Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:48     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
also, like you I meet people outside or through sports — not on my computer. Some it refreshing. Go for it!!
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:45     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Not too much of a difference

I am newly divorced and finding younger men sensitive, kind, and overall amazing.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:38     Subject: Re:Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP that’s too old. I was married to someone 11 years older. It feels good when you are 30 and he’s 41. But as you age, the difference in life tempo, retirement plans, the mentioned ED kicks in, inflexibility of decision making thats very common for 50+ men. Some men are ok in their 50-60s but others show mental change and decline that makes your life with them very difficult. We divorced. A friend of mine married 30+ older man: she appreciates him as a friend but fights a lot over inheritance with his older kids, he won’t show her the will, he has walking problems, breath stinks and very limited sex life after he turned 70 (and she still needed it at her 40).



I mean stinky breath is an issue at any age. Wouldn't be less of a problem if they were only 2 years age difference

I wonder if there's a difference between gen x men in their 50s and 60 s vs people who dated Boomer men.


You are wrong, aging makes many medical and bodily functions worse. OP is so young. Somehow it just happens that much younger women date older men when the latter are wealthy. Even if they claim they are not for money. Yes, I wasn’t for money with my ExH but it did help him to win in dating competition. It does help when women sense the date has financial stability as it resolves many future problems
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:36     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t do it. And I think you know that you shouldn't do it either, or you wouldn't be asking



My viewpoint is a bit skewed. Someone who's just a few years older doesn't exactly seem old too me, and we have stuff in common.

But he's also a father of an adult daughter who's just about a decade younger than me which is odd for me even if I don't want anything serious
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:32     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:You’re both at the exact age for your sex when you can’t afford to be too picky. Sounds like a perfect match.


+1
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:31     Subject: Re:Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:OP that’s too old. I was married to someone 11 years older. It feels good when you are 30 and he’s 41. But as you age, the difference in life tempo, retirement plans, the mentioned ED kicks in, inflexibility of decision making thats very common for 50+ men. Some men are ok in their 50-60s but others show mental change and decline that makes your life with them very difficult. We divorced. A friend of mine married 30+ older man: she appreciates him as a friend but fights a lot over inheritance with his older kids, he won’t show her the will, he has walking problems, breath stinks and very limited sex life after he turned 70 (and she still needed it at her 40).



I mean stinky breath is an issue at any age. Wouldn't be less of a problem if they were only 2 years age difference

I wonder if there's a difference between gen x men in their 50s and 60 s vs people who dated Boomer men.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:31     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.


You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.


I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.


I'm 57 and dating an amazing 23 year old. She just likes older men. She doesn't seem to be into it for the money, and doesn't want to have children.


Of course both genders prefer younger partners (if they can attract one for LTR). That’s very understandable you enjoy your 27 yo partner a lot. I was a sweeping beauty and a sex bomb in my 20s so my 11 years older exH just couldn’t resist. He was also much wealthier than my dates of similar age and just showered me with high level courting. Once we married it scaled back.

The real question is where your young partner equally enjoy the relationship when you are 70 and she’s 40.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:28     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am newly 39, and my mom is 64. I wouldn’t date someone less than a decade older than my parents.


Lol. I read this as you wouldn’t date someone younger than 74.


I mean isn't that what she's saying.

Anyway my parents were older when they had me so he's about 20 years younger than my mom and closer in age to my oldest sibling.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:26     Subject: Re:Is 58 too old for 38?
OP that’s too old. I was married to someone 11 years older. It feels good when you are 30 and he’s 41. But as you age, the difference in life tempo, retirement plans, the mentioned ED kicks in, inflexibility of decision making thats very common for 50+ men. Some men are ok in their 50-60s but others show mental change and decline that makes your life with them very difficult. We divorced. A friend of mine married 30+ older man: she appreciates him as a friend but fights a lot over inheritance with his older kids, he won’t show her the will, he has walking problems, breath stinks and very limited sex life after he turned 70 (and she still needed it at her 40).
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:24     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Did no one bring up Cher’s new BF yet?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:23     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:I am newly 39, and my mom is 64. I wouldn’t date someone less than a decade older than my parents.


Lol. I read this as you wouldn’t date someone younger than 74.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 07:20     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.


You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.


I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.


I'm 57 and dating an amazing 23 year old. She just likes older men. She doesn't seem to be into it for the money, and doesn't want to have children.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 06:52     Subject: Re:Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To be friends, fine. To date, no


What about carnal friends? Maybe she wants to get with him carnally.


You asked me a question and I answered. If you want sex with an almost 60 year old go for it but, if I was 38, hell no.

Wasn't op who you replied to but go off at some point if you're lucky you'll be having sex with a 60 year old.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 06:47     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.


You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.


I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.



You have issues with aging and each reply proves that.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2022 06:45     Subject: Is 58 too old for 38?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No way. I am 45. I would not date over 47. I can go younger. No way I would date a man 5 or more years older. Never.


You are uncomfortable with aging, clearly.


I do not look 45. Read my logical reasons. There is no reason to date much older unless a woman has to. There is no reason to date older than my age. I do not want or need a man’s money. That is the typical reason women date older. An older man would complicate my life logistically. No reason to deal with that when I have options of people a few years younger who would I not complicate my life with kids schedules.