Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 20:09     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
DCUM should not be compared to FB or IG, but I do have to say that there are times when a person posting an honest question on DCUM is met by sarcasm, snark, and "you are an idiot" kinds of responses. When that happens--and it happens a lot--then DCUM is no better than the others.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 19:55     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have FB but really only use it for groups. I agree DCUM is a much bigger time suck and more toxic than FB. But I am definitely addicted to it.



But there’s no “expectation” that you reply or engage in anything. It’s like window shopping…take it or leave it, no pressure.
Social media, tied to your own persona (even if “fake”) establishes an expectation that you will post/respond/react/comment.
Here you can post something and never look back if you wish. No one would ever know or care.


+1
I love that about this site and love that I don’t need to worry about something I post ending up blowing up for IRL.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 19:48     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:I have FB but really only use it for groups. I agree DCUM is a much bigger time suck and more toxic than FB. But I am definitely addicted to it.



But there’s no “expectation” that you reply or engage in anything. It’s like window shopping…take it or leave it, no pressure.
Social media, tied to your own persona (even if “fake”) establishes an expectation that you will post/respond/react/comment.
Here you can post something and never look back if you wish. No one would ever know or care.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 19:14     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Social media isn't inherently toxic - you are just using it wrong.

People can be toxic. When you interact with toxic people on SM it becomes toxic.

It is totally possible to use SM and be filled with joy, inspiration, learning and support.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 18:07     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
I have no prob being off social media -
None. I'm also age 50 though.

I also don't text the way everyone does - excessively, buts and pieces, commenting about things. When I do things with people I interact. I have 2-3 old friends I can call to talk. But that's it - nobody seems to think it's normal to call and talk which saddens me. I hate texting.

The whole texting and social media thing is what's driving society insane. People could've happier refraining and going back to conversations. It's unnatural to type your feelings all the time!
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 17:50     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:I am on Facebook regularly. My list of friends is carefully controlled. So it's a great space for me.

I am on Twitter and IG very sparingly. I have accounts there to see what's going on.

These are simply tools. You can control them.


Did you even read the thread title? Doesn't apply to you.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 13:54     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Think of Facebook as: “Comparison book.”


This is so accurate. 100%


Comparison to whom? Random Boomers? FB has tumbleweeds rolling thru. If you are on there feeling bad about yourself, call a psychiatrist.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 13:27     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:Newsflash - DCUM is social media


Not really
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 13:26     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Think of Facebook as: “Comparison book.”


This is so accurate. 100%
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 12:46     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:Newsflash - DCUM is social media


Perhaps.

But unlike TikTok, Insta, etc., this site does not employ a predatory algorithm driven by AI and designed to lead to dependence (aka addiction).
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 11:54     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Newsflash - DCUM is social media
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 11:53     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
No one would ever make the effort to interact with me if I cut out social media. Which obviously says a lot about me, but keeping FB keeps me alive.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 11:49     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:I am on Facebook regularly. My list of friends is carefully controlled. So it's a great space for me.

I am on Twitter and IG very sparingly. I have accounts there to see what's going on.

These are simply tools. You can control them.


Do you and your friends post? How old are you all?

I am 45 and only a few people post on FB and they all seem very low-EQ.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 11:48     Subject: If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get a group chat going with some friends. That’s what people are doing now that FB is dead (and IG too).


Isn’t IG still pretty popular? I don’t have one but everyone acts like IG is the only acceptable form of social media. And I don’t get it. What’s so different about IG that would make it superior?


It's dying. Older people have now moved there and young people are off. It is headed towards FBland which is old people and furniture sales.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 11:30     Subject: Re:If you don’t use social media..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am on Facebook regularly. My list of friends is carefully controlled. So it's a great space for me.

I am on Twitter and IG very sparingly. I have accounts there to see what's going on.

These are simply tools. You can control them.


Some people control gambling, heroin use, and cigarette smoking.

But too many people easily get addicted. Social media is garbage. Toxic garbage.




Is this site toxic garbage? Does it count as social media?