3 kids, both parents work full time but mostly remote. We have no hired help. They play travel sports all year round and rec sports seasonally. Music classes are online, homework is usually done between the time school ends and practice starts. They also have private training sessions weekly. Meals are before and/or after practices depending on time, sometimes split into two mini dinners. We also only have 1 car. We cook 90% of our meals, and we work out almost every day. I don’t relate to any post where there is a SAH parent, two cars, hired help, etc and complaining how hard it is or they don’t have time for themselves.

It doesn’t have to be with planning. We bought our house in an area that was easy to get arnd with buses, public transport and activity, etc. We knew this was important even if we could afford a bigger house further out. We just have to make decisions that fit into our family life. We pick clubs, trainers and activities near us that kids can walk to or are close enough to quickly drop. Obviously pick a club that develops ur kid the best but my kids haven’t had any issues getting invited or accepted to top teams even though they are coming from outside smaller clubs.

Good luck OP.

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Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

NP. This is just ridiculous. No, not every teen lives in a walkable neighborhood, nor is this always a choice by the parent who has to consider finances/access to job, nor does every teen have access to “friends on the team” (aka other parents) to drive them if they just ask. This isn’t a reflection of whether a teen can “figure it out”, it’s about access to a vehicle.

You have to really wonder about a parent who cannot reach out to other parents and doesn't care who takes their child. I get tired of these parents and as much as I like and feel bad for the kids I'm not driving your kid, especially when you refuse to help at all.

We live in the Langley pyramid. The school boundary is massive. Georgetown Pike is often a traffic mess. I don’t think there is a public bus that goes to Langley. There definitely is not a public bus near our house.

I grew up in an area where I lived a few blocks from a major road that had a public bus. My middle and high school had buses for sports. I don’t think fcps has a summer sports bus. My oldest is only in middle school.

I’m wondering too since both me and DH have to work (in an office, not at home) until 6:00 each day.

This is why I only had 2 kids. Can't be out numbered.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

NP. This is just ridiculous. No, not every teen lives in a walkable neighborhood, nor is this always a choice by the parent who has to consider finances/access to job, nor does every teen have access to “friends on the team” (aka other parents) to drive them if they just ask. This isn’t a reflection of whether a teen can “figure it out”, it’s about access to a vehicle.

You have to really wonder about a parent who cannot reach out to other parents and doesn't care who takes their child. I get tired of these parents and as much as I like and feel bad for the kids I'm not driving your kid, especially when you refuse to help at all.

I’ve never had a problem with reciprocation for carpools fortunately.

It's hard. I only have one, but she's very active in her activities and trying to get her places by 4pm on a weekday or during the day in the summer is HARD. I don't WFH and work in an office 30 min from our house and 45 min from most of her activities. Thankful for a flexible company and being able to (mostly) work remote when needed.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

NP. This is just ridiculous. No, not every teen lives in a walkable neighborhood, nor is this always a choice by the parent who has to consider finances/access to job, nor does every teen have access to “friends on the team” (aka other parents) to drive them if they just ask. This isn’t a reflection of whether a teen can “figure it out”, it’s about access to a vehicle.

You have to really wonder about a parent who cannot reach out to other parents and doesn't care who takes their child. I get tired of these parents and as much as I like and feel bad for the kids I'm not driving your kid, especially when you refuse to help at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

You know what happens, other parents end up stepping in and parenting for you since you cannot be decent enough to help out.

Keep in mind the problem doesn’t solve itself with hired help when you have multiple kids with conflicting schedules - you’ll still may need a parent or two involved to drive/shuffle kids around too if they are all doing activities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

NP. This is just ridiculous. No, not every teen lives in a walkable neighborhood, nor is this always a choice by the parent who has to consider finances/access to job, nor does every teen have access to “friends on the team” (aka other parents) to drive them if they just ask. This isn’t a reflection of whether a teen can “figure it out”, it’s about access to a vehicle.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

Or maybe our kids just have useful life skills, like talking to their friends on the team and figuring out a way to get to practice for a sport they signed up to do every day during the summer? No wonder your kids can't figure this stuff out if you can't as adults though...

We are just not lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- You carpool
- You hire someone to drive them
- You only let them do activities you can take them to
- You make them figure it out (your kid is in high school? He's old enough to figure out a way to get to practice other than having his mom not work so she can drive him there every day )

My kid is 14 and will start high school this fall. He cannot figure out how to get to school. There is no public bus. There is no school bus just for sports. He cannot drive. His friends can’t drive. He is too young to Uber by himself. We live too far to walk. We also live along an extremely busy and dangerous road or else I may suggest he bike.

+1. These people suggesting this nonsense don’t have older kids.

No, we just didn't think it was a good idea to settle down somewhere where your 14yo is entirely dependent on you to drive him around. I grew up in a place like that and wanted my kids to have more mobility options.

Grandparents
Divide and conquer
Carpool
3 kids in travel sports year round. Fun times.