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Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Eh. My DH and I were *just* talking about how foggy-brained middle schoolers and high schoolers are about beauty. If you are an objectively stunning 14 year old, but nerdy, you simply won’t have the reputation of being “hot” like the sunny-dispositioned cheerleader type . Self perception influences others perception.

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Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

Not the rich ones.

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Anonymous wrote:No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

I cannot imagine talking about children, much less children I was related to, in this way. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

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Anonymous wrote:No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

I cannot imagine talking about children, much less children I was related to, in this way. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:NO ONE is cuter than my kid!