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Anonymous wrote:It’s a diary

This is such a lame excuse. If it were really a “diary,” to “save photos for myself” or “for me to remember,” privacy settings would be set to Only Me.

It’s for attention.

That's what it would be for you perhaps if you were doing it. But how incredibly arrogant to presume you understand the motivations of other human beings you do not know.

Anonymous wrote:I will preemptively say that yes, I've hidden her from my feed, but there's a mom from school (with nearly a thousand FB "friends") who posts about her kids' constipation and ingrown toenails.

I'm allowed to wonder what her thought process might be, and how her kids might feel about those privacy violations down the road.

But, yes, carry on.

Definitely one to hide in your news feed. Poor kids.

Anonymous wrote:I will preemptively say that yes, I've hidden her from my feed, but there's a mom from school (with nearly a thousand FB "friends") who posts about her kids' constipation and ingrown toenails.

I'm allowed to wonder what her thought process might be, and how her kids might feel about those privacy violations down the road.

But, yes, carry on.

In those cases, is she asking for BTDT advice?

You are obviously "allowed" to wonder about whatever you want. But, why bother? I mean, who knows why random people do like 80% of the weird sh*t they do?

Social media is a way to socialize; and IRL, some people are more outgoing, private, etc., than others. Except at the truly fringe extreme, it's just that normal range of "social-ness" manifesting itself.

I am well aware that this is going to sound like those DCUM women who are like "I am 45 and people always think I'm 20." However, my kids are very interesting and genuinely hilarious, and I post good content.

I don't post photos of the child making a sand castle and say "great day at Rehoboth!" I might post something like a video of my then-3 year old son inexplicably meowing at the water when he's afraid of it, with the caption: "can your kid do that too?" Or a video of my 13 year old explaining that she absolutely cannot get up to do chores because a cat is asleep on her lap. Or a video of the two of them arguing about which group of people has the moral high ground in a fantasy novel they both read.

And then there are goofy things, like my husband boxing with DD, my kids playing bizarre games they made up but having a blast doing it, photos of them working on fathers day cards and them laughing with each other about how bad they are, videos of my son falling asleep while he eats French fries, etc. Out of context these don't sound funny or interesting, but people always go out of their way to comment on how much they like my posts.

I do know privacy is an issue, but I ask permission, I don't post anything I think they would be embarrassed about later (which is a different analysis for each kid), if they say no, I accept the no. The account is private (I would NEVER publicly share photos of my kids) and I'm not IG friends with anybody I don't know in real life.

So yeah, I do like family and friends knowing how funny and awesome my kids are. Or I suppose being reminded about how funny and awesome my kids are, because they already know my kids in person. If they don't want to hear about it, that's fine. I know my posts aren't to everybody's tastes and I'm sure some just don't care about things my kids do.

Another reason is that it is just for me easier access to memories. I have zillions of photos on my phone but the best ones I post to instagram.

And one last reason is that I never liked it when I was a kid and I saw relatives who hadn't seen me in a while and they were all like "wow you sure grew!" and went on and on about it. All the family members have seen the kids grow steadily so they are never subjected to comments about their growth.

I will preemptively say that yes, I've hidden her from my feed, but there's a mom from school (with nearly a thousand FB "friends") who posts about her kids' constipation and ingrown toenails.

I'm allowed to wonder what her thought process might be, and how her kids might feel about those privacy violations down the road.

But, yes, carry on.

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Anonymous wrote:Using “older family members” as an excuse to ruin your kids privacy just makes you sound dumb. Creating and sharing Google or Apple photo albums is no more difficult than creating FB albums - but oh yeah, you don’t get that endorphin rush of likes and comments in your sad, pathetic life

New poster - You sound deeply unhappy. I mean this sincerely….I hope it gets better.

She has a point. I am surprised how many parents give minimize the issue of privacy on social media.

NP. She still sounds deeply unhappy. And how somebody can get sooo upset over sharing photos via instagram with 25 relatives and friends is a little…odd.

That’s not what OP is describing. Sharing big moments with close friends is not the same as posting daily to your 200 plus friends.

I know. I wasn’t talking about OP. A PP said she shares pictures of her kids to 25 friends on instagram because her MIL wants her to, and that poster went in a tirade about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Using “older family members” as an excuse to ruin your kids privacy just makes you sound dumb. Creating and sharing Google or Apple photo albums is no more difficult than creating FB albums - but oh yeah, you don’t get that endorphin rush of likes and comments in your sad, pathetic life

Ohhhh. So we need to ruin their privacy via Google instead of Facebook. Why didn’t I think of that? You’re right, I am dumb.

If that’s what you thought she was saying, yes, you are dumb.

So there is this thing called sarcasm…

Anonymous wrote:OP, I know someone who does this. She is on FB posting all day long about her kids. She has no clue how ridiculous she sounds, acting as if every single thing her kids do is the most precious/creative/smart/amazing thing to ever have been done.

It’s a head-scratcher, and sometimes comes up in conversation in the neighborhood because it just seems to narcissistic. One of the kids seems to have picked up on this because she walks around the pool like she hung the moon, disruptive in swim team practice, and just generally being annoying in the name of being “cute.”

Narcissism is precisely the correct explanation for why some folks use social media the way they do. But it's not like dealing with a narcissistic mother or something. Just block those folks and move on with your day.

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Anonymous wrote:Using “older family members” as an excuse to ruin your kids privacy just makes you sound dumb. Creating and sharing Google or Apple photo albums is no more difficult than creating FB albums - but oh yeah, you don’t get that endorphin rush of likes and comments in your sad, pathetic life

Ohhhh. So we need to ruin their privacy via Google instead of Facebook. Why didn’t I think of that? You’re right, I am dumb.

If that’s what you thought she was saying, yes, you are dumb.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a diary

This is such a lame excuse. If it were really a “diary,” to “save photos for myself” or “for me to remember,” privacy settings would be set to Only Me.

It’s for attention.

My kids are older and I love looking at small kids and cats on SM.

Anonymous wrote:Using “older family members” as an excuse to ruin your kids privacy just makes you sound dumb. Creating and sharing Google or Apple photo albums is no more difficult than creating FB albums - but oh yeah, you don’t get that endorphin rush of likes and comments in your sad, pathetic life

Does Facebook confuse you? You can unfollow or even unfriend people whose posts annoy you.

I know a lady who posts a "cute quote" from her elementary-aged kids every single day on Facebook and adds #lastname family quarantine because she's been doing it for over two years. Give it a rest!! She is hoping for her proverbial 15 minutes of fame.

It wears on me. I have one sister who does this and although I love her and adore her kids, it’s just too much.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Using “older family members” as an excuse to ruin your kids privacy just makes you sound dumb. Creating and sharing Google or Apple photo albums is no more difficult than creating FB albums - but oh yeah, you don’t get that endorphin rush of likes and comments in your sad, pathetic life

New poster - You sound deeply unhappy. I mean this sincerely….I hope it gets better.

She has a point. I am surprised how many parents give minimize the issue of privacy on social media.

NP. She still sounds deeply unhappy. And how somebody can get sooo upset over sharing photos via instagram with 25 relatives and friends is a little…odd.

That’s not what OP is describing. Sharing big moments with close friends is not the same as posting daily to your 200 plus friends.