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Anonymous wrote:You’re happily married for the long term until you’re not. It’s like flipping a light switch when it happens.

Yep. And I honestly don't understand what anyone "happily married" is doing on the relationship forum. So they can comment sancitimoneously on other people's posts?

No offense, but people in bad relationships providing advice is like the blind leading the blind. We aren't all happy in our relationships because of luck, a lot of us have worked hard on ourselves and our relationship.

Uh, you got lucky. No one wants your santimoney.

Did you mean “Santa money?”

32 years. Not a walk in the park every day and a few real blips, but we do feel like a team. I agree with the poster above though - illness, unemployment, money problems, issues with children, substance abuse - can change a relationship very quickly. I would caution about being so overconfident to claim otherwise. My parents were married 67 years - lots of that was great, but the last 5 years were not - illness, caretaking, etc.

I like gossip, how about

Nope, I'm not buying that "happy" couples spend their time on the DCUM relationship forum. That's like me reading Colleges & University discussion when I have preschoolers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re happily married for the long term until you’re not. It’s like flipping a light switch when it happens.

Yep. And I honestly don't understand what anyone "happily married" is doing on the relationship forum. So they can comment sancitimoneously on other people's posts?

No offense, but people in bad relationships providing advice is like the blind leading the blind. We aren't all happy in our relationships because of luck, a lot of us have worked hard on ourselves and our relationship.

Uh, you got lucky. No one wants your santimoney.

Anonymous wrote:So I guess a follow-up question...those of you who consider your marriages happy, why do you read this forum? Do you check each thread to make sure you aren't married to the OP?

OP here, just to clarify I did not ask this 👆but it is a good question

Married 35 years.

Happily married 30 years. The last 5 have been much, much, much harder.

Illness, age and job loss take a toll.

Yep, coming up on 18 years of marriage, 23 altogether.

44 years here.

Best friends, talk about everything and anything. We take care of each other, share whatever load comes up.
When he retired I thought Oh Lord, will I survive him ?
It's been heaven. We laugh a lot. Do projects together. When I gets on his nerves and he gets snappy with me I remind him it's just us. Do you really want to go there ? He says no.
He cooks, cleans, does the laundry and shopping. He loves doing yard work.
He takes good of the cats, doesn't mind if I sleep late which is everyday, loves everyone.
We have zero secrets. Open book, same page. I love our boring life.
LOL. I just asked him if he loved me. He said girl, you know I do.
Sex is private. I don't talk sex with anyone. My business only. But no matter, he'd NEVER EVER leave me for someone else.
When you have trust like that, your marriage can last forever.

Anonymous wrote:More than 35 years for me. Never really had a rough patch.

+1 same here. my DW deserves all the credit.

Anonymous wrote:You’re happily married for the long term until you’re not. It’s like flipping a light switch when it happens.

No. It isn't like that at all...especially for those of us at 20+ years. Marriage has ups and downs. Happy couples ride them out.

Anonymous wrote:So I guess a follow-up question...those of you who consider your marriages happy, why do you read this forum? Do you check each thread to make sure you aren't married to the OP?

Because it pops up on recent topics. And sometimes it is a good reminder to appreciate what I have, and to let go of the small things before they become big things.

Anonymous wrote:So I guess a follow-up question...those of you who consider your marriages happy, why do you read this forum? Do you check each thread to make sure you aren't married to the OP?

This forum isn’t solely for struggling and broken relationships

Anonymous wrote:23 years and the happiest we’ve ever been.

Same!

So I guess a follow-up question...those of you who consider your marriages happy, why do you read this forum? Do you check each thread to make sure you aren't married to the OP?