Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:16     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Sounds like drugs
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:12     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How does a camera help if you see your child choking or see an intruder? And if you're enjoying dinner with friends, are you really watching the camera? Scary.


NP. Agree, a camera is useless if a child is in imminent danger and you're not near enough to do anything.

The circumstances -- of the issue with the children, totally apart from Tejera's tragic death -- remind me of the disappearance of Madeleine McCann. He parentsr left her (age 3) and her 2-year-old twin siblings alone in a rented apartment while the parents went out to dinner. The restaurant was only 180 feet from the ground floor apartment and supposedly the parents checked on the kids in person at some, or several, points, but she was kidnapped by someone who entered the apartment while the parents were at dinner, and she has never been found.

You just don't leave young children alone like that. Even if you're just feet away. Socializing and dining, which is going to distract you no matter how much you check in via camera or in person.

At first I thought for sure that Tejera's widow must have been with the kids and frantically rushed out in a total and understandable panic, leaving them. But knowing that both parents chose this setup with no thought for fire, choking, the thousand other things a young kid can get into--wow, that gobsmacks me.


+ 1 And no time wasted (being prostrate with grief)before asking for contributions to the kid’s 529 plan.


She's too busy to save for college... she has fancy trips and hotels as the priority.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:10     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to bet that they were out for more than dinner? Someone his age generally doesn't have a heart attack without a stimulant involved.


This seems like defamatory speculation. He was middle aged. Yes, he’s middle aged - men live to their late 70s on average. Cardiac deaths in middle age are actually fairly common. Heart disease can lurk behind the facade of a very fit man - just look at the soccer reporter of similar age who died suddenly during the World Cup due to the dissection of a weakened artery. Heart disease is scary precisely because it can strike seemingly fit people and can hide behind decent numbers and lab results.

Cherish your life. Any one of us middle aged women is one heartbeat away from sudden cardiac death, with nothing more exciting on our agenda than herb tea and a good novel. Judge not.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:10     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

True story. This happened about three years ago in a hotel in maryland.

Around midnight I heard a toddler crying in the hallway. He was still crying “mommy” after a minute or so. I looked out the peephole and he was trying the handles on various rooms.

I went to the hallway and he came to me crying.

I carried him to the lobby and there were his parents partying.

The thing is that it was 20 degrees out and we were on the first floor near an exit door that locked from outside.

If that poor child had walked out that door into the cold at midnight he would be dead.

Mom wasn’t even that embarrassed.

I still think of that little boy and wish I had called the cops.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:02     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:One of the kids is FIVE MONTHS old. holy $hit.


+1 yep
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 22:01     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:Listen, I've absolutely left my very young kids home alone while I've run out for various reasons. However. It was never for me to go out having fun, but to accomplish something specific - meet an older kid at the bus down the block, show a workman a problem on the property outside the house, etc..

My kids are teenagers now and I admit to doing the bolded a couple of times when my youngest was finally getting the nap he really needed. The entire time I would think, what if I broke my foot on the walk, what if the bus is crazy late or my kids missed it, etc. etc. anything that messed with getting back in the five minutes I had planned for. Good lord this scenario is horrible but I can’t imagine leaving tiny kids in a hotel room like that.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 21:50     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

One of the kids is FIVE MONTHS old. holy $hit.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 21:48     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

There's no excuse for leaving kids that young.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 21:47     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:

+ 1 And no time wasted (being prostrate with grief)before asking for contributions to the kid’s 529 plan.


Where did she ask for contributions to the 529? Unbelievable

It’s on her Insta. Her account is private but there is a link to the 529 plan.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 21:22     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment



+ 1 And no time wasted (being prostrate with grief)before asking for contributions to the kid’s 529 plan.


Where did she ask for contributions to the 529? Unbelievable
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 20:59     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:Room service exists for a reason.

So do babysitters.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 18:21     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:Cameras and Ring doorbells only help after a tragedy/crime is committed.
I don’t understand the obsession with cameras everywhere and not prevention.



I get the whole Big Brother thing, but I would certainly be grateful for the footage of a White Hyundai Elantra if my child were amongst the murdered in Idaho.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 18:13     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Room service exists for a reason.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 18:13     Subject: Re:Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Cameras and Ring doorbells only help after a tragedy/crime is committed.
I don’t understand the obsession with cameras everywhere and not prevention.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 18:10     Subject: Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is crazy! You don’t leave your young kids/babies in a hotel room by themselves so you can go out for dinner. There are no excuses for this! It was a stupid and careless parenting decision.



I wouldn't do this because I'd be stressed the whole time about something like this happening but honestly I don't think that badly of her. They were a block away from the hotel and had cameras on the kids. They were not in any danger if they were asleep and not in any more danger then they'd be in their own home on another floor.


No sorry being a block away in a whole other building while your kids are presumably several floors up is not at all the same as different part of the house. Not at all.

How quickly could you get to them in a fire? How many hotel staff have keys to that room? What if they get sick and the building elevators aren’t working? It’s just a huge amount of response time required to get back versus walking upstairs in your own house.


The only one of these things that is actually concerning is the fire. And while its concerning, there are plenty of situations where my kids are far enough away from me where if a fire spontaneously broke out I wouldn't be able to get to them. Normal situations. I don't live my life taking extreme precautions based on highly unlikely outcomes. I understand some people think this is insane but honestly they have a camera on them and I imagine they could, if running, be back to the room in 3 minutes. And the stairs work even if the elevator doesn't. No kid is harmed from crying for a few minutes. And if they get sick (suddenly?!) in such a dramatic fashion that would alert me if I was in the room, like vomiting I guess? Then that would be evident on camera. But honestly my 3/5/7 year old are DEAD TO THE WORLD when they fall asleep. I could 100% leave the house to go run an errand and have no one be the wiser and no one endangered.

I do think leaving the hotel is a little much but if they were eating in the hotel restaurant would people be saying this? I dunno I just can't get onboard with demonizing this they were close and had a camera.


You need to read the details about Madeleine McCann. Ground floor apartment, parents only 180 feet away, checked on the kids supposedly more than once in person. It still ended horribly.

And before you insist that it's super rare for a stranger to abduct a child like that: Do you really not comprehend that on a camera set up in some random hotel room or apartment, you would NOT necessarily be aware f your child were vomiting, for instance? A young child might cry if he vomited...but of course you insist that "no kid is harmed from crying for few minutes" so you'd be at dinner, waiting to see if your kid would just cry it out and go back to sleep....

And who "could, if running, be back to the room in 3 minutes"? From down the block and maybe multiple stories to climb on those handy stairs you reference? Even if the elevator's working it'll be more than three minutes.

As for "my kids are dead to the world when they fall asleep," well, in a strange environment with unusual noises around, like a hotel, hooray for you if that's true. It won't always be true and you cannot know if the one time you leave a child alone in a hotel room is the one time the child will wake, wonder where the adults are, go looking for them, etc. By the time you look up from your dinner to check the camera and see them gone, well, you'll have no idea how long they've really been out of bed, maybe out of the room.

You're preening yourself on how "I don't live my life taking extreme precautions based on highly unlikely outcomes." Fine. But read the post at 11:16: The odds that nothing would go wrong are extremely high, but the unexpected does happen sometimes. It would never cross your mind that your young, seemingly healthy husband would just drop dead, but it does happen to some people. It could happen to any of us at any time. You don’t leave your kids alone because even though, most likely, they would be just fine, what if they weren’t? What if something would happen? You just don’t roll the die when it comes to your children’s wellbeing.

Enjoy rolling the die all you want. Most of us wouldn't. It is not paranoid or silly to choose to go out and have fun only when there is an actual responsible adult to care for kids.