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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about. You sound pretty difficult and entitled. You choose to spend a lot, as you can go to the beach for far less.

We rented a house at the beach for a week, $5k is on the low end with inflation these days

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Anonymous wrote:People want more things now. Bigger houses, eating out, house cleaners, more than one car, vacations, college for their kids, etc. I don’t know if things were actually cheaper but you are not comparing apples to apples.

Consumerism is an added an expense - technology, Nike sneakers, video games, fancy vacations — but other than that most people just want what generations used to easily have. Many families used to have housekeepers including both my parents when they were growing up. They were middle clsss/upper middle class living in a regular suburban neighborhood in fairly small homes. They went to college (cheap), took vacations to California, NYC and Florida. Medical care was inexpensive. Now all that crap is cost prohibitive.

So, OP, I hear ya! Just change the subject when she talks to something you both enjoy chatting about.

Anonymous wrote:People want more things now. Bigger houses, eating out, house cleaners, more than one car, vacations, college for their kids, etc. I don’t know if things were actually cheaper but you are not comparing apples to apples.

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Anonymous wrote:There are certain topics l don’t talk to my parents about, other topics l don’t talk to friend x about, etc. If you know discussing this with her will just make you feel bad, don’t bring it up. It’s not like whatever she says will actually impact what you do.

I feel like she is judging us for not making choices that she did.

She often brings up her son in law who is a stay at home dad and how great that is for his kids and how she doesn’t think her son ( my husband) should be working so hard to get promotions.

omg she promotes fathers quitting work?? She is literally sick and toxic. I would talk to them less.

She promotes a “simple” lifestyle. That’s what gets me. There is absolutely nothing simple about the way we live.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about. You sound pretty difficult and entitled. You choose to spend a lot, as you can go to the beach for far less.

We rented a house at the beach for a week, $5k is on the low end with inflation these days

There are other ways to vacation other than expensive beach houses. You act like it's a requirement. Your MIL might be confused because she might not be sure if you're asking for money in a roundabout way to fund the exorbitant lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.

I call TROLL at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.

I call TROLL at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.

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Anonymous wrote:$5k for a beach week is not a lot.

You missed the point. It's considerably more than MIL had to pay when raising her children with one salary.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about. You sound pretty difficult and entitled. You choose to spend a lot, as you can go to the beach for far less.

We rented a house at the beach for a week, $5k is on the low end with inflation these days

Anonymous wrote:$5k for a beach week is not a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.

OP- This fixation on the expressions of a woman’s face is concerning. “She looks at me in a puzzled manner.” Seriously? This is what is keeping you up at night and enraged? You sound paranoid. You’ve given no hard evidence of her dismissing your financial state or judging you. It’s all in your head. What you have made clear is your total judgment of her.

“She seem to dreamily long for the good old days…” Maybe that wistful look is her hoping you stop blathering on about how much things cost and instead just be happy. Perhaps some therapy might help you.

You seem like you’re miserable.

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about. You sound pretty difficult and entitled. You choose to spend a lot, as you can go to the beach for far less.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you discuss money with her?

We often talk about work bc it takes up a big part of our life. It’s just hard to relate to someone who never had to work hard.

All you talk about is work, argue about money, and demean MIL who never had a job of consequence?

Some self awareness, grace, social skills, and a hobby or sport might help. Unless arguing and putting others down is your hobby/skill/job.

I’m frustrated that she lives in an ivory tower and looks at me in a puzzled manner when I discuss cost of living. We absolutely are pushing for that promotion to get us to the next level.

She seems to dreamily long for the good old days when you could be a stay at home parent and not hang by a financial string.