Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:28     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:Classic DCUM: OP posts about her MIL making rude, passive-aggressive comments and the thread devolves into an argument about what constitutes an appropriate use of paper towels and cloth napkins.

Keep on keepin’ it real! 😂


Ok, how about this - OP you sound selfish and ungrateful. You should be thankful you have family to visit. How original, trashing on your MIL!
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:24     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:Do folks really have cloth napkins for everyday dinners? That’s just odd to me.


We do. We were going through so many paper towels before, so wasteful. It’s easy to throw the cloth napkins in the laundry
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:23     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Classic DCUM: OP posts about her MIL making rude, passive-aggressive comments and the thread devolves into an argument about what constitutes an appropriate use of paper towels and cloth napkins.

Keep on keepin’ it real! 😂


Yes, but what is there to say. MIL is passive aggressive and awkward. There. Done. But OP and her family have some habits that are . . . noteworthy, and not in a good way. And while I don't think people care a lot about the Lego thing, the paper towel thing instead of napkins and wiping plate thing with the paper towels is odd.

And frankly, there are things that I have done (mainly said) that never occurred to me were off until I read other people posting about the same thing and reading the reaction. I personally find it helpful.


I did not find that odd at all. We don’t do that in our home but it definitely doesn’t seem notably odd or like some thing I would even notice. And I know very few families with kids that use cloth napkins. Again, I wouldn’t find it strange or odd if you did but also very common for families to use paper towels.

It sounds like she enjoys making passive aggressive digs. Very annoying but I would just completely ignore them or laugh it off
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:16     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s so weird about wiping the food from a dinner plate into the trash using a paper towel? It’s not perhaps the most common practice but why is objectionable?


I'll set aside that OP isn't composting and is just tossing everything in the trash, but why not just use silverware to scrape off the plates?


Why not just use the paper towels?
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:14     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your paper towel thing IS weird. Why can't you use the silverware to scrape plates and thus have less waste? It's a bit trashy to not use napkins.

It’s trashy not to use cloth napkins, PP. I hope you’re not being trashy, even on Pizza Friday.


It's trashy to try and make yourself look good by posting weird comments about cloth napkins.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:12     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
We use a mix of cloth and paper towels. We never buy the paper napkins. On nights we use paper towels we usually jokingly refer to them as the heirloom napkins.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:11     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:What’s so weird about wiping the food from a dinner plate into the trash using a paper towel? It’s not perhaps the most common practice but why is objectionable?


I'll set aside that OP isn't composting and is just tossing everything in the trash, but why not just use silverware to scrape off the plates?
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:05     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like MIL is just more formal and less casual. Toys in the family for display purposes and paper towels as napkins is probably tacky to her. She should just keep it to herself, but it shouldn't be a shock to OP, who should be well aware they are very different people.


So? You don’t walk around harping on other peoples harmless choices unless you’re a dick.


So? Body slam her and kick her our. Or just ignore. My grandparents thought a lot of what my mom did was weird or informal, and that we kids didn't dress up enough. They were of a different era. There are generational differences all the time. It's easy to roll the eyes and ignore or say "Oh Barb, things are different these days."


Fine. Just as easy for her to stop making rude comments. OP didn’t start the bad behavior here.


So she can put her big girl panties on and speak up. Is that really that hard?


In my family, I just wrote about above? Yes. If I tried to have a serious conversation, the "jokes" will double. If I pretend to take them seriously, they get tired and stop.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 17:03     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Sounds like my whole family OP, they are mostly petty critical b**ches who use humor as an excuse.

I say things like: I'm glad you have your paper towel! They are so convenient. Or, we know you like the "cartoon room" so much because you are always talking about it, let's go in there to watch TV. Etc.

They hate it when you don't "get" the "joke."
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:50     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like MIL is just more formal and less casual. Toys in the family for display purposes and paper towels as napkins is probably tacky to her. She should just keep it to herself, but it shouldn't be a shock to OP, who should be well aware they are very different people.


So? You don’t walk around harping on other peoples harmless choices unless you’re a dick.


So? Body slam her and kick her our. Or just ignore. My grandparents thought a lot of what my mom did was weird or informal, and that we kids didn't dress up enough. They were of a different era. There are generational differences all the time. It's easy to roll the eyes and ignore or say "Oh Barb, things are different these days."


Fine. Just as easy for her to stop making rude comments. OP didn’t start the bad behavior here.


So she can put her big girl panties on and speak up. Is that really that hard?
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:49     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
What’s so weird about wiping the food from a dinner plate into the trash using a paper towel? It’s not perhaps the most common practice but why is objectionable?
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:48     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like MIL is just more formal and less casual. Toys in the family for display purposes and paper towels as napkins is probably tacky to her. She should just keep it to herself, but it shouldn't be a shock to OP, who should be well aware they are very different people.


So? You don’t walk around harping on other peoples harmless choices unless you’re a dick.


So? Body slam her and kick her our. Or just ignore. My grandparents thought a lot of what my mom did was weird or informal, and that we kids didn't dress up enough. They were of a different era. There are generational differences all the time. It's easy to roll the eyes and ignore or say "Oh Barb, things are different these days."


Fine. Just as easy for her to stop making rude comments. OP didn’t start the bad behavior here.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:46     Subject: Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like MIL is just more formal and less casual. Toys in the family for display purposes and paper towels as napkins is probably tacky to her. She should just keep it to herself, but it shouldn't be a shock to OP, who should be well aware they are very different people.


So? You don’t walk around harping on other peoples harmless choices unless you’re a dick.


So? Body slam her and kick her our. Or just ignore. My grandparents thought a lot of what my mom did was weird or informal, and that we kids didn't dress up enough. They were of a different era. There are generational differences all the time. It's easy to roll the eyes and ignore or say "Oh Barb, things are different these days."
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:45     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
Anonymous wrote:You people are so sensitive and mean nasty. Always making everything personal and fight worthy. It's shameful.
Why not just laugh, be silly and make the visit something everyone can enjoy.
Don't let your kids see or feel your negative vibes. It's their Grandma.


Or maybe Grandma could stop setting negative vibes by making fun of the home she’s being hosted in for several days. How about grandma set an example of being a gracious guest and a generally positive person? Hmm?
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2022 16:44     Subject: Re:Why does MIL make fun of everything?
You people are so sensitive and mean nasty. Always making everything personal and fight worthy. It's shameful.
Why not just laugh, be silly and make the visit something everyone can enjoy.
Don't let your kids see or feel your negative vibes. It's their Grandma.