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Anonymous wrote:This is a weird question, to be honest.

I wear yellow, white, and rose gold. I typically mix them.

What is the issue, again?

Rose gold is a whole different ballgame - there is definitely a stereotype around people who wear rose gold. Trend chasers.

Except the rose gold trend is played out so at this point if you wear rose gold I assume you just like it.

I’m Indian so i have a lot of 22 carat gold. I love it, but wear it sparingly. There is nothing quite so “rich” looking, and I mean it in a different way than wealth, like over the top, indulgent, luxe. I was bedecked in gold at my wedding, which was a unique experience for me. I felt quite goddess like!

Anonymous wrote:This is a weird question, to be honest.

I wear yellow, white, and rose gold. I typically mix them.

What is the issue, again?

Rose gold is a whole different ballgame - there is definitely a stereotype around people who wear rose gold. Trend chasers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my yellow gold rings from the 80s. At the time, I thought I liked them better. What was I thinking?

Platinum was so big when I got engaged in 1996. I used to wear a lot if silver and white gold with my platinum engagement/wedding bands.

Gold is really in now. I have a lot of gold pieces and I really didn’t like it back in the 90s/early 2000s.

My mom has a wonderful thick/wide gold wedding band. It’s wonderful.

All classes do both if that’s what you are getting at, OP.

There is a guido connotation about men and gold chains and women with huge gold earrings.

OP here - this is kind of what I was getting at. Platinum seemed so dominant with folks in the 90s and 2000s whereas yellow gold seems more vintage

Where have you been the past few years? Yellow gold is VERY popular right now.

Okay, crazy OP. Most people buy gold based on either their skin tone, culture, or what was in style when they bought their jewelry.

I am South Asian, the vast majority of my jewelry is yellow gold. My SIL (also South Asian) got married in the early 2000s when platinum was popular, so her engagement ring and wedding band are platinum. In the past several years, everything has been trending yellow again.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of like how one PP mentioned that a decade ago her small ruby and yellow gold ring wasn’t necessarily cool, I think there is a stereotype of gen X women with platinum engagement rings with large diamonds who were traditionally “cool” or trendy a decade ago. It looks dated now.

I agree with this but it’s only partly about the material/color. That ring from like 2000ish to 2015ish (you know what it looks like) is embarrassing in a way that having a ring that is “off-trend” can’t be. It just marks you as a bandwagoner. Also, the “it” ring from this era is really showy, too, so it sticks out. To me it’s kind of anti-style. It’s like “I I don’t have taste at all, I just saw a ring on tv/in rom coms/in magazine ads/on my friend, and decided that was my dream too.”

Have you seen the current trends? Your post reeks of the trendy “other generations suck” attitude which is naive and immature. I’m guessing you’re not old enough to have friends getting married now. Because as ALWAYS, there are trends. Right now it’s 2-3 carat center stones with a halo on a thin band. The upcoming trend is thick and stacked again like….gasp…the 90s.

And newsflash, a lot of men make this decision on their own. Fewer with each passing decade but yes, they still do. Insulting men who, with great pride and care, picked something for someone they love is an ugly look. Much uglier than following a trend.

NP. What an over dramatic response.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of like how one PP mentioned that a decade ago her small ruby and yellow gold ring wasn’t necessarily cool, I think there is a stereotype of gen X women with platinum engagement rings with large diamonds who were traditionally “cool” or trendy a decade ago. It looks dated now.

I agree with this but it’s only partly about the material/color. That ring from like 2000ish to 2015ish (you know what it looks like) is embarrassing in a way that having a ring that is “off-trend” can’t be. It just marks you as a bandwagoner. Also, the “it” ring from this era is really showy, too, so it sticks out. To me it’s kind of anti-style. It’s like “I I don’t have taste at all, I just saw a ring on tv/in rom coms/in magazine ads/on my friend, and decided that was my dream too.”

Have you seen the current trends? Your post reeks of the trendy “other generations suck” attitude which is naive and immature. I’m guessing you’re not old enough to have friends getting married now. Because as ALWAYS, there are trends. Right now it’s 2-3 carat center stones with a halo on a thin band. The upcoming trend is thick and stacked again like….gasp…the 90s.

And newsflash, a lot of men make this decision on their own. Fewer with each passing decade but yes, they still do. Insulting men who, with great pride and care, picked something for someone they love is an ugly look. Much uglier than following a trend.

PP here:

- I'm 42. And before you ask, I'm married. Got married in 2014. I'm referring to my generation.
- Most of my friends who have this ring either picked it out themselves or provided their partners with fairly specific instructions as to materials, shape, size, etc. Even the ones whose partners technically picked out the ring "on their own" had a good sense of what their gfs wanted because of the way they fawned over certain other friend's rings.

Of course there are always trends, and some people follow them and some don't. My point is that engagement ring trends are funny because people will follow trends so aggressively that they all get the same ring, but they will claim (and actually believe) that this is just their unique dream ring and always has been. But in hindsight, you can tell of course that they just bought in hard to current trends.

My advice to people getting engaged now would be to ignore all engagement ring trends and instead look at your own style and jewelry and think about what kind of ring you want to be wearing when you're 60. If you do this, you'll never regret your choices, whether they wind up being on trend or not, because it will feel like you. I have a lot of friends who don't wear their rings anymore or whoare having them re-set because they got caught up in what they were supposed to get instead of what felt authentically like them, and now their ring feels generic and not sentimental. And engagement ring should be a very sentimental jewelry choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of like how one PP mentioned that a decade ago her small ruby and yellow gold ring wasn’t necessarily cool, I think there is a stereotype of gen X women with platinum engagement rings with large diamonds who were traditionally “cool” or trendy a decade ago. It looks dated now.

I agree with this but it’s only partly about the material/color. That ring from like 2000ish to 2015ish (you know what it looks like) is embarrassing in a way that having a ring that is “off-trend” can’t be. It just marks you as a bandwagoner. Also, the “it” ring from this era is really showy, too, so it sticks out. To me it’s kind of anti-style. It’s like “I I don’t have taste at all, I just saw a ring on tv/in rom coms/in magazine ads/on my friend, and decided that was my dream too.”

Have you seen the current trends? Your post reeks of the trendy “other generations suck” attitude which is naive and immature. I’m guessing you’re not old enough to have friends getting married now. Because as ALWAYS, there are trends. Right now it’s 2-3 carat center stones with a halo on a thin band. The upcoming trend is thick and stacked again like….gasp…the 90s.

And newsflash, a lot of men make this decision on their own. Fewer with each passing decade but yes, they still do. Insulting men who, with great pride and care, picked something for someone they love is an ugly look. Much uglier than following a trend.

I had yellow gold for my wedding and engagement rings in the late 80s, but after about 12 years, the yellow gold engagement literally bent out of shape, just from regular wear. I had my engagement ring reset in white gold and it is still in good shape after 20 years. For other jewelry, I wear both yellow and silver-toned, but I think white gold or platinum is stronger and that is why I prefer it for everyday wear.

Anonymous wrote:I’m unaware of any stereotype about this.

Not a stereotype but - growing up in Vancouver there were many recent East Asian immigrants who wore a lot of very yellow gold that l was told was close to 24k. Like they were wearing their wealth. I’ve heard pure gold is very soft it’s better to use up to 18k for making jewelry.

Personally l prefer yellow gold because as others have said, it looks nice with my skin tone.

East asian here. We consider 10 and 14k gold fake

Wearing gold - traditional or more fashion forward. Platinum - suburban.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my yellow gold rings from the 80s. At the time, I thought I liked them better. What was I thinking?

+1
I actually had my platinum wedding rings changed to yellow gold in the 80s because all my other jewelry was gold and I just thought it was "better". Flash forward to about ten years ago when I finally realized how much better I look in cool tones and started buying/wearing silver and platinum. Had to get the rings changed back too.

The finish on yellow gold in the 80s was more yellow and brassy, though. Also, the ring settings would be gaudier, with these big settings with a million prongs.

Now the look is a softer color, not rose gold but less bright yellow, and often done in a matte finish instead of high shine. Ring settings are smaller and sit closer to the rest of the ring. It’s a more understated look.

I have a sapphire ring from the 80s that has sentimental value to me but the yellow gold setting is just garish. I’m having it reset in another yellow gold setting but the look is much more subtle and current.

How much does it cost to have a ring reset from the old yellow gold into another gold or allergy friendly platinum?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my yellow gold rings from the 80s. At the time, I thought I liked them better. What was I thinking?

+1
I actually had my platinum wedding rings changed to yellow gold in the 80s because all my other jewelry was gold and I just thought it was "better". Flash forward to about ten years ago when I finally realized how much better I look in cool tones and started buying/wearing silver and platinum. Had to get the rings changed back too.

The finish on yellow gold in the 80s was more yellow and brassy, though. Also, the ring settings would be gaudier, with these big settings with a million prongs.

Now the look is a softer color, not rose gold but less bright yellow, and often done in a matte finish instead of high shine. Ring settings are smaller and sit closer to the rest of the ring. It’s a more understated look.

I have a sapphire ring from the 80s that has sentimental value to me but the yellow gold setting is just garish. I’m having it reset in another yellow gold setting but the look is much more subtle and current.

Anonymous wrote:Kind of like how one PP mentioned that a decade ago her small ruby and yellow gold ring wasn’t necessarily cool, I think there is a stereotype of gen X women with platinum engagement rings with large diamonds who were traditionally “cool” or trendy a decade ago. It looks dated now.

I agree with this but it’s only partly about the material/color. That ring from like 2000ish to 2015ish (you know what it looks like) is embarrassing in a way that having a ring that is “off-trend” can’t be. It just marks you as a bandwagoner. Also, the “it” ring from this era is really showy, too, so it sticks out. To me it’s kind of anti-style. It’s like “I I don’t have taste at all, I just saw a ring on tv/in rom coms/in magazine ads/on my friend, and decided that was my dream too.”

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my yellow gold rings from the 80s. At the time, I thought I liked them better. What was I thinking?

+1
I actually had my platinum wedding rings changed to yellow gold in the 80s because all my other jewelry was gold and I just thought it was "better". Flash forward to about ten years ago when I finally realized how much better I look in cool tones and started buying/wearing silver and platinum. Had to get the rings changed back too.