Anonymous wrote:All of you please stop pushing fruit! This generation is not metabolically healthy and they need good fats and proteins, plus low-starch veg. (Also even todays apples are far more sugary than 50 years ago). PP’s who combine fruit with fats have the right idea.

I would sit down and make a list of *everything* in that category your child likes. We end up with a lot of olives and coconut-rich smoothies because my kids like them. For you it might be avocado toast with eggs and frequent broccoli. Don’t be afraid to repeat and repeat because chances are there aren’t that many foods that support metabolic health that everyone will happily eat. This will help blunt cravings and increase satiety. I agree you can’t control what she eats outside of the home without blowback.

And to all the judgmental PP’s, this may not be your kid now but it very well may be at 20 or 30, especially when the sports slow down, the drinking goes up and the endocrine issues get triggered by stressors.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

They are not just built that way. Your DD is not just muscular, she is overweight.

Pp and thanks for your thoughtful commentary, but I’ll think I’ll listen to the pediatrician. Not some rando on DCUM.

Good for you, terrible for your child.

So enlighten me. What would you like my 9yo DD to do? Starve herself? Throw up her food after every meal? I’d love to hear your suggestions.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

They are not just built that way. Your DD is not just muscular, she is overweight.

Pp and thanks for your thoughtful commentary, but I’ll think I’ll listen to the pediatrician. Not some rando on DCUM.

Good for you, terrible for your child.

Anonymous wrote:All of you please stop pushing fruit! This generation is not metabolically healthy and they need good fats and proteins, plus low-starch veg. (Also even todays apples are far more sugary than 50 years ago). PP’s who combine fruit with fats have the right idea.

I would sit down and make a list of *everything* in that category your child likes. We end up with a lot of olives and coconut-rich smoothies because my kids like them. For you it might be avocado toast with eggs and frequent broccoli. Don’t be afraid to repeat and repeat because chances are there aren’t that many foods that support metabolic health that everyone will happily eat. This will help blunt cravings and increase satiety. I agree you can’t control what she eats outside of the home without blowback.

And to all the judgmental PP’s, this may not be your kid now but it very well may be at 20 or 30, especially when the sports slow down, the drinking goes up and the endocrine issues get triggered by stressors.

Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

They are not just built that way. Your DD is not just muscular, she is overweight.

Pp and thanks for your thoughtful commentary, but I’ll think I’ll listen to the pediatrician. Not some rando on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

They are not just built that way. Your DD is not just muscular, she is overweight.

Anonymous wrote:The pediatrician's advise sounds a little extreme unless he confirmed your DD's diet is based on processed foods and sweets (and it doesn't sound like it is). People talk about how much teen boys eat sometimes, but the biggest eater in my house was my daughter during the tween years (I was the same at that age). It all leveled out by 8th grade or so.

Do you have kids? They're not mini-adults, they're supposed to be smaller. Kids don't attain their adult weight until they're adults - or at least, they aren't supposed to.

The idea that every kid has to have a scrawny beanpole stage is simply not true. Lots of kids get a bit chunky before a major growth spurt. Some kids are never skinny at all but still end up a normal, healthy weight.

I'm the same height and weight in middle age that I was at age 12 (5'4 and around 115-120 pounds - I was maybe an inch shorter back then). Maybe I wasn't "supposed" to weigh so much, but I did and it didn't really cause any problems. My DD and DS were the same. We're all pretty solidly built and never had a skinny phase.

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Anonymous wrote:My Dd is 11 and overweight. We never eat fast food. No potato chips. No sodas. But every two hours she says she’s hungry and we don’t want to restrict food. I just decided to put all the control in her hands. I tell her what I recommend she eat (a banana with peanut butter as a snack, or apple and cheese) and she decides whether to eat it or something else. I’m hoping it helps her feel more in control and therefore eat less.

Seriously? You are a parent and you put all the control in the 11-year-old hands. Why is it all or nothing? Why can't you cook healthy food and stop with peanut butter, and cheese, and cook her a stew? Nobody got overweight from eating three homemade meals per day.

You think a kid is overweight from snacking on an apple and cheese? Seriously?

Anonymous wrote:Op, my daughter is the same age, height and weight as your DD. She swims 3-6 days per week year round (club swim, so we’re talking about 2000 yards per practice) and eats healthier than most adults I know. She was born in the 99th percentile for height and weight and that’s where she remains. Her pediatrician is not concerned at all. Some kids are just built that way. My DH was like that and both his parents were like that. They are all now super tall (DH is 6’3”) and a very normal, healthy weight. At some point, they shot straight up and all that weight shifted. If someone ever told my DD she was overweight to her face…we would have words.

Anonymous wrote:The pediatrician's advise sounds a little extreme unless he confirmed your DD's diet is based on processed foods and sweets (and it doesn't sound like it is). People talk about how much teen boys eat sometimes, but the biggest eater in my house was my daughter during the tween years (I was the same at that age). It all leveled out by 8th grade or so.

Do you have kids? They're not mini-adults, they're supposed to be smaller. Kids don't attain their adult weight until they're adults - or at least, they aren't supposed to.

The idea that every kid has to have a scrawny beanpole stage is simply not true. Lots of kids get a bit chunky before a major growth spurt. Some kids are never skinny at all but still end up a normal, healthy weight.

I'm the same height and weight in middle age that I was at age 12 (5'4 and around 115-120 pounds - I was maybe an inch shorter back then). Maybe I wasn't "supposed" to weigh so much, but I did and it didn't really cause any problems. My DD and DS were the same. We're all pretty solidly built and never had a skinny phase.