Op get help for yourself

You are the problem

This entire thread is f ucked up. OP is concerned about a SKINNY tween having a belly? What the f uck is wrong with you people?

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

How is eating healthy and not being sedentary encouraging eating disorders?

Quit the gaslighting. You said that you can magically be a size 2 by just eating a healthy diet and exercising. Don't change your claims when you get called out.

Yes, I said I eat healthy and exercise and I am size 2. Most people could be fairly trim with healthy diet and exercise - nothing about eating healthy or exercise is an eating disorder and it is sad the amount of people who jump to eating disorder when a healthy diet is mentioned.

Bullshit. This subforum is 100% toxic, and you're only adding to it. This mix of gaslighting and encouraging is eating disorders is out of control.

Anonymous wrote:Fat bodies are not good bodies. Soft lower bellies are fine. Her boyfriends will love it.

I have what you would likely call a fat body. I am 5'6" and 170 lbs, 22% body fat and super strong. I can out lift many similarly sized men. Though my body fat % is quite low, I don't look it. I lam soft in the lower belly and have had some cellulite on my thighs and bottom since I was a teen (I was also a competitive cheerleader and softball player at that time and practicing/training 2x day). I am healthy, I exercise regularly, have low blood pressure, low cholesterol, a low A1C number and according to my Apple Watch, average 15,000 steps/day.

Women like you have been trying to put me down my entire life for my body that appears fat to them. Sorry to get racial. I should be specific. WHITE women have been trying to put me down for my entire life for my body. WOC never do. OP, please do whatever you can to prepare your daughter to handle the emotional tormenting that is coming her way from other (likely white) girls. To the (likely white) women PPs who would encourage a tween to exercise to fix her soft belly, do some soul searching on how damaged you are and don't speak to children until you can heal your internalized body shame.

If you are also thin but have a rounded belly, it would be logical to assume she has the same body shape. Her wish to be a different shape may not be realistic.

Anonymous wrote:question: is this really just a "soft belly" or could it be bloating? I had no personal experience with bloating, and thought one of our DC was getting a little pudgy (nothing to be concerned about, happens before they shoot up) bc they were slim in the arms and legs but had a bigger belly than you'd expect based on that. Turned out it was bloating, not pudge, and was due to undiagnosed celiac disease. Yes, I sound like I am an idiot, but had never really experienced bloating myself so was clueless; I am sharing this here in case there might be others out there who are clueless like me.

(You can't always rely on the pediatrician either - they missed it as well; the CD diagnosis only came about when a mental health professional recommended screening for it due to DC's extremely high levels of anxiety (another often overlooked symptom btw).)

+1 There are lots of causes for a soft belly. She could be about to hit a growth spurt as some have mentioned. If she is really thin, her body could be protecting her reproductive organs (that happens with anorexics sometimes). It could be her genetics. It could be bloating (it was in my case before I was diagnosed with a dairy allergy). Very unlikely that exercise is the answer - if anything, fixating on this one area could make things worse (see anorexia explanation above).

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

How is eating healthy and not being sedentary encouraging eating disorders?

Quit the gaslighting. You said that you can magically be a size 2 by just eating a healthy diet and exercising. Don't change your claims when you get called out.

Yes, I said I eat healthy and exercise and I am size 2. Most people could be fairly trim with healthy diet and exercise - nothing about eating healthy or exercise is an eating disorder and it is sad the amount of people who jump to eating disorder when a healthy diet is mentioned.

This is the start of a life long body hatred, you should not be encouraging it. Also to the person who is a size 2, ok? So? People can eat the exact same thing and do the exact same thing and be different sizes and that is OK.