Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 11:39     Subject: Re:Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?




You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 11:35     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.



Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.

Yeah, but that’s your husband who has presumably committed to a whole life with you. Not an F buddy?


Husband or F buddy - I think it’s great that a woman in her 60’s is still getting it on. When I’m 60 I sure hope someone still finds me attractive enough to want to have sex with me. And I doubt the 61 years olds husband does it out of a sense of obligation.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 11:12     Subject: Re:Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?


Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:49     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Where are you finding these guys?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:46     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Of course it’s fine for you out there OP! The myth (negging) perpetuated about the decreasing desirability of older women is nonsense spewed by bitter men who can’t get laid. I’ve known so many women who’ve found love in their forties, fifties, and beyond. The misogynistic suggestion that this is an impossibility is just so tired.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:38     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.



Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.

Yeah, but that’s your husband who has presumably committed to a whole life with you. Not an F buddy?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:30     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.



Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.


TMI grandma.


You’ll be 60+ someday too, if you’re lucky.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:28     Subject: Re:Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
you go girl! your beauty is evergreen. never grow up!
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:27     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.

Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


Who says I'm banging younger men? I'm not OP, but your scare tactics are not working on me. I'm doing quite well. I'm happy meeting interesting people and enjoying life. I suggest you do the same instead of sounding like a bitter harpy on an anonymous board.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:24     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.



Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.


TMI grandma.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:17     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.



Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?


I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 10:06     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.

Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 09:48     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.


I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 09:41     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:The single one do seem to be losers. It comes out after a few drinks at the bar. I got one who's marriage was in trouble way before we met. They even separated for a year. I will give him plenty of space because I need my space. He is 3 years younger and sex is great.


So you are dating a married guy whose marriage “is in trouble”?? Does his wife know, may I ask you ?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2022 09:37     Subject: Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.


Any of them wants to marry you though?


I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.


So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.