My DS’ female nurse practitioner (family practice, he’s never gone to a pediatrician) has never felt his genitals. I’m surprised it seems so standard. He’s 15 and is fine with a female NP. It never occurred to me he wouldn’t be.

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Anonymous wrote:At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

I just had my first one. It's so not a big deal.

Male or female Dr. ?

Male.

Just try explaining the accidental “rose to attention” under those circumstances.

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Anonymous wrote:I just asked my son who's 14 and still sees a woman (and she's thorough) if it bothered him and he said "I'd rather have a girl feeling my junk than a guy" so take that as you will.

Do boys regularly get their "junk" felt at the pediatrician? That's never happened for my daughter.

They never even looked at my "junk" when i was a kid but they did try to talk me into it at every annual check up.

wdym? what would they say, and you would just decline?

They tried to explain why they needed to do the exam and i just said no.

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Anonymous wrote:I just asked my son who's 14 and still sees a woman (and she's thorough) if it bothered him and he said "I'd rather have a girl feeling my junk than a guy" so take that as you will.

Do boys regularly get their "junk" felt at the pediatrician? That's never happened for my daughter.

They never even looked at my "junk" when i was a kid but they did try to talk me into it at every annual check up.

wdym? what would they say, and you would just decline?

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Anonymous wrote:I just asked my son who's 14 and still sees a woman (and she's thorough) if it bothered him and he said "I'd rather have a girl feeling my junk than a guy" so take that as you will.

Do boys regularly get their "junk" felt at the pediatrician? That's never happened for my daughter.

They never even looked at my "junk" when i was a kid but they did try to talk me into it at every annual check up.

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Anonymous wrote:At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

I just had my first one. It's so not a big deal.

Male or female Dr. ?

Male.

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Anonymous wrote:At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

I just had my first one. It's so not a big deal.

Male or female Dr. ?

My DS's pedestrian is a lady. He had a problem with his foreskin and he trusted her to take a look and recommend a surgeon. And he is a pretty modest kid who did not even show a picture of his problem to my DH or to me.

Anonymous wrote:At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

Yeah, the male genital exam without the prostate check (so what the female pediatrician will be doing) literally only takes thirty seconds if everything is healthy. They feel each ball, make him cough twice, and pull back the extra skin if he still has it. She doesn't even make my son get fully undressed, she just holds down the front of his underwear with one hand and does the exam with her other. It's not like getting a pelvic exam where is a whole process, it's thirty seconds of minor embarrassment once a year, boys can handle it.

Anonymous wrote:At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

I just had my first one. It's so not a big deal.

At least he won’t have to endure the dreaded prostate exam until his 30s or 40s

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Anonymous wrote:We've been seeing the same pediatrician since my son was born. When he was 12 or 13 he mentioned that he was kinda embarrassed to be having a woman see his boy parts, to which I reminded him that she's been seeing his boy parts for so long that she's literally who did his circumcision as a baby. That shut him up LOL

Would you have responded that way if it was your daughter who mentioned being uncomfortable having a male doctor? I feel like the bottom line with this issue, boy or girl, is to let your kids decide whether they prefer a male or female doctor and not to downplay any discomfort they express. If my daughter said to me she was uncomfortable with a male doctor checking her private area my response wouldn’t be well he’s been seeing them since you were a baby so deal.

Honestly, no, I probably wouldn't. Sorry if that makes me sexist or whatever, but a girl being genuinely uncomfortable with a male doctor is different then a boy thinking it's a little awkward that a woman's the one making him turn his head and cough.

Why is it that your daughter’s discomfort is genuine but your son expressing discomfort is chalked up to awkwardness? I’m sorry but this actually is sexist AF. If your son is uncomfortable he should have the right to say I want to see someone else the same way your daughter does.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been seeing the same pediatrician since my son was born. When he was 12 or 13 he mentioned that he was kinda embarrassed to be having a woman see his boy parts, to which I reminded him that she's been seeing his boy parts for so long that she's literally who did his circumcision as a baby. That shut him up LOL

Would you have responded that way if it was your daughter who mentioned being uncomfortable having a male doctor? I feel like the bottom line with this issue, boy or girl, is to let your kids decide whether they prefer a male or female doctor and not to downplay any discomfort they express. If my daughter said to me she was uncomfortable with a male doctor checking her private area my response wouldn’t be well he’s been seeing them since you were a baby so deal.

Honestly, no, I probably wouldn't. Sorry if that makes me sexist or whatever, but a girl being genuinely uncomfortable with a male doctor is different then a boy thinking it's a little awkward that a woman's the one making him turn his head and cough.

I have to agree. A girl's worst fear when she has to see a male doctor is that she's going to end up like one of the girls on the U.S. Olympics gymnastics team. A boy's worst fear when he has to see a female doctor is that he might pop an awkward boner. It's really not a comparable situation.

This is so naive. My husband was molested by his female pediatrician growing up. Whenever the child says they aren’t comfortable, you listen and find someone they are comfortable with.

I'm not saying it can't happen, or that boys shouldn't believed if it does happen, just that for 99.9% percent of boys, that's not the source of their worries about a female doctor.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been seeing the same pediatrician since my son was born. When he was 12 or 13 he mentioned that he was kinda embarrassed to be having a woman see his boy parts, to which I reminded him that she's been seeing his boy parts for so long that she's literally who did his circumcision as a baby. That shut him up LOL

Would you have responded that way if it was your daughter who mentioned being uncomfortable having a male doctor? I feel like the bottom line with this issue, boy or girl, is to let your kids decide whether they prefer a male or female doctor and not to downplay any discomfort they express. If my daughter said to me she was uncomfortable with a male doctor checking her private area my response wouldn’t be well he’s been seeing them since you were a baby so deal.

Honestly, no, I probably wouldn't. Sorry if that makes me sexist or whatever, but a girl being genuinely uncomfortable with a male doctor is different then a boy thinking it's a little awkward that a woman's the one making him turn his head and cough.

I have to agree. A girl's worst fear when she has to see a male doctor is that she's going to end up like one of the girls on the U.S. Olympics gymnastics team. A boy's worst fear when he has to see a female doctor is that he might pop an awkward boner. It's really not a comparable situation.

This is so naive. My husband was molested by his female pediatrician growing up. Whenever the child says they aren’t comfortable, you listen and find someone they are comfortable with.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been seeing the same pediatrician since my son was born. When he was 12 or 13 he mentioned that he was kinda embarrassed to be having a woman see his boy parts, to which I reminded him that she's been seeing his boy parts for so long that she's literally who did his circumcision as a baby. That shut him up LOL

Would you have responded that way if it was your daughter who mentioned being uncomfortable having a male doctor? I feel like the bottom line with this issue, boy or girl, is to let your kids decide whether they prefer a male or female doctor and not to downplay any discomfort they express. If my daughter said to me she was uncomfortable with a male doctor checking her private area my response wouldn’t be well he’s been seeing them since you were a baby so deal.

Honestly, no, I probably wouldn't. Sorry if that makes me sexist or whatever, but a girl being genuinely uncomfortable with a male doctor is different then a boy thinking it's a little awkward that a woman's the one making him turn his head and cough.

I have to agree. A girl's worst fear when she has to see a male doctor is that she's going to end up like one of the girls on the U.S. Olympics gymnastics team. A boy's worst fear when he has to see a female doctor is that he might pop an awkward boner. It's really not a comparable situation.