Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 17:22     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:I highly recommend following the research on this subject.

Spoiler: It is contrary to OP's advice.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3353314/#:~:text=Self%2Ddetermination%20is%20about%20the,nurtured%20in%20supportive%20social%20environments.

https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Parental-Control-Well-meant-Parenting/dp/0805835415

https://www.jstor.org/stable/2580355


A bunch of words, going around in circles.

People have been pushing their kids for millennia, and humanity has progressed. Look at you now, gone from the cave to the internet.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 11:08     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:

Someone should have pushed you harder, then.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 11:07     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OMG. Another thread about this? I wonder if it's the same OP starting new threads that advocate "pushing" our kids harder . . .

Also, there's a grammatical error in the subject line. "Teen" is singular, but "failures" is plural. The line should read "Push your teen if you don't want them to feel like A FAILURE."

This is not a correction I would offer my teen, unless she specifically asked me to give something a quick proofread. But I am offering OP this feedback because it seems like he or she sees great value in being "pushed" to be better. So perhaps this will help their "self-esteem" going forward?


If you learnt anything during grammar, it wasn’t subject verb agreement. Them goes with failures, not a failure. That is because them is plural.

There was an error in my title, but that was to use ‘them’ instead of him/her. Since we are gender neutral these days, grammar has taken a toll.

So the line could read:
“ Push your teen if you don't want him/her to feel like A FAILURE."

Or

“ Push your teenS if you don't want them to feel like A FAILURE."

I hope you’re not an educator.

Oh well!



+1 I noticed this too! PP was trying to get you on grammar and yet her own grammar was totally wrong! What an idiot!!!
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 10:52     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures


Someone should have pushed you harder, then.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 10:32     Subject: Re:Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Apologies:

“ Push your teenS if you don't want them to feel like failures."


NP. You'll get it eventually. Push harder. DCUM can help, since you probably can't do it on your own.


You sound incoherent. Whatever point you’re trying to make it’s not hitting home.



Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 09:53     Subject: Re:Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:Apologies:

“ Push your teenS if you don't want them to feel like failures."


NP. You'll get it eventually. Push harder. DCUM can help, since you probably can't do it on your own.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 09:29     Subject: Re:Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Apologies:

“ Push your teenS if you don't want them to feel like failures."
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 09:27     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:OMG. Another thread about this? I wonder if it's the same OP starting new threads that advocate "pushing" our kids harder . . .

Also, there's a grammatical error in the subject line. "Teen" is singular, but "failures" is plural. The line should read "Push your teen if you don't want them to feel like A FAILURE."

This is not a correction I would offer my teen, unless she specifically asked me to give something a quick proofread. But I am offering OP this feedback because it seems like he or she sees great value in being "pushed" to be better. So perhaps this will help their "self-esteem" going forward?


If you learnt anything during grammar, it wasn’t subject verb agreement. Them goes with failures, not a failure. That is because them is plural.

There was an error in my title, but that was to use ‘them’ instead of him/her. Since we are gender neutral these days, grammar has taken a toll.

So the line could read:
“ Push your teen if you don't want him/her to feel like A FAILURE."

Or

“ Push your teenS if you don't want them to feel like A FAILURE."

I hope you’re not an educator.

Oh well!

Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 10:27     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
I highly recommend following the research on this subject.

Spoiler: It is contrary to OP's advice.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3353314/#:~:text=Self%2Ddetermination%20is%20about%20the,nurtured%20in%20supportive%20social%20environments.

https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Parental-Control-Well-meant-Parenting/dp/0805835415

https://www.jstor.org/stable/2580355
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 10:18     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
OMG. Another thread about this? I wonder if it's the same OP starting new threads that advocate "pushing" our kids harder . . .

Also, there's a grammatical error in the subject line. "Teen" is singular, but "failures" is plural. The line should read "Push your teen if you don't want them to feel like A FAILURE."

This is not a correction I would offer my teen, unless she specifically asked me to give something a quick proofread. But I am offering OP this feedback because it seems like he or she sees great value in being "pushed" to be better. So perhaps this will help their "self-esteem" going forward?
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 09:53     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
Anonymous wrote:NO thanks! I decided to teach my children to push themselves instead. The kids who swing on their own go higher and have more control over their lives. Both of mine are doing just great.


Keep playing on the toddler swing
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2022 20:25     Subject: Push your teen if you don’t want them to feel like failures
NO thanks! I decided to teach my children to push themselves instead. The kids who swing on their own go higher and have more control over their lives. Both of mine are doing just great.