Anonymous
Post 09/27/2022 16:34     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
I would tell the parents and be prepared for complete dismissiveness/denial. But still tell.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2022 22:34     Subject: Re:MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Do tell, but be prepared for denial.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2022 01:32     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Many moms are with thier phones and not glued to thier child
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2022 01:31     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
No one asked you to push. I think you should mind your own business
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 16:41     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:This is so hard because people have very different ideas of what good caretaking includes. I’ve seen good nanny’s who actively sit with children at the playground/walk with them on the equipment, hold their hand going down the slide and would likely think not doing these things is dangerous and inattentive. I’ve also seen good nanny’s who watch from a distance and are responsible but do not interject on play unless there is a reason to.

When she let the child walk in the field was she watching the child and ready to run over if necessary? Was there anything obviously dangerous nearby? And what, specifically, is rough?

I would want to know but I’d get some more specific details so you can provide this.


+1
Some people genuinely think that keeping your distance and not hovering is better for kids, and that's totally reasonable. And it's certainly not at all clear that it's neglectful. The roughness is concerning, but I'd want more details.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 15:48     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, two nanny friends of mine (who are BTW excellent caregivers) recently went to a mom's house of another nanny at the park where we all hang to tell her about this nanny's really egregious behavior. The nanny in question has yelled at other kids (not her charges) using bad language to the point where two of the kids cried and did not want to return to the park. This nanny barely interacts with her charge but basically sits in a chair while the child plays by himself or with other kids for eight hours a day. I have never observed direct physical abuse but she is very gruff and intimidating and he has cried a number of times due to the way he was being spoken to. Believe me I wasn't sure about approaching the mom and I was not involved but the parents basically did nothing.


I applaud those nannies who took the time to rat out the bad nanny.
I'm the one who wrote this post and recently I witnessed a safety incident with an infant. This time I spoke to the parents. Parents backed the nanny. Can't make this stuff up. (Same nanny)


If it was bad (like not using a car seat) you can call cps.
It wasn't a cps type of situation and moreover if the parents don't care why more should I?



Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 13:25     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:It’s like women whose husbands flirt with you: they don’t want to know, and you don’t tell them.


They do want to know, so they can kick your ass.

Also, they know, and they have their own side piece.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 13:24     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, two nanny friends of mine (who are BTW excellent caregivers) recently went to a mom's house of another nanny at the park where we all hang to tell her about this nanny's really egregious behavior. The nanny in question has yelled at other kids (not her charges) using bad language to the point where two of the kids cried and did not want to return to the park. This nanny barely interacts with her charge but basically sits in a chair while the child plays by himself or with other kids for eight hours a day. I have never observed direct physical abuse but she is very gruff and intimidating and he has cried a number of times due to the way he was being spoken to. Believe me I wasn't sure about approaching the mom and I was not involved but the parents basically did nothing.


I applaud those nannies who took the time to rat out the bad nanny.
I'm the one who wrote this post and recently I witnessed a safety incident with an infant. This time I spoke to the parents. Parents backed the nanny. Can't make this stuff up. (Same nanny)


If it was bad (like not using a car seat) you can call cps.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 13:14     Subject: Re:MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Never again. We were helping out a friend of DN for awhile who kept farting in the car. Thought I'd never get the smell out some days.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2022 11:59     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, two nanny friends of mine (who are BTW excellent caregivers) recently went to a mom's house of another nanny at the park where we all hang to tell her about this nanny's really egregious behavior. The nanny in question has yelled at other kids (not her charges) using bad language to the point where two of the kids cried and did not want to return to the park. This nanny barely interacts with her charge but basically sits in a chair while the child plays by himself or with other kids for eight hours a day. I have never observed direct physical abuse but she is very gruff and intimidating and he has cried a number of times due to the way he was being spoken to. Believe me I wasn't sure about approaching the mom and I was not involved but the parents basically did nothing.


I applaud those nannies who took the time to rat out the bad nanny.
I'm the one who wrote this post and recently I witnessed a safety incident with an infant. This time I spoke to the parents. Parents backed the nanny. Can't make this stuff up. (Same nanny)
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 22:57     Subject: Re:MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Tell telll telllll ASAP
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2022 07:43     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:MYOB!!!


Neighbors MYOB'd when they saw a young teenager going through their trash in the middle of the night for something to eat. It was only after the girl disappeared and her body was found in a landfill that they all cared enough to tell.

If that child had been going through my trash in the middle of the night, she would have been at my kitchen table eating behind a locked door that I was guarding with a shotgun until police arrived. And if social services DARED return that child to her home, the story would be at every news station. Sometimes it takes one person to force people to care. When everyone MYOB, kids end up dead.
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2022 03:30     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your nanny seems nosey AF why is she worried about pushing a child on a swing that’s NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY?! You’re paying her to watch YOUR child not police the playground. I hope the nanny in question slap your nosey nanny on sight and your kid will now be the outcast on the playground no other nannies will want to interact with your tattletale in everyone’s business nanny and they certainly won’t want their charges playing your kid. I’d MYOB if I were you and your nanny


You’re actually creepy. [/quote

FWIW ALOT of nanny’s especially Spanish speaking ones will pretend they’re so caring/concerned and make up lies to get a nanny fired just so she can recommend a “buddy”. I’ve had this happen to me before and thankfully 2 other parents were there and told my boss that wasn’t the case- My charge nor I were even at said place I was allegedly ignoring their child and on my phone. The nanny who was working next door to me wanted her sister to have the job and not me. She got fired and started an unlicensed daycare with said sister. I’d really tread carefully and MYOB


One example is not indicative of what “ Spanish speaking“ ones do.


One example of a parent that knows nothing about Nannie’s sabotaging and lying on other Nannie’s. Please tell the mom so and while you’re at it I’d asp observe your “perfect” nanny I’m sure she’s not always 100%


You're sooooo angry and defensive. Gee, wonder why?
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2022 03:28     Subject: MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Anonymous wrote:Your nanny seems nosey AF why is she worried about pushing a child on a swing that’s NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY?! You’re paying her to watch YOUR child not police the playground. I hope the nanny in question slap your nosey nanny on sight and your kid will now be the outcast on the playground no other nannies will want to interact with your tattletale in everyone’s business nanny and they certainly won’t want their charges playing your kid. I’d MYOB if I were you and your nanny


Wow. You're not mature enough to be a parent or a nanny.
Anonymous
Post 07/29/2022 02:55     Subject: Re:MYOB or tell the parents about their nanny.
Of course you tell. I told a mom after I saw the kid’s granny slap her kid. Reporting on someone’s mother is even more awkward than reporting on a nanny, but you have to do it.