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Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!

Do you mean he picked the dish for your or did he just conveyed your selection to the waitress?

Conveys your selection to the waitress.
It’s pretty normal to talk about the menu when you go to a restaurant. You tell him what you want and what looks good to you. He talks about what he wants and what looks good to him. When the waiter comes, he conveys both of your orders.

DP but this happened to me. And when I said what looked good to me I didn't mention I planned to get the sauce on the side. The man went ahead and ordered for me as is, before I could say anything, and it wasn't what I wanted. So it was a fail. Thanks, but no thanks, I can order for myself.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Whoever gets to a door should check if someone is behind them and hold it open for that person (unless it causes that person to feel like they have to run; I always tell people to take their time but I know that can feel awkward). The person for whom the door was held open should say thank you.

This. It's just about courtesy, not just men doing it for the "poor, weak, need-to-be-cared-for" women.

Women do not do this.

Women do this. If you are a woman and don’t hold the door open for whoever is behind you, then you need to start. You are the odd one.

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Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!

Do you mean he picked the dish for your or did he just conveyed your selection to the waitress?

Conveys your selection to the waitress.
It’s pretty normal to talk about the menu when you go to a restaurant. You tell him what you want and what looks good to you. He talks about what he wants and what looks good to him. When the waiter comes, he conveys both of your orders.

It's Point Four in Damone's Five Point Plan. Men have died trying to get this information, but I'll post it here for free:

One: Never let on how much you like a girl.

Two: Always call the shots.

Three: Act like wherever you are, that's the place to be.

Four: When ordering food, find out what she wants and then order for both of you... it's a classy move.

Five: When you get down to making out, whenever possible, put on the first side of Led Zeppelin IV.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Whoever gets to a door should check if someone is behind them and hold it open for that person (unless it causes that person to feel like they have to run; I always tell people to take their time but I know that can feel awkward). The person for whom the door was held open should say thank you.

This. It's just about courtesy, not just men doing it for the "poor, weak, need-to-be-cared-for" women.

Women do not do this.

Anonymous wrote:Lol at the outrage of having a man order your meal at a restaurant while in the other thread, you’re painstakingly deciding which career is best so you can SAH and be complete financially dependent on your husband.

Any sane and intelligent person would realize these groups don't overlap.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Whoever gets to a door should check if someone is behind them and hold it open for that person (unless it causes that person to feel like they have to run; I always tell people to take their time but I know that can feel awkward). The person for whom the door was held open should say thank you.

This. It's just about courtesy, not just men doing it for the "poor, weak, need-to-be-cared-for" women.

Anonymous wrote:Lol at the outrage of having a man order your meal at a restaurant while in the other thread, you’re painstakingly deciding which career is best so you can SAH and be complete financially dependent on your husband.

Are you confused? What does a woman voluntarily staying at home to *raise a man’s children* have to do with letting someone else decide what you are going to eat?

Lol at the outrage of having a man order your meal at a restaurant while in the other thread, you’re painstakingly deciding which career is best so you can SAH and be complete financially dependent on your husband.

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Some women love it, some hate it. There have been at least 2 first dates where I was marked down by my date because I didn't order for her.

are you 80? are you requesting report cards after your dates?

Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!

If he's been with me long enough to know my preferences then he can surprise me but no to a new person.

If he's more familiar with the cuisine and knows me/my taste well and I have asked him to choose for me: charming, delightful, I love not having to make decisions.

If he's conveying my order to waiter because it's easier or I had to step away: basic expectation of dining with someone, honestly.

Any other situations: I would hate that.

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Whoever gets to a door should check if someone is behind them and hold it open for that person (unless it causes that person to feel like they have to run; I always tell people to take their time but I know that can feel awkward). The person for whom the door was held open should say thank you.

No. I’m a functioning adults and can speak for myself.

Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!

Do you mean he picked the dish for your or did he just conveyed your selection to the waitress?