Anonymous wrote:I encountered plenty of sorority sisters like this from rich families. She wants to please her rich family who probably fund her and paid for a bunch of plastic surgery.
This. It's the whole story. I don't get OP's claim that it's "unusual" for a woman to be both very shallow/self-absorbed and also very devoted to her rich family. In fact I think it's the norm.
I have encountered many women from well off families who were never told "no" growing up and whose parents taught them that their wealth and privilege were not the result of sheer luck (for being born into that family) but a mark of their inherent value. Of course it makes them self-centered and arrogant. And when they go into the world and not everyone treats them this way, it just deepens their commitment to their family who does.
The Kardashians are also like this -- very shallow, very committed to each other, very rich. Granted, in that family the mega-wealth came a bit later, and from the kids, but Kris was the mastermind and her kids are very loyal to that.
I am not surprised by what has happened with the Beckhams because the women I've known like this are very sensitive to not being the alpha female in their family unit. Most of the ones I know who have good relationships with ILs, their MILs are doting grandmotherly types who sing their DIL's praises at every turn and brag about how pretty and generous and smart she is. I would assume VB was likely polite and complimentary when she met Nicola (she *is* British) but I doubt it was effusive and she certainly never saw herself as a bit player in Nicola's fairy tale. The wedding dress story is a classic pissing match between two alphas and neither was willing to cede the upper hand. The are probably both narcissists, but I have more respect for VB who at least built a career and a successful business and isn't just running around spending daddy's money like that's a profession.