40s and still feel it.
It's not healthy to stay. You will regret it as you age and nothing changes. Their demands will never stop. It is possible to love your mom and still realize thst they will never treat you as an adult.
I finally cut the cord after I had my own kids and realized that even though I had literally done everything "right" that they wouldn't treat me any better. I thought of all the wasted years where I said no to innocent experiences because of my letting my parents take the reins to my life. Oh well better now than never.
Be good to yourself and make a plan to move yourself out. Don't talk about it too much, because you will feel bad. That's just how we were raised. Think of what your 50 year old self would tell you. Push past.
Good luck!
Sorry meant to add: if you are still in college or another educational situation, finish and then make a plan. Suck it up until then.
Anonymous
04/14/2023 19:07
Subject: Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever
Anonymous wrote:Op here, yes I live at home. But i dont wanna move out is that weird? The only time i wanna move out is times like these. But i know if i moved out id be miserable. Ive really never had the desire to live alone
OP,
I haven't read anything but your OP.
I had a very similar upbringing down to living with my parents in my early 20s. It's typical that you feel like you don't want to move. Nothing in the way I was raised made it easy to do. You will feel really guilty. It's part of your upbringing. I know. I had it too. I'm in my late 40s and still feel it.
It's not healthy to stay. You will regret it as you age and nothing changes. Their demands will never stop. It is possible to love your mom and still realize thst they will never treat you as an adult.
I finally cut the cord after I had my own kids and realized that even though I had literally done everything "right" that they wouldn't treat me any better. I thought of all the wasted years where I said no to innocent experiences because of my letting my parents take the reins to my life. Oh well better now than never.
Be good to yourself and make a plan to move yourself out. Don't talk about it too much, because you will feel bad. That's just how we were raised. Think of what your 50 year old self would tell you. Push past.
Good luck!
Anonymous
04/14/2023 18:21
Subject: Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever
Spend the weekend looking up therapists. Yes, your end goal should be moving out and learning to be independent, but it appears you're a long way from that. The only way to get out of the hole you are in is to get therapy. You need to get some self esteem and to learn how to deal with things. You overreact in your posts and lash out. You're also a bit emotionally stunted (the result of having over bearing patients). Therapy willl help with those things. Once those are better, you'll be in a better place to be a fully functioning adult.
Anonymous
04/14/2023 17:33
Subject: Re:Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever
I think you should be like that lady in the Greek Wedding and take a pottery class on the weekends.