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Anonymous wrote:It's funny to me when posters opine to say "this is new" or "this is because of social media" in such a definitive way. Like, their experience defines all experiences.

HoCo was pretty big when I was in HS in the 90's. It doesn't appear to be a bigger deal now than it was then. It doesn't appear to be lesser deal either. I think it depends on where you grew up.

Yeah, I totally agree with this PP. I graduated from HS in the early 90s and went to school in the DC suburbs. Homecoming was definitely a big deal and everyone I knew went--either with dates or with friends. Yes, people post about it on social media now, but it's not like that's suddenly made it a big deal around here. In many parts of the DC region it always has been a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:The girls are often more interested in the homecoming dance. A chance to dress up. The boy’s consider a sport coat to be painful 😬

Overall generalized sexist remark

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Anonymous wrote:The idea of a hoco prom-posal, renting a party bus and skipping the dance entirely is so foreign to me. What even is the point?

Our neighbor rented the longest limo I have ever seen. Big enough to fit then entire cheerleading squad.

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Anonymous wrote:Why it's something you should value:

It's a way for kids to "lean in" when it comes to school and social life, as opposed to being a community outsider or cynic. Do you want to be a part of the community or someone who is too aloof and snotty to participate? It's something ecumenical that the band kids, the theatre kids, the football players, and others can all be a part of. What's so bad about that?

Separately, today's HS kids missed out on so much socializing because of COVID and have a ton of catching up to do in order to get to their normal social developmental stage. These are the times when they learn to ask someone out, to organize their friends into a group, to celebrate as a group, to belong. It's much lower stakes than prom, so think of it as a practice opportunity. As a parent of a college student, I encourage all HS parents to support their kids learning how to do all of this safely and at least somewhat soberly so that they don't arrive at college in a year or two and lose it when faced with the need to do this on their own. The vomiting, passing out, hooking up, and what not is out of control, above and beyond the normal freshman year of college stupidity, and I'd guess it has to do with COVID.

LOL, it's usually the opposite. All the popular kids go, and the nerdy kids who are outsiders don't.

No one said it's "bad", just why is it such a huge deal.

were you one of those who made it a huge deal?

HS is not a huge deal. We need to stop encouraging kids to make every social thing in HS such a huge deal. My kids are going, but it's not a huge deal to them.

I laughed out loud at the PP's "Do you want to be a part of the community or someone who is too aloof and snotty to participate?" Please! Some kids don't go for various reasons. I bet you were one of the girls in HS who questioned kids who didn't go to inconsequential dances as missing a monumental moment in their childhood. Have some perspective.

I thought this was hilarious, too, especially the implication that going to Homecoming is the only way to be part of the community. I'm glad people enjoyed Homecoming, but it wasn't my thing. I loved dance and art, and spent a lot of time at my dance classes. My "community" at school were the art and theater people. I enjoyed creating sets and making costumes for plays. You can be part of the "community" at school in many different ways, and make memories in different ways.

So you were a geek and the dances were a no go for you.

Anonymous wrote:It's funny to me when posters opine to say "this is new" or "this is because of social media" in such a definitive way. Like, their experience defines all experiences.

HoCo was pretty big when I was in HS in the 90's. It doesn't appear to be a bigger deal now than it was then. It doesn't appear to be lesser deal either. I think it depends on where you grew up.

Anonymous wrote:Hoco aound here is super weird to me.

I grew up in NY and homecoming was all about school spirit. We kicked it off with a pep rally. Each grade created a huge float and we had a parade through town. Football games were well attended by sober students who wanted to cheer on the team more than yell at freshman who are sitting in the "wrong spot". The dance was that evening and people dresses cute, but none of this mini-prom stuff that goes on here. People didn't go out to the country club or rent a party bus. Seeing groups of girls and boys with their dates all lined up is so different.

I liked my smaller hometown homecoming a lot more.

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Anonymous wrote:Why it's something you should value:

It's a way for kids to "lean in" when it comes to school and social life, as opposed to being a community outsider or cynic. Do you want to be a part of the community or someone who is too aloof and snotty to participate? It's something ecumenical that the band kids, the theatre kids, the football players, and others can all be a part of. What's so bad about that?

Separately, today's HS kids missed out on so much socializing because of COVID and have a ton of catching up to do in order to get to their normal social developmental stage. These are the times when they learn to ask someone out, to organize their friends into a group, to celebrate as a group, to belong. It's much lower stakes than prom, so think of it as a practice opportunity. As a parent of a college student, I encourage all HS parents to support their kids learning how to do all of this safely and at least somewhat soberly so that they don't arrive at college in a year or two and lose it when faced with the need to do this on their own. The vomiting, passing out, hooking up, and what not is out of control, above and beyond the normal freshman year of college stupidity, and I'd guess it has to do with COVID.

LOL, it's usually the opposite. All the popular kids go, and the nerdy kids who are outsiders don't.

No one said it's "bad", just why is it such a huge deal.

were you one of those who made it a huge deal?

HS is not a huge deal. We need to stop encouraging kids to make every social thing in HS such a huge deal. My kids are going, but it's not a huge deal to them.

I laughed out loud at the PP's "Do you want to be a part of the community or someone who is too aloof and snotty to participate?" Please! Some kids don't go for various reasons. I bet you were one of the girls in HS who questioned kids who didn't go to inconsequential dances as missing a monumental moment in their childhood. Have some perspective.

I thought this was hilarious, too, especially the implication that going to Homecoming is the only way to be part of the community. I'm glad people enjoyed Homecoming, but it wasn't my thing. I loved dance and art, and spent a lot of time at my dance classes. My "community" at school were the art and theater people. I enjoyed creating sets and making costumes for plays. You can be part of the "community" at school in many different ways, and make memories in different ways.