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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids you're referring to, OP?

I'm very strict on etiquette expectations and I did make my child say thank you each time last night, but she doesn't get the "trick or treat" saying yet. She's 3. I seriously hope you are not judging preschoolers on this.

Hell yes, I am. If you are standing with your three year old, you need to tell her to say thank you. What is wrong with you?

The person you're responding to said they did make their kid say thank you each time last night just that her kid doesn't say trick or treat.

Yep. I'm very consistent on thank you and she did say it every time. But she has been living in a pandemic world for the last couple years and has no idea what the heck "trick or treat" is, even though I prepped her.

OP here, sorry, I misunderstood - thank you for making your child say thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids you're referring to, OP?

I'm very strict on etiquette expectations and I did make my child say thank you each time last night, but she doesn't get the "trick or treat" saying yet. She's 3. I seriously hope you are not judging preschoolers on this.

Hell yes, I am. If you are standing with your three year old, you need to tell her to say thank you. What is wrong with you?

The person you're responding to said they did make their kid say thank you each time last night just that her kid doesn't say trick or treat.

I thought she was referring to me judging three year olds, I misread.

Also, people, clearly I am not talking about your disabled children - I know some of the children that came by with their parents and I know they have no problem talking to adults, I am CLEARLY not talking about disabled children.

Anonymous wrote:I was astounded by the number of kids that were accompanied by their parents but still didn't say "trick or treat" or thank me for the huge handful of candy I gave them. Their parents were right next to them, and even they didn't say thank you!!!

If you expect a thank you, you’re not a good giver. It’s a holiday, kids are excited and forget manners, and parents are exhausted. Get over yourself.

OP, put up a lighted board with your rules on your porch next year.

Anonymous wrote:My kid is 4 and very shy. She often whispers to adults she doesn’t know. I’m sure quite a few adults didn’t hear her say thank you last night.

Some kids are shy, some are too excited/forget, some might just be rude. Whatever.

She can still say thank you. Stop making excuses because you are a crap parent.

Anonymous wrote:You say "happy halloween" and give candy because you want to give kids candy.

That's it. That's the transaction.

It's nice if they say thanks, but if you are expecting it, then you are in the wrong.

It's like giving a homeless person $20. You give it to help out. They buy food or they buy beer. You don't control the outcome. You don't consider yourself the great savior.

Thank you 🎃

Anonymous wrote:Every generation says this.

We for the last three years have had kids seeing crap adults spew. How in the world are they to understand how to treat others when literally the whole Republican party is screaming hate?

Big whoop they missed a few thank yous finally having some fun!

Good manners open doors that the finest education cannot. I judge people, old and young. by their manners or lack thereof. Big woop: If you don't teach your children to say thank you, you fail them.

You say "happy halloween" and give candy because you want to give kids candy.

That's it. That's the transaction.

It's nice if they say thanks, but if you are expecting it, then you are in the wrong.

It's like giving a homeless person $20. You give it to help out. They buy food or they buy beer. You don't control the outcome. You don't consider yourself the great savior.

I stand there and remind my kids to say tot and thank you. But some kids are shy and some parents weren’t trained themselves, and that’s ok!

In my neighborhood we have parents on video directing children to steal entire candy bowls and decorations. Now that riles me up.

My kid is 4 and very shy. She often whispers to adults she doesn’t know. I’m sure quite a few adults didn’t hear her say thank you last night.

Some kids are shy, some are too excited/forget, some might just be rude. Whatever.

Oh man this gives me so much anxiety. I feel like I spent all of last night lingering over 3.5 yr old DD reminding her to say thank you. She’s usually a polite kid but it just doesn’t stick for Halloween.

Anonymous wrote:One house we went to was making kids recite a poem or do a dance in order to get candy.

That’s creepy and weird and would make me so uncomfortable as a parent. Gross. It sounds like grooming.

One house we went to was making kids recite a poem or do a dance in order to get candy.

We do not expect good manners from ex-POTUS Donald Trump, so we should not expect good manners from kids. Especially if their parents are deplorables.

Rudeness is ok. Worry about these punks becoming mass shooters.

I encountered the best manners of the past 5-7 years. The children were friendly and chatty, adults on the sidewalk were lovely and lingered to say thank you, and big kids all had something nice to say other than Trick or Treat. I have a lot of negative things to say about kids’ behavior in general, but nothing related to last night!

My dog is a protective breed originally bred as a watchdog and usually hates the doorbell and most visitors. He has a sixth sense about unpleasant and rude people. He was the most mellow I’ve ever seen him and cried at the door during a long lull in trick-or-treaters. If he approves of the kids, I approve!