DS has friends who still mask out of their house and no one cares. If one of DS’s friends who didn’t mask regularly came over wearing a mask, I would ask the parents what is up. Just like when I had DS wear a mask to Cub Scouts because he had a cold, no COVID based on the test, asked me. Our group of friends is pretty good about reaching out and saying that their kid has a cough are you cool with hanging out so that parents can make choices and I appreciate that.

Normally the choice is “sure” but there are times when we are getting ready for a vacation or an event and we would like to decrease the chance of a cold or flu or COVID before we go so we will say no.

It has been a weird few years, I have no problems with different approaches to what is happening around us. As long as people are polite and well intentioned, which we have found most folks are.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your reasons for forever-masking your children don’t make
any sense. Please discuss this with your pediatrician. Masking for short periods in certain scenarios can be helpful. Having a healthy young child mask through school and all social settings forever is harmful.

BTW, the “forever masking” lie is propaganda perpetuated by dumb Trumpers. If you’re a dumb Trumper, or pretending to be one, brava.

It's been 3 years. That's over half my child's life.

I wouldn't be offended, but I'd be uncomfortable if a child wore a mask to my house, and we'd not invite them again.

The only 2 kids out with covid in my son's 4th grade class are the kids who mask. I'm sure they help some, but it doesn't seem to be impacting who gets covid and who doesn't at our school. They also have windows open in the classroom and outdoor lunch.

I would not be offended if someone masked in my house. But, DD and I still mask everywhere we go.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the different perspectives. We test weekly before we see Grandparent and nephew. DD is very diligent with masking and does not need reminders and does not do the "hanging off face" thing. She really wears it. So no need for the host to have to worry about it.

She masks every day around these kids so I don't think anyone will be surprised to see her masked. She does eat at the normal lunch table but then remasks. It is not a perfect system but better. I think she can do the same at cake time.

To the pp who asked about illness, yes she gets sick a lot less than ever before and other kids in her class. We are also diligent about hand washing.

Thanks for reassuring me that her wearing a mask will not bother the host.

If you aren’t physically separating your child during meal time, then this is useless. Sorry but it really is.

Useless? No way. Less useful, sure, but unmasked life for 30 mins will expose a kid to less than unmasked all day. Despite covid and other viruses being talked about as highly contagious, in some ways you really do have to be in the wrong place at the wrong time under the wrong conditions. Masking reduces the instances where one might catch it. Do you think everyone ONLY catches it at lunch?

Regardless, op, my kids don't mask at school anymore but some kids do. I still wear a mask in many indoor settings. It's irrational in my case bc I tend to pull mine up in the grocery store but not in the office, for example. But I would not give a second thought to a kid in my house wearing a mask.

To the ppl who would, do you need to know other choices ppl are making any what's on their body before welcoming them into your homes?

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the different perspectives. We test weekly before we see Grandparent and nephew. DD is very diligent with masking and does not need reminders and does not do the "hanging off face" thing. She really wears it. So no need for the host to have to worry about it.

She masks every day around these kids so I don't think anyone will be surprised to see her masked. She does eat at the normal lunch table but then remasks. It is not a perfect system but better. I think she can do the same at cake time.

To the pp who asked about illness, yes she gets sick a lot less than ever before and other kids in her class. We are also diligent about hand washing.

Thanks for reassuring me that her wearing a mask will not bother the host.

If you aren’t physically separating your child during meal time, then this is useless. Sorry but it really is.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never be offended if you wore a mask, but I would prefer that you explain why, just casually to put my mind at ease. Some people are masking because they are a close contact or because they are on day six of covid themselves for example, and I’d greatly appreciate knowing that’s not the case for your child!

Masking is not going to work to protect your nephew or grandmother if your child removes his mask to eat cake and ice cream. You’ll need to talk to your child about keeping the mask on - maybe you can ask for cake to go.

It’s none of yo business dear

? It’s my house. Of course it’s my business.

It my DD personal health busy body

It’s your daughter’s body in my house. Get it?

Cool. Well, you sound like a tantruming child (I can hear the dramatic accompanying foot stomp from here) and if you’re going to throw a fit about someone else’s kid choosing to mask, you aren’t worth bothering with anyway, so problem solved.

No one is throwing a fit about someone else’s child choosing to mask. You are creating drama where there is none. Masking is unusual these days and in my experience the people doing it are those that have been sick themselves and still in the ten day window or those that have someone with covid in their home. If you are attending someone’s private house party and this is not the case, why on earth wouldn’t you say that to the host? You know people are thinking it.

Anonymous wrote:OP, your reasons for forever-masking your children don’t make
any sense. Please discuss this with your pediatrician. Masking for short periods in certain scenarios can be helpful. Having a healthy young child mask through school and all social settings forever is harmful.

BTW, the “forever masking” lie is propaganda perpetuated by dumb Trumpers. If you’re a dumb Trumper, or pretending to be one, brava.

My kids stopped masking as soon as mandate dropped. I wouldn’t care if your kid masked at our home. I’d just think you put too much faith in masks. If you’re really concerned about your vulnerable family members then I’d just be cautious 2-3 days before seeing them and test myself before seeing them.

Anonymous wrote:OP, your reasons for forever-masking your children don’t make
any sense. Please discuss this with your pediatrician. Masking for short periods in certain scenarios can be helpful. Having a healthy young child mask through school and all social settings forever is harmful.

Wherever you got your psych degree from, pursue a refund.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never be offended if you wore a mask, but I would prefer that you explain why, just casually to put my mind at ease. Some people are masking because they are a close contact or because they are on day six of covid themselves for example, and I’d greatly appreciate knowing that’s not the case for your child!

Masking is not going to work to protect your nephew or grandmother if your child removes his mask to eat cake and ice cream. You’ll need to talk to your child about keeping the mask on - maybe you can ask for cake to go.

It’s none of yo business dear

? It’s my house. Of course it’s my business.

It my DD personal health busy body

It’s your daughter’s body in my house. Get it?

Cool. Well, you sound like a tantruming child (I can hear the dramatic accompanying foot stomp from here) and if you’re going to throw a fit about someone else’s kid choosing to mask, you aren’t worth bothering with anyway, so problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

How about you grow up and MYOB?

Anonymous wrote:There isn't really a way to participate in an indoor birthday party with a mask on. We haven't gone to one.

What? Yes, there is.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the different perspectives. We test weekly before we see Grandparent and nephew. DD is very diligent with masking and does not need reminders and does not do the "hanging off face" thing. She really wears it. So no need for the host to have to worry about it.

She masks every day around these kids so I don't think anyone will be surprised to see her masked. She does eat at the normal lunch table but then remasks. It is not a perfect system but better. I think she can do the same at cake time.

To the pp who asked about illness, yes she gets sick a lot less than ever before and other kids in her class. We are also diligent about hand washing.

Thanks for reassuring me that her wearing a mask will not bother the host.

It will bother one nutter here but you should be good