Anonymous wrote:Get the AG doll. Do not trust your mom with this type of gift in the future.

This. And if grandma is the type to throw a fit over you buying the AG doll, please recognize that her fit is not your problem. She pulled the jerk move here.

RUN and get the doll your DD wants. Your mother clearly doesn’t understand that American Doll is a “thing.” She has also forgotten that substituting for a kid’s heart’s desire never goes well. You can give her the option of being the one to give your child the AG doll or else your DD will be getting two dolls this year. Your mother maybe meant well, but why did she listen to her friend instead of listening to her grandchild about what the grandchild wants?

I’m shocked more people aren’t telling op to tell her mom no. I would shut my mom down and tell her that’s not the one dd wanted. My mom and I are very close and I feel that I can be as frank with her as I can with my Dh. I’d tell her to return it and Santa will get the dream doll. I would have cried because I also remember being 5 and wanting an American girl doll.

Also, if it’s the main thing she wants for Christmas- just have Santa bring it.

“Thanks for letting me know you decided on something different. Husband and I will pick up the one she selected on her wish list. She will have playing with them together. “

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like Santa needs to step in and bring the AG doll. My mom is also the queen of making a big fuss about getting something special for someone and then changing the gift and saying her idea is better.

As an aside, this sounds a lot like a Stupsi doll. They were fancy German dolls in the 70s to mid-1980s (pre-AG era) and are just the kind of thing a grandma would want. They were really expensive back then. I wasn’t allowed to play with mine.

New poster here.
Another poster mentioned Waldorf doll, and that made me picture a Kathe Kruse doll.
https://www.amazon.com/Kathe-Kruse-Waldorf-Doll-Tolipar/dp/B00I5AN08G

Oh no. That’s worse than one of the links that got listed on the DH trendy shoe thread. I hope the grandma didn’t get this doll!

PP that posted that Kathe Kruse doll here

I actually think it's adorable! My kids are older now but when they were little (early 2000s) they had a few Kathe Kruse dolls. But it's definitely not an American Girl doll like OP's daughter wants, and not an appropriate substitute.

I'd give your mother one chance to fix it. I'd tell her, "oh that doll seems nice, but I have accessories for other doll. daughter wanted this specific one not a doll in general. I'll pick it up AG this weekend.".

She now has the option to act or not. Expect her to be pissy either way. Also expect her to make judgemental comments about kids not being grateful & such. Be prepared this will repeat every Christmas & birthday for the next 10 years.

Anonymous wrote:This literally happened to me, except it was a Cabbage Patch kid. To be fair to my mom, it was impossible to get them back then, but the beautiful, hand-made, high quality doll that was almost a Cabbage Patch kid just wasn't the same for me. Get the AG doll if you can before Christmas.

This happened to me as well. One of my earliest memories is being spanked on Christmas because I cried that my doll was fake.

OP get the doll.

Anonymous wrote:Get the AG doll. Do not trust your mom with this type of gift in the future.

This. My mother is exactly the same so she gets alternate gift suggestions never the main or most-wanted gift.

And, please, please, go get the AG doll!! It's all my 6yo wants (her older sister has one) and another doll -- especially one of a different size -- wouldn't be the same and wouldn't be able to use the AG/OG stuff her sister's doll already has (I realize there is no sister in the original post, but going forward none of the AG stuff will fit the grandmother's doll). As Nike says, just do it.

Get the AG doll. Do not trust your mom with this type of gift in the future.

Anonymous wrote:This is great because you have time to get the AG doll. Just lie and/or smooth over. If Grandmother sees it, tell her you already had the clothes or whatever. She can love two dolls. Everyone wins.

You don't need to lie OP. Just tell grandparent that this os the specific doll that DD requested.

I’d buy the doll myself but don’t assume your daughter will hate the other one. I’d throw some doll clothes in my cart that fit grandma doll so she has double fun Christmas

Anonymous wrote:What was she thinking? Was it sticker shock? She's got you in a bind and you should try to get the doll if you can. I wouldn't let a 5 year old be disappointed about this, her joy will be worth it in the long run.

Couldn't have been sticker shock as Grandma purchased a more expensive doll.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tel your mom she needs to return the doll because your DD is expecting the AG doll and has already bought the accessories thinking that's what granny is buying.

THIS is why my parents send me money and ask me to buy whatever the kids what and say it's from them.

But the mom can give whatever she wants to give. The mom is not obligated. It's presumptuous to expect her to buy a certain gift and it's more than presumptuous to demand she return it to the store.

But the mom asked and was told what the child asked for. Then said consider it done. Then didn't do it. Grandma's doing it for herself and not her granddaughter.

Yes OP If you can afford it please get the one your dd wanted.

My mother did things like this all the time. UGH...

It doesn't matter if doll grandparent got is better or more expensive. It's not the doll the DD asked for. Get the AG doll. You won't be sorry.