Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 22:05     Subject: Re:Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
One of my close friends from grad school lives about 5 minutes from me so I'm aware of lots of things related to her schedule. She just started a new job that I helped her get (wrote the LOR) and I did go over the first chance I had to get the run down on her first day at work. Big deal!

"Are you going check on them on the first day of work."
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 21:39     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what my kid's schedules are nor do I care. Full load of classes? Yes. All grades A or B? Yes. That is all I care to know about.

Signed,
mother of three in college


Yea, well Ms Smartypants I will one up you: I don’t know my kids’ schedules OR their grades and don’t care to know any of it. It’s their lives.

This is all so ugly.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 17:16     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Land the helicopter people and throw away the keys. Are you going check on them on the first day of work.


Please land the Land the Helicopter terminology. You are showing your age - It is so 2000s.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 17:12     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what my kid's schedules are nor do I care. Full load of classes? Yes. All grades A or B? Yes. That is all I care to know about.

Signed,
mother of three in college


Yea, well Ms Smartypants I will one up you: I don’t know my kids’ schedules OR their grades and don’t care to know any of it. It’s their lives.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 17:09     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Land the helicopter people and throw away the keys. Are you going check on them on the first day of work.


My parents checked in on my first day of my first “real” job (i.e. career job) — after I had been living on my own for years. There is nothing helicopter-y about it. We have conversations like most families do. “Hey, Mom. How was your first day of retirement?” Is no different.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 16:55     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Online classes wouldn't make my list of qualities for a great college schedule.


Why not?


I don't think they're as educational and enjoyable as in-person classes. Since my college student was virtual for over a year in high school, I'm happy she has 100% in-person classes at her college.


My DD thrived with online classes as Covid began. She took two of her classes this summer and made A’s. These are core classes which are basically BS and have nothing to do with her major. It works for her and a major plus!
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 16:23     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.


We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.


Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.


I call it monitoring my investment.


Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 16:15     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Online classes wouldn't make my list of qualities for a great college schedule.


Why not?


I don't think they're as educational and enjoyable as in-person classes. Since my college student was virtual for over a year in high school, I'm happy she has 100% in-person classes at her college.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 15:33     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Land the helicopter people and throw away the keys. Are you going check on them on the first day of work.


What a bunch of lousy hyperbole. Is there really a need to assess people you don't know with info you don't have? Did anyone ask you to weigh in with your omniscience? Just move on.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 14:36     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Land the helicopter people and throw away the keys. Are you going check on them on the first day of work.


Please explain how knowing your kid’s college schedule has anything to do with helicoptering? I’ll be waiting!
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 13:16     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Land the helicopter people and throw away the keys. Are you going check on them on the first day of work.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 12:42     Subject: Re:Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:NP here. My Junior managed to schedule their classes all on Mon, Tues, Wed, and has 4-day weekends. I only know this because I asked if I should schedule a fall family event so they could come, and they said they were really busy every weekend and outlined which activities were which days and shared the class schedule. (Yes, conversation is normal…)


I appreciate this, but it sucks that you have to qualify your comment. Most people I know 1) help drop their kids off at college; 2) stay in touch with their kids; 3) engage in conversation, which includes, "Hey, Mom! Look at my great schedule!" 3) help their college student navigate through life; etc. and most kids become independent, capable adults.
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 10:22     Subject: Re:Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
NP here. My Junior managed to schedule their classes all on Mon, Tues, Wed, and has 4-day weekends. I only know this because I asked if I should schedule a fall family event so they could come, and they said they were really busy every weekend and outlined which activities were which days and shared the class schedule. (Yes, conversation is normal…)
Anonymous
Post 08/20/2022 09:16     Subject: Re:Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
OP here. DD just told us she will come home the Wednesday evening after class and won’t go back until Labour Day. Having not seen her in over a month, it will be so nice to have her home. We love her having this schedule.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2022 14:17     Subject: Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.


We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.


Are you kidding me?

I was with the OP ... I have a general sense of my kid's schedule, because we chat, LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE.

This is way over the top.


When it is our investment, we have all this say and yes power over how it is spent. Want to waste our money blowing off classes to go the bars and endless frat parties and end up on academic probation or suspension, we continuously monitor our investment. He knows the parameters of what we require.


I think you are misguided if you think he's not doing those things, regardless of your "monitoring".


I think you are misguided if you think you know my son better than I do!