Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s always someone who has it harder than you, including those who aren’t able to have children at all.

Yeah but saying stuff like that doesn’t help anybody.

If you’re having a hard time for any reason, you need to get yourself in therapy. Your feelings are valid and there’s help available.

Your help is you. When you start having those valid feeling, the first step is to ask yourself what am I going to do about it, and then actually do it. Not waiting for "help" to materialize and solve your problems and not spending years of your life on the therapist's couch wallowing in your valid feelings.

Anonymous wrote:I am very envious of people with lots of support. The families that show up to dance recitals with grandma, grandpa, aunts, and cousins. Only in my wildest dreams. I went to my daughter’s dance recital alone.

I long for someone to share the journey with. Not so much for help but to share the joy with.

Argh, you might have seen me in my first marriage. The other side of that was the in-laws who knew no boundaries, basically treating my home and household as theirs; you know, the family. Be careful what you wish for.