Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 16:22     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:Two adults marrying each other should pay for their own wedding, if they insist on having one. I would not pay for any of my children's weddings, doesn't matter which gender they are, because my children can totally pay their own way in life. I didn't raise them to ask for handouts.


Hope you get invited!
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 15:55     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Two adults marrying each other should pay for their own wedding, if they insist on having one. I would not pay for any of my children's weddings, doesn't matter which gender they are, because my children can totally pay their own way in life. I didn't raise them to ask for handouts.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 15:20     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:I have three daughters and I believe 100 percent Father of Bride pays.

But the rules when that was in effect the grooms side pays rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, groom comes in debt free no student loans and the Groom traditionally provides a home and if wife decides to be a SAHM support her. And of course Groom has a good job and a good person with right values.

My brother married a pretty nice girl around four years younger, he was 29 she was 25. Her blue collar parents paid.

Well that was 30 years ago. She has not worked in 25 years. Drives a brand new Lexus, belongs to two country clubs at her primary and Florida home. My brother helps out in-laws both financially and physically. Paid all colleges. Hosts all holiday parties. Even pays for in-laws tickets for vacation.

But makes a lot. It was an investment and their community college pretty daughter is by far the richest person on their side of family.



Do you live in the dark ages?

No this is absurd.

"right values" what are you the morality police?

Whose "right values" yours? OMG NO
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 15:12     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bride price should also be dropped. There is no reason for the groom's family to give money, land, cattle to the bride's family.


LOL +1

It's an outdated concept and the underlying reasons are no longer in play. Also, the bridal industrial complex has gotten out of hand and weddings have become ridiculously expensive.


I brought 3 horses to my marriage, but they are more of a liability.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 14:28     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bride price should also be dropped. There is no reason for the groom's family to give money, land, cattle to the bride's family.


LOL +1

It's an outdated concept and the underlying reasons are no longer in play. Also, the bridal industrial complex has gotten out of hand and weddings have become ridiculously expensive.


And there is no need for an engagement ring anymore either. It’s all financially silly.


I love my ring. It is beautiful and frankly the only gift my husband has given me that I use every single day along with my wedding band.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 11:00     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bride price should also be dropped. There is no reason for the groom's family to give money, land, cattle to the bride's family.


LOL +1

It's an outdated concept and the underlying reasons are no longer in play. Also, the bridal industrial complex has gotten out of hand and weddings have become ridiculously expensive.


And there is no need for an engagement ring anymore either. It’s all financially silly.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 09:13     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:Bride price should also be dropped. There is no reason for the groom's family to give money, land, cattle to the bride's family.


LOL +1

It's an outdated concept and the underlying reasons are no longer in play. Also, the bridal industrial complex has gotten out of hand and weddings have become ridiculously expensive.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2022 07:09     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was the bride, and my parents paid for the wedding, but that was because they wanted the wedding. My DH and I were fine with just signing papers at the courthouse and being done with it. We went through with the wedding because it made my parents happy.


I got married fairly young and my parents paid for all of it, but they also planned almost all of it. Like this poster, I would have been very happy not having a reception at all or doing something small. Other than a small handful of friends, they invited who they wanted. They toured wedding venues without us and narrowed it down to two which then I saw. The wedding was more for the extended family, not for us.


+1. Most of the people at my wedding were my parents’ friends. It was an event for them, not for me, so I was happy that I wasn’t paying for it.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2022 23:44     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Because man more important.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2022 23:42     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
In my culture it is traditional for the bride’s family to pay for almost the entire wedding, and they are expected to accept a lot of demands from the groom’s family. It caused a lot of stress for my grandfather who had to marry off 5 daughters on a modest income.
My generation didn’t want to put our parents through similar situations. Our parents did what they could comfortably afford and we paid for the rest.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2022 23:41     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Times have changed. Men aren't usually expected to financially support their wives the rest of their life. But if a bride expects that, and if her parents can at least pay for the wedding, great.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2022 23:27     Subject: Re:If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Assuming anyone’s parents are paying and both sets of parents have the money, bride’s side should handle day of wedding and groom’s side should handle the previous night. In all three weddings we’ve been involved in recently, the expenditures were very similar, as the entire guest list was invited to an expensive rehearsal dinner/welcome party.


This is the Christian US WASP concept of rehersal and actual wedding. No. Just stop with this.



As a US Christian WASP I am fine with living out my culture and I find it odd people want to bully it out of me.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2022 23:24     Subject: If you think bride's parents should pay for the wedding - why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was NEVER Brides parents it is Father of Bride.

Does anyone really think last huge fancy wedding I went to the Mom of Bride who has not worked in 25 years was paying.


Just stop with your ultra-misogynist stance. We can tell every time you post that you're a weird incel.


The Father of Bride who pays does the speech at wedding so we all know who paid.