The most surprising part of these responses is the enthusiasm for greeting cards.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a thirty year old who already owns your own home, it’s tacky. It’s also greedy. Am I invited because you want to share your special day or because you need a set of dishes? Sell tickets if that’s the case.

1) An invitation is an invitation, not a summons. If you don't want to attend a wedding of a 30+ yo, don't attend.
2) You can also choose to ignore the registry and give whatever you like, or give nothing at all (it would be tacky to not at least give them a card, you can purchase those for <$5). Others though, would like a little guidance on what to get the couple and appreciate having a registry available.

+1

The bride and groom are well aware that they aren't going to please everyone.

If you hate weddings that much, or are jealous of the couple, whatever - stay home and do everyone a BIG favor!

No, dear. We're not "jealous" of tacky people. We pity them.

Anonymous wrote:Anything and everything. Seriously. You don't deserve presents just because you got married. You did nothing to earn them. It's not an accomplishment like getting a promotion or advanced degree.

Do you apply this very logic to birthdays, anniversary’s & Christmas as well?? 🎁

I am invited to the wedding of a family friend, and their registry is unbelievable. They are both in their 30s and are well-established, with good jobs. They've been living together for over five years, so they already have a lot of the essentials. Their registry is ridiculous:


1. The cheapest item on the registry is $200.

2. They have appliances (a refrigerator and a stove) on their registry. Appliances?

3. They put gift cards on their registry, with a note that says," Don't ruin our memories, build our memories." The gift cards are all for $250+

4. They put lingerie on their wedding registry. Yes, lingerie.

5. They have weird stuff on their registry, including a cat litter robot and a suit of armor statue.

6. They requested that all gifts be wrapped in only solid black or solid silver paper. WTF?



It is too much for words. If I could link the registry without disclosing who they are, I would do so, for it is so outrageous that it seems fictional. Sadly, it is very real.

Oh, I thought of another tacky item I saw. This couple asked for funds to pay for the bride’s law school tuition, along with a sanctimonious diatribe about the type of non-profit law she would be practicing. I guess they didn’t take in enough, because this was five years ago and the person never went to law school!

Anonymous wrote:Adult toys
Lingerie
Coupon for Boudoir photos

Hopefully they don't need that kind of help, if they are just getting married.

Adult toys
Lingerie
Coupon for Boudoir photos

I'm not donating towards a house down payment for a couple that earns much more than I do.

Anonymous wrote:Anything but a nice check in a nice wedding card at a wedding is tacky.

No ones needs a toaster oven

x10000000

Anything but a nice check in a nice wedding card at a wedding is tacky.

No ones needs a toaster oven

Tacky

$1000 for a dog bath

$500 towards honeymoon

$1500 a piece luggage

No gift under $200.

Anonymous wrote:funding for things like the honeymoom. I saw one that had specific experiences you could pay for on the honeymoom, like Scube diving or horse back riding. Super tacky. Also, "new house fund" kind of thing. People will give you money anyhow so you don't need to be so in your face about it.

I actually have no issues with the honeymoon funds, especially for couples who have all of the household items they need and have no use nor desire for china/silver. What is the difference between giving cash that they can use to buy the experience or buying the experience itself? Registries are not meant for what you want to give someone, its meant for what they want. Just give cash and ignore the registry if you want to. But no one wants another bowl, vase, etc. when they have all of that stuff already. It's nice to have a treat on your honeymoon after the stress of planning a wedding.

And BTW, I got married before this was a thing so I'm not defending my own choices.

Anonymous wrote:I would say treating it like a Christmas/birthday wish list. For example: a couple I knew had an Xbox and a 3D printer on their registry. I didn’t think it was appropriate.

My cousin had a $1,500 fat tire bicycle on his.

funding for things like the honeymoom. I saw one that had specific experiences you could pay for on the honeymoom, like Scube diving or horse back riding. Super tacky. Also, "new house fund" kind of thing. People will give you money anyhow so you don't need to be so in your face about it.