Anonymous wrote:The people in here acting like this is some red flag or sign of abuse are just ludicrous.
I am a grandma with two extra bedrooms. My grandkids love climbing in bed with me. And guess what? They have to fight the dog for space!!
Lighten up people.
Anonymous wrote:My cousin and I would stay with our grandmas (sisters) and have sleepovers with all four of us in the bed. I can’t believe they put up with it but we loved it.
Anonymous wrote:I would say no to this.
Why? Because an adult is asking a child to meet their emotional needs in a way that's inappropriate. A child can't consent to this, and a child may have a hard time saying they don't want to do it anymore. Especially if grandma has made it into this big huge special thing that do FOR HER and that makes HER happy.
Just draw the boundary. There can certainly be snuggles and physical affection, while watching tv or reading. But there is really no reason this HAS to happen. And Grandma wanting it to isn't a good enough reason for me.
Anonymous wrote:When my boys would visit my ILs, they would sleep with MIL in her bed and kick my FIL to the couch, even though they have their own bedroom at her house. Her bed was just more comfortable I guess. And my younger one has always preferred to sleep with DH and I whenever we will let him. He just likes feeling snuggled in a big bed, I guess.
But she never insisted on it. Just went with whatever the kids wanted.
Anonymous wrote:When my boys would visit my ILs, they would sleep with MIL in her bed and kick my FIL to the couch, even though they have their own bedroom at her house. Her bed was just more comfortable I guess. And my younger one has always preferred to sleep with DH and I whenever we will let him. He just likes feeling snuggled in a big bed, I guess.
But she never insisted on it. Just went with whatever the kids wanted.
Anonymous wrote:That’s just weird Op, unless you live in some multi generation hut where all 10 people get out mats and sleep on the communal floor every night.
I wouldn’t want my kids after age 4 thinking sharing a bed an adult is normal or kosher at all. I feel the same about kids sitting on adult men’s laps or greeting their legs stroked by grandpa after a swim. Bad precedent for a manipulative coach, teacher or less savory adult who attempts it with ill intent.