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Anonymous wrote:Please name the dream school with the “pre-admission camp” that doesn’t allow any kind of visits.

I said taking a class and shadowing a student wasn't a thing, not that they don't allow visitors.

OK. What school?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this will only get worse. He will prohibit your son from going on school trips, dating and so much more.

Doubt it. He'll probably just prohibit him from sleep overs with adult men. For example, he may not want him traveling with the coach and staying in his hotel room for an out of state soccer tournament. I don't see the correlation with school dances or dating, though.

I can think of no sport or activity where this is allowed!

Sleep away camp?

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Anonymous wrote:I spent 6+ weeks at traditional summer camps growing up. This is a lifestyle shift for me, ok?

And honestly, it makes me sad that he'll miss the joys I found at camp. Especially compared to just playing video games in his room all summer. I work - I can't entertain him like a camp can.

There are all sorts of day camps around here for most interests OP. Being outside, riding horses, doing robotics, drama, whatever. They are far more common than sleep away camp.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spent 6+ weeks at traditional summer camps growing up. This is a lifestyle shift for me, ok?

And honestly, it makes me sad that he'll miss the joys I found at camp. Especially compared to just playing video games in his room all summer. I work - I can't entertain him like a camp can.

Go with daycamps as a compromise.

He complains about those, vocally. And they're very difficult as far as logistics.

Of course sleepaway camp isn’t a requirement, but it’s also not fair for a father’s irrational fears to hold his kid back.

My husband was molested by a scout leader. But when our son was interested in Cub Scouts, he took a deep breath and made it work for our kid’s sake, even if he didn’t love the idea.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spent 6+ weeks at traditional summer camps growing up. This is a lifestyle shift for me, ok?

And honestly, it makes me sad that he'll miss the joys I found at camp. Especially compared to just playing video games in his room all summer. I work - I can't entertain him like a camp can.

Go with daycamps as a compromise.

Anonymous wrote:I spent 6+ weeks at traditional summer camps growing up. This is a lifestyle shift for me, ok?

And honestly, it makes me sad that he'll miss the joys I found at camp. Especially compared to just playing video games in his room all summer. I work - I can't entertain him like a camp can.

Anonymous wrote:Please name the dream school with the “pre-admission camp” that doesn’t allow any kind of visits.

I said taking a class and shadowing a student wasn't a thing, not that they don't allow visitors.

+1 to sleepaway camp not being necessary. I went to one, didn't like it, and didn't go to any more. I'm a productive adult who went away to college and lives with my family in a place that is not where I grew up.

I spent 6+ weeks at traditional summer camps growing up. This is a lifestyle shift for me, ok?

Anonymous wrote:There are two different discussions here:

1. The risk of sexual abuse in sleepaway camp (here I think it’s overly paranoid to be afraid)
2. The belief that the kid is missing out for not going to sleepaway camp (he’s not, going to camp is not a milestone or a vital experience)

+1
I agree with PP on both points.

Anonymous wrote:Your kids don't have to go to sleep away camp. Your dh actually has a point, even though he's probably being more overprotective.

Another vote for sleep away camp not being a must do.

Dcum treats sleep away camp the same it way it views girl scout cookies sales-like they are required to be a happy, successful adult.

Your kids don't have to go to sleep away camp. Your dh actually has a point, even though he's probably being more overprotective.

Your DH would never forgive himself if your son was abused. It may seem like a remote chance to you, but his family experienced it and he saw the damage it caused. It was hugely traumatic. Respect that. Sleepaway camp is not a big deal. If it’s that important to you your son spend 24/7 with peers, he can live in a freshman dorm when he’s 18.