Marriage is for the benefit of men.

Too many men and women make too many excuses for being overweight, obese, and out of shape. Fat acceptance is a bizarre Orwellian concept that characterizes the dystopian nature of many womens attitudes towards their obligation to remain fit sexy and attractive for their partners.

Being fat lazy and out of shape makes you a terrible marital partner.

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Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.

Agree. It should be okay to not want sex after 20 years of a marriage.

If both parties are ok with no sex after 25 years what is the problem? Hugging, kisses, and snuggling are enough intimacy at that point, it shouldn't be frowned upon.

Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.

Try losing 30 pounds and get your spouse to do the same. Stop narcotizing yourself with food, alcohol, drugs, social media, and self pity and get your spouse to do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

I agreed with this until 2015.

Obergefell?

Indeed

Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.

I think this is probably a case by case thing. I hear lots of stories from friends that would support this. In my case, my spouse and I have been together about 22 years and the intimacy/desire is still very strong.

It's okay to let yourself go after marriage/babies/becoming too comfortable in your relationship, but don't be a complete shocked pikachu if your spouse loses physical or sexual attraction to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Way too many wives put being a mom first over their marriage and then act surprised when DH cheats or leaves or their marriage suffers otherwise.

Way too many men act like their wives should know what they want without saying what they want. Too many wives I know would have done many things with their DH, but instead DH wanted to hang with the guys or play video games or read some internet blog.

Way too many men give up on romance, and expect their wives/partners to be in charge of all things around the house, and then can't imagine why their women don't want to have sex.

Many men also aren't that great about sex, as a general proposition, and as to why their spouse/partner isn't into it. Even if you're able to tell them without hurting their feelings about their masculinity, they still don't get it.

Many men are blissfully unaware and do no introspection as to their part in any of this and then can't figure out why things are the way they are. They just like to blame their wife or partner. And covet outside relationships with women who don't have to put up the rest of the stuff that comes with being married to or in a long term relationship with him.

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Anonymous wrote:Women should contribute 50% to the relationship, including financially.

Men should have babies and nurse the children.

And sign them up for summer camp.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why some people take issue with spouses being best friends.

Because a spouse, by definition, is a very different relationship with different expectations. I am saying it as someone who's been married for a long time, and who has several close friends all of whom are married for 20+ years.

My spouse is my best friend, and we’ve been together 22 years. Don’t see the problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

I agreed with this until 2015.

Obergefell?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why some people take issue with spouses being best friends.

Because a spouse, by definition, is a very different relationship with different expectations. I am saying it as someone who's been married for a long time, and who has several close friends all of whom are married for 20+ years.

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Anonymous wrote:Marital sex is way better than sex I have as a single divorced person with dates. I don’t perform oral on anybody, men use condoms and I can’t finish with protection or proper oral prep on both sides. I always had a simultaneous O with my ex. Every single time we had sex during our 16 years long marriage.

Why did you divorce? Sounds like the two of you were deeply connected.

Because that sex was perfect for me but perhaps not as perfect for him. He decided he wanted some more at some point and I am not into sharing partners

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

It’s very very fun to hit fat lines in the bathroom until dawn too. Good luck sustaining that over a lifetime though!

Can you translate please that phrase about fat lines in the bathroom? But I can better understand how someone would rather sustain a mediocre sex in 20 years long marriage than “dating” multiple single people as a single person. It just sounds very unstable and complicated to keep changing partners. Also sexually restricting while I could just have one man without a condom and don’t bother about infections or what he thinks about my cellulite

They are referring to cocaine.

Have a prenup for the duration of the marriage that you do not have kids. Wait to have children. If you are not compatible, write in your prenup that you both walk away owing each other nothing And taking only assets you brought to the marriage. Period.

When you get pregnant, your prenup is now null and void. So take your time in deciding to have children.