Anonymous wrote:Thank you to those who had serious feedback. My mom is is willing to help again if necessary, but it's not her preference. I don't think it would be overly burdensome to the nanny. My kid sleeps 8pm -7:30am and takes a 2 hour nap. It's M-F so it would be the normal working hours, plus overtime. After we come home, she'd be getting the weekend plus Monday off. She is young and energetic, and routinely does weekend babysitting for another family beyond her FT work with us, so it's more an issue of personal comfort than the hours.

Our nanny said she'd like to do the overnight. I 100% trust her to be safe and follow our rules. It's just a fear that something out of her control could happen and I'd have to wait for a flight to become available. The destination is non-negotiable; either we go on this trip 4 hours away without DC, or we don't take a trip at all this winter. Our nanny would like to go on this trip with us, but DH does not want to fly with DC until she is older. He wants to go on this trip too, but he would also be satisfied with continuing to just vacation locally with DC in warmer weather.

Anonymous wrote:I would not be comfortable with this mainly because of the distance.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you to those who had serious feedback. My mom is is willing to help again if necessary, but it's not her preference. I don't think it would be overly burdensome to the nanny. My kid sleeps 8pm -7:30am and takes a 2 hour nap. It's M-F so it would be the normal working hours, plus overtime. After we come home, she'd be getting the weekend plus Monday off. She is young and energetic, and routinely does weekend babysitting for another family beyond her FT work with us, so it's more an issue of personal comfort than the hours.

Our nanny said she'd like to do the overnight. I 100% trust her to be safe and follow our rules. It's just a fear that something out of her control could happen and I'd have to wait for a flight to become available. The destination is non-negotiable; either we go on this trip 4 hours away without DC, or we don't take a trip at all this winter. Our nanny would like to go on this trip with us, but DH does not want to fly with DC until she is older. He wants to go on this trip too, but he would also be satisfied with continuing to just vacation locally with DC in warmer weather.

Are you serious? She would be working 100% of all of those hours. That is 120 hours that she is working and cannot take off. She is responsible for your child that entire time which means it is extremely burdensome whether or not you choose to see that because you want to go on a romantic vacation. If she can’t leave your baby at your home and go do whatever it is she wants to do by herself and she is working and it is a burden. Overtime is every single minute after her normal 40 hours which include sleeping time. Quit trying to justify it.

Anonymous wrote:What about for a weekend? Fri-sun. 5 days is a lot.
Or have the nanny come with you and bring the baby.

Anonymous wrote:I’m floored by some of the responses on this thread. “Child abuse” “why do you have kids if you want to go in a week long romantic vacation?” JFC. You can simultaneously be an amazing parent who loves their kid and also want a week away! My parents left me for a week as young as 6 months to travel and do things - it’s fine. Parents can continue to have lives.

Whether it’s appropriate to leave your child with this particular person is another story and impossible to anyone to judge other than the parents. But people leave kids with a nanny for multiple days all.of.the.time. I agree it’s ideal to have a family member you trust there as well, but it’s not a dealbreaker. Most competent nannies can handle one toddler for 5 days. Totally within the realm of reason - you just have to use very good judgment in determining if this person is trustworthy and responsible enough, which only you can do.

OP, my only suggestion would be to dip your toe in with a shorter trip with just the nanny watching your child, for your own sake. If you’re having reservations about this plan there’s probably a reason why. Maybe try 2-3 nights away closer to home with just the nanny before jumping to 5 nights further away.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you White?

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely and lol at a poster calling it child abuse. Gtfoh. We have an ad-hoc sitter who's been with us going on 7 years. Four kids, 14, 10 and 4 year old twins. When we both worked and had to take trips at the same time, she filled in for overnight care very easily and no issues. Now that I don't work, she still covers overnights when we take a staycation or vacation us two only, longest being 6 days. I absolutely trust her with their lives. She's 35, with her own transportation, CPR certified, knows Heimlich, lives just a few miles away.

If you feel comfortable with her, go for it. I will say, full-time care can be a lot. All of mine are in school during the day so when she's covered longer than weekend stays, she gets the break during the day but seems like your nanny is wiling and able. And obviously, we pay her for all hours worked, sleeping or awake, let her order whatever food she wants and she has her own guest room and bath while over. Good luck!

Some of us parent.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to those who had serious feedback. My mom is is willing to help again if necessary, but it's not her preference. I don't think it would be overly burdensome to the nanny. My kid sleeps 8pm -7:30am and takes a 2 hour nap. It's M-F so it would be the normal working hours, plus overtime. After we come home, she'd be getting the weekend plus Monday off. She is young and energetic, and routinely does weekend babysitting for another family beyond her FT work with us, so it's more an issue of personal comfort than the hours.

Our nanny said she'd like to do the overnight. I 100% trust her to be safe and follow our rules. It's just a fear that something out of her control could happen and I'd have to wait for a flight to become available. The destination is non-negotiable; either we go on this trip 4 hours away without DC, or we don't take a trip at all this winter. Our nanny would like to go on this trip with us, but DH does not want to fly with DC until she is older. He wants to go on this trip too, but he would also be satisfied with continuing to just vacation locally with DC in warmer weather.