Does it have to be the whole week? Can it be for like 2-3 days?

My parents my kid every summer for a week. I think the week before school is off in a really great time because a lot of times camps have stopped running the week before school

If the kids wanted to go and you don't have concerns about grandparents can taking care of the kids - definitely. I have younger kids and would jump at this chance (if I hadn't already previously signed kids up for summer camp for part of that time and had kids annual check-ups/required for school enrollment that week).

If I had older kids, my only concern would be making sure they completed any summer reading/assignments if they weren't done.

Anonymous wrote:The week before school starts? Grandparents live in NJ. DH and I don’t agree on the topic so I thought I’d check what dcum thinks.

If they were willing and able, hell yes!

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

Yeah, my in-laws do none of these things. They do go to McDonald’s though!

Yes, I think that would be great.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

There definitely is a difference in the grandparents being at your house with you guys around and the kids going to the grandparents themselves at their house. I treasured the time I spent alone at my grandparents as a kid.

Unless there's something else you aren't sharing, I'm not sure why you would prevent the kids from doing this.

Even when you were 12 and 13?

I’m a DP but at 12 and 13 I absolutely would have stayed with my maternal grandparents for a week and loved it. They were “young” grandparents (just about 60 when I was 12 and 13) and they were so much fun. They had a pool, we did night swimming, late night bacon and eggs, went to the movies, etc. My paternal grandparents were older and there would have been very little to do at their house for a week. I still loved them but a week straight at their house would have been so boring at that age.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

Why is he insisting? Does he want a kid-free week?

Because they spent some time at my parents house over the summer and he ‘wants it to be fair.’

Did you spend 3 weeks total with your parents this summer? I would definitely not make my kids go if they didn’t want to.

Yes. My rising 3rd grader is at his grandparents right now.

Anonymous wrote:No. My parents who lived in England suggested this a few years ago when our kids were 9 & 10 and I wasn't up for it. Then my dad literally died that summer. If they'd been there and witnessed that it would have been terrible.

See and I would rather they have had that time with him before he died. Different strokes.

Totally depends on the grandparents and the kids:

- week before school aspect wouldnt matter at all to me
- are the grandparents begging to see kids? Are they interested and ready to make it interesting or fun? That would be key, not what DH think they want or what is mathematically "fair". Not all grandparents want tons of time in charge/
- the fact that the 12 and 13 dont want to go would be the biggest deal for me. Not sure how firm they are and how much you agree with their point of view. If my kids profoundly disliked that perspective i would listen to them

No. My parents who lived in England suggested this a few years ago when our kids were 9 & 10 and I wasn't up for it. Then my dad literally died that summer. If they'd been there and witnessed that it would have been terrible.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

Why is he insisting? Does he want a kid-free week?

Because they spent some time at my parents house over the summer and he ‘wants it to be fair.’

Life in not “fair”. Husband needs to grow up.

You could say this in reverse to the kids, though.

To me, this is all about what husband’s exact reasoning is and how he can resolve this with his wife. Does he need down time for work and want a break from the kids? That makes sense but if it’s to “bond” with the grandparents, I think two weeks in July was enough.

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Anonymous wrote:If the kids don’t want to go then a definite no!

Very true, but I blame OP for them not wanting to go. She could easily have them wanting to go if she wanted them to go. What a shrew. She might want to google all the threads where DCUM moms complain about absent grandparents.

No, 12 and 13 year olds know whether or not they will have fun at their grandparents’ house for a week without a parent’s input. It’s not like OPs kids are 5.

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Anonymous wrote:If they’ve already been for 2 weeks in July then probably not.

Dh is saying they need to spend time at the in-laws home now since those two weeks in July took place at our home and also a family vacation to the outer banks. Doesn’t make any sense to me.

Why is he insisting? Does he want a kid-free week?

Because they spent some time at my parents house over the summer and he ‘wants it to be fair.’

Life in not “fair”. Husband needs to grow up.