I'm 41 now but I met my husband at 24 online. This was before the apps, it was a dating website. We were students at the same grad school and sometimes we legitately forget we met online and think we met in grad school.

I feel like anyone I know who met their spouse in their 20s either met them in school or online.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

Statistics are high for people who get married in their 30s and 40s - people too set in their ways, hasty decisions based on biological clock.
Statistics are also not good for people who meet in bars or other venues they would demure from answering when family and friends ask "how did you guys meet?"

I've known people who married in their 20s, even had kids (yes, plural) before hitting 30. They seem pretty happy and committed and, *gasp* jumped the hurdles for their professional licensing requirements. So no, these aren't uneducated and unaccomplished people.

Lots of people want to justify why they are older and still single so like to justify their life choices.

We worked together and he walked up to me and asked to take me out. I said yes, when? He said tonight and that was it--we have been together ever since.

Anonymous wrote:Tinder…. Or similar apps.

Gross. Seriously, potential partner material? Tinder's just for sex.

Not having enough relationship experience and having too much, both can lead to issues but both are partly couple and circumstances dependent, can succeed or fail with or without sincerity and dedication.

Everywhere. Why is this a problem ? Especially since online dating has been added to the repertoire ? The biggest difficulty for singles today is that there are too many avenues available to meet others so it is easy to be dismissive.

People who meet in mid 30's or after, often have lot of baggage and also desperation to have families. It often leads to hasty decisions and bitter divorces.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

Statistics are NOT against 28 and 26! DCUM’s insistence on infantilizing people over 25 is just exhausting.

DH and I got married at 26 and 27, 10 years ago. If DCUM is any metric we are doing better than 99% of you all in terms of marital happiness.

Keep trying to make yourself feel better. It is ridiculously young to get married. Did you both actually graduate from college?

Just like PP, we met at 25 and 27 (not in college but through common friends)and both had professional degrees and career track jobs. We feel so thankful listening to dating problems people in their 30's and 40's face.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

Statistics are NOT against 28 and 26! DCUM’s insistence on infantilizing people over 25 is just exhausting.

DH and I got married at 26 and 27, 10 years ago. If DCUM is any metric we are doing better than 99% of you all in terms of marital happiness.

Keep trying to make yourself feel better. It is ridiculously young to get married. Did you both actually graduate from college?

Not this PP but I met my DH at work and got married at 26.

We both did go to college, terminal degrees for both of us. We had children a year later, and our children have been in the magnet programs that all the harpies on DCUM covet. We make good money and eat processed food sometimes. Statistics show you are dumb like rock and need to MYOB thanks.

No wonder so many people complain about immaturity, infidelity, behavioral issues, and alcoholism in spouses, considering a lot picked theirs from bar and drinking parties.

I am old and met my spouse the old fashioned way, at a bar 😂.

My much youbger sister met hers … at a house party in Arlington! And my much younger cousin met hers on Hinge.

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse at a house party in Arlington that had an ice luge with vodka pouring down it. Neither of us contracted herpes that night (or any other), and we've been happily married for 20+ years.

I also met my husband at a house party in Arlington! No ice luge, though. The cute guy I was pursuing passed out, and i ended talking to another guy nearby. I married him 2 years later.

Like a few others, online dating never interested me.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

Statistics are NOT against 28 and 26! DCUM’s insistence on infantilizing people over 25 is just exhausting.

DH and I got married at 26 and 27, 10 years ago. If DCUM is any metric we are doing better than 99% of you all in terms of marital happiness.

Keep trying to make yourself feel better. It is ridiculously young to get married. Did you both actually graduate from college?

NP. 27 is only slightly below the avg rate of marriage in the US. Definitely not “ridiculously young.”

Met my spouse at a house party in Arlington that had an ice luge with vodka pouring down it. Neither of us contracted herpes that night (or any other), and we've been happily married for 20+ years.

No way was I getting married in my 20s! Way too much fun to be had and lots of sex partners. At 33 I met my husband in my own neighborhood at a picnic. Turns out he lived 3 blocks away from me.